My girlfriend had this guy "friend" from work who basically convinced her he was in a happy relationship, even though he admitted cheating on his gf a couple years Whatever right?

And, because of a couple other small things, she basically thought he was a decent friend. She valued being able to talk to him about things, especially women's issues. Yes, that's right. Women's issues. Why? Well, he was a women's studies major in college. I know, that's a little strange.

Well, anyway, they never spent much time together or talked too much for it to be something that really bothered me. But it was annoying, I'll admit. I only met the guy once and I didn't trust him.

So, the predictable part? Today he just confessed that he had fallen in love with her.

Her words? "I was SHOCKED"

 

Kinda crappy since a girl cant be nice to someone without the guy having an alternative motive.

 

Here's a pathetic e-mail he wrote her that she forwarded to me:



I hate his writing style.

 

time to bust out the steel toe boots and inprint some ridges on his ass....

 

 

you seem thoroughly surprised by all this

sounds pretty predictable, she'll probably get it again when she befriends some other guy.

 

Creepo!! Psycho!!

pathetic

 

The good news:
1. She was up front about it.
2. The guy sounds like a tool, and shouldn't be anything she should be interested in.

 

You do not fuck with another mans girl.......PERIOD!! Especially when you know they are taken.

What did you say when you found out? Does she want you to say anything to him?

I dont know if I would just laugh if off and to just take it as a compliment to my girl or do I actually wanna say something to this fuck.

 

Well, I've met the guy once. And, he is strange. He believes that because he's Asian he needs to prove, by being the polar opposite of the Asian stereotype, that he's different.



It's pathetic. He has a chip on his shoulder, and has been talking to my girl about nonsense, and she was drawn by that - in some oddball way. I honestly don't understand it, but I'm assuming it's because she has some sort of friendly fascination with quirky guys. And, it probably has to do with the fact that these guys are trying so hard just to get her attention. She falls for it thinking he's different, and ends up in this situation.

But really, although it is annoying, I can't blame the guy for having feelings for her. It's natural. But to deny reality is just foolish.

With that said, I think she has to take steps to phase this guy out immediately. I'm not enjoying someone else texting, e-mailing or calling my girlfriend as it is. Especially if he's fallen for her and expressed it.

She also has to stop being so naive about guys and their "friendship" shenanigans. This isn't the first time this has happened, and she understands that she was wrong about this guy. But this behavior can't become a pattern with her, and she knows it. Not while I'm in the picture.

 

Ya, I'm glad she was up front about it. I always am.

 

Wow, he needs to learn that Capital Letters exist.

He is a tool and your girl doesn't need this guy as a friend.

 

Many women have distinct patterns that they go through in relationships.
For exmaple, if things aren't going well in the relationship, some women start going out more frequently in order to meet guys that could potentially replace their current boyfriend. Others just change their body language and vibe to be more open to the guy friends who she knows is already into her. Hopefully this isn't the case and there is absolutely no problems between you and your girlfriend then we can weed this scenario out.

So if your girlfriend starts talking about this cool guy she’s hanging out with, pay attention to the situation. She will tell you “he’s just a friend” or “I would never sleep with him because...” Oftentimes it literally DOES NOT OCCUR to her rational mind that she might end up sleeping with this guy - for many girls it’s a straight case of cognitive dissonance. At first she might find him as a friend who's interesting, later she might actually find him attractive because his personality is quite charming.

It is my belief that the guy will continue trying to impress your girlfriend and hope one day she might fall for him. Although you cannot change how the guy feels about your girlfriend, or what he will do next. But you certainly can help change your girlfriend's mindset about him before it's too late. Perhaps you can talk to her about how to best approach the situation without any confrontation, or you can simply email or call the guy and tell him to back off.

Your girlfriend being upfront about it is the good news. It means she doesn't think much of him and is likely to think of him as "the nice guy" but keep in mind things do escalade and you might want to stop this before he takes it too far.

 

Pathetic attempt with the e-mail. Get rid of this guy fast, regardless if your gf gets mad or not. Nothing good will come out of this if he's still hanging around her.




I see a stalker in your girlfriend's future, amis...

Good luck

 

Sounds like you should pay him a visit.

 

Guys and girls cannot be friends.

 

so what she say to the dude?

 

wow, what kind of writing style is that. Internet abbreviations, spelling and grammer mistakes, wrapped up in some phony attempt at poetry.

Obviously your wife should immediately cut off all contact with this guy. This includes cheezy email correspondences. If not, I'd break both their backs.

 

I'm thinking his wife is an elementary school teacher.

 

Ya, she's cutting off contact with him for the most part. His office is literally fifteen feet away from hers, so it's difficult to cut off all communication with him without quitting her job.

And, I'm not sure how this works, but he actually works for a different company - so, I'm not sure how far her employer can go if she went to him. I doubt she would, but I'm just wondering.

 

No...

 

She didn't respond to the e-mail - but I'm not exactly sure what she said to him when he actually confessed his love ( :ghey: ). I didn't ask, but I'm assuming she just tried to be nice and not hurt his feelings. Unfortunately, she has a hard time being mean

She was pretty shocked about it. She was upset last night when we spoke because she thought she had a genuine friend who didn't have any ulterior motives or feelings for her. I think this just shows how naive she can be.

 

Hopefully she's learned that isn't possible with men.

 

He's not charming, he's weird lol.

She made me promise not to e-mail him. Whatever. It's not my place to confront this guy. She needs to step up to the plate. If she doesn't, this relationship isn't for me. The last thing I need is a girl who can't tell guys to f*** off. She has to, at the very least, make it clear to him that this has made things very uncomfortable and she can no longer keep this friendship alive.

She won't do anything with the guy. I'm sure of it. I do, however, worry that this guy might be off his rocker and might cause some sort of unnecessary drama that could affect her work or psychological well-being. I don't think he's violent or completely psychotic, but I suppose you can never be 100% sure about that either.

Ya, she's always upfront about things. Sometimes I wish she wasn't lol.

 

Keyword: hopefully

If she doesn't get it by now...

 

My ex had the same thing happen to her, She was at a party out in L.A. and some Agent hit her with some game. To make a long story short he emails her a week later I have a girl you have a bf but lets fuck message "very short version" I happend to see this message, she left it up, she never said no...We broke up from this after awhile, She called me from his house gave me some lame excuse, I won't take her back....She calls me everyday crying, begging and pleading....Moral of this story make sure she cut him, because if you find out later that she didn't you can say bye bye to that relationship....She seems really nice, like my ex....I know my ex didn't fuck but just the fact that she didn't say no to the first guy promising an audition

 

Drop her like a hot rock if she doesnt cut this crap out ASAP.

 

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