I'm in college and i've known Rachel for a little over a year now. She's tried to date a few of my asshole friends but that has never worked out for her. I hang out with Rachel and her close girl friends all the time and we have a great time together and I really enjoy hanging out with all of them, plus living in a frat house it makes me look good having a bunch of girls over in my room all the time.

I've had feelings for her for a really long time now, and she does know that. She's the exact type I go for, very cute, great personality, smart, the works. I could see myself being with her for a very very long time if we ever dated.

Rachel knows that i'm the perfect guy for her, she has told me that, she also knows that I won't dick her around like all the assholes she goes after. She thinks i'm attractive and an all around great guy.

So this is why I am very confused, even though she feels like I would be a great guy for her, she doesn't have feelings for me. She has even said that she doesn't know why she doesn't because I am so perfect for her. This is what is tearing me up because no matter what I do it just seems like a lost cause for me to ever pursue her. No matter how hard I try I can't get over her, trying to date other girls, etc...nothing works. I don't really know what to do.

Before you guys say pics, if you can give me some advice that works, I'll post them.

 

you should be an asshole to her, then maybe she will come to you.

or just straight up tell her how you feel. and make her feel that way too.

 

It's one of those things you can't explain... She is just not sexually attracted to you. Sorry, but you can't force that kind of attraction on someone.

 

You're so far into the friend zone, you're the reliable nice guy who she tells her problems to. Unless you can somehow get her to think of you sexually, then you're pretty much SOL.

 

Ahhh, the dreaded "Friend-Zone", you are fuxored. A plausible plan to break that is get extremely intoxicated with her (use the fraternity house to your advantage), and then hook up with her, take it as far as you can with her but without sticking it in. One thing I recommend to do is to smack her on the forehead with your meat-stick, make sure to leave a mark too. Whatever you do, get her aroused and bothers, but do not fuck her. Wait till the next, things should start to look up for you.

 

P.S. you are welcome.

 

.....Post pix...

 

Truthfully? If you and she have discussed it in length and she admits she feels nothing for you romantically, nothing is going to change that. And if you keep pressuring her for a romantic relationship, you are probably going to lose her friendship as well. Yes, it sucks, and you may think it not fair, but it's the way it's going to be and you're going to have to accept it. Once you do, it will be easier for you to date other women and eventually you will meet someone new and you will have the same feelings towards her as you currently have for Rachel. And just as importantly, she will feel the same about you. I had a similar experience when I was your age, and once I accepted we would never be anything more that friends, it became easier to deal with. Nearly twenty-five years later, we are still the best of friends.

Good luck. And don't bother posting pics. Remember she's a friend and might actually be offended if you did.

Terry

 

start going to the gym and take some steroids and when u see her like a year later she'll be like DAMN!

 

Exactly what I was going to say. But you say it nicer.

You are her FRIEND. That's about it. She thinks you are attractive, but she never said she is attracted to you. She feel comfortable with you, not excited by the thought of being with you. And she knows you will always be there to pick her up. She sees you as the perfect companion.

Question for you....have you dated anyone while being friends with her? Does she appear to be jeolous, or just reserved if you do. To me jeolous means you may have a chance. Reserved means she is just dealing with the fact that she may lose a friend.

If you haven't dated anyone while being friends with her, then just hint that there is a girl you are into and see how she reacts.

 

Sorry, but "she thinks i'm attractive" is BS

 

ladder theory. you are in the friends zone. good luck trying to hit that.

sorry but your asshole friends have a better shot at tapping her out than you.



start looking elsewhere and spare yourself the agony.

 

I was thinking the same thing but without smacking her with the "meat-stick" haha thats a little too much. But get her aroused and then dont go throught with fucking her.

 

@ meat-stick

hockeyman, how are the lunch dates with her?

 

Hey you never know... After enough guys it may just click in her head and she might feel differently for you. But definitely don't suddenly put the moves on her cus she'll prolly feel akward towards it. I dunno, I guess just ease into trying to become closer to her and see how she reacts?

 

She knows how I feel


I haven't officially dated anyone since i've been friends with her, but that is a good idea. The main reason keeping me from going after other girls is that I can't get my mind off her to hit on other girls. I'll definately work on that though and see what happens.


this is what I'm hoping, which is why i've just been waiting it out. I haven't ever suddenly put moves on her, i try my hardest not to creep her out.



Thanks for all the good advice so far!

 

Glad we can help, or at least try to help.



I think we deserve some pics now :P

 

^^^^



You can always try the ole...."add alcohol and see what happens" move.

 

The friend-zone is a bitch. I've never gotten out of it. Sorry bro, but you're going to have better luck meeting someone else and dating them (which might work better as far as your friend goes as posted above). My current girlfriend of almost 3 years didn't start out as a friend, we were acquaintances in high school and started dating short after.

 

In her mind you're the right guy for her, but unfortunately for you, her hormones are controlling her sexual urges. And she feels no urges for you. But you can change that by showing her you are indeed a desirable, sexual being. Prove yourself to her by dating around and having confidence and not caring so much about her, and that will probably spike her urges for you upward

 

great advice, I will definately try this. Thank you, it means a lot to me!

 

i would but she doesn't drink heavily, after 1 drink she passes out. So that's a negative.

 

No problem, good luck. Just the voice of first-hand experience speaking haha.

 

i agree with mike. show her that you are indeed a sexual being but do not come off as a pervert. just be sexy. visit askmen.com for more help that may open your eyes

 

Edited my post, Mike350Z said it best.

 

you mean positive.

 

+1, but IMO, if it's not there now, how likely will it be there later? Even worse, if it's not there now, there later, what's to say it won't go back? I've always felt you either have it for someone or you don't. You shouldn't have to "make her" like you.

But, Mike's advice is probably the best course of action. If she bites, well then you have something. If not, at least you're dating.