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Old Apr 28, 2011 | 12:20 PM
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I must be crazy, I restrained myself...

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Woman stock trader at work. She's 46 but is smoking. She's divorced & not seeing anyone regularly. I've worked with her for like 5 years.
I went to her house to setup a PC & 4 monitors so she could trade from home. She just found out she has white matter brain disease, or some form of it(Google that).
So she's trading from home while she gets treated.

Ok so I come in & she's got booty shorts on & a mid drift t shirt. She leads me upstairs, (yeah I was enjoying the view up the stairs) to setup things.
Well tech problems were abound so I was there a long time. We were talking in between things, got into her personal life a little, her fear with the medical problems, etc. She's hovering over me as I load software onto the computer, she starts to massage my neck a little at times.
So all that goes by. I'm there about 3 hours. It's 8pm by the time I'm done, & then she hits me with why don't we order pizza & eat something.
A blind person could see the signals she was putting out.
At this point I REALLY wanted to stay, but I had in my mind that....
1- She was on meds, not sure what
2 - I work with her
3 - She's friends with some of the higher up's in the company & has been trading at this firm 15 years.
4 - If this went south, I really need a job.

I hate life sometimes.
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Old Apr 28, 2011 | 12:23 PM
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You did the right thing, thinking with your big head and not the little head.
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Old Apr 28, 2011 | 12:37 PM
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If it makes you feel any better (or worse), it's possible anyone else could have been that guy. I'm a believer that sex should be meaningful, and I personally wouldn't have felt good about the whole thing.
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Old Apr 28, 2011 | 12:40 PM
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Old Apr 28, 2011 | 12:49 PM
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You made the right choice. Office relationships do not end well.
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Old Apr 28, 2011 | 12:50 PM
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Are u single?

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Old Apr 28, 2011 | 12:57 PM
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jackpot.
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Old Apr 28, 2011 | 01:01 PM
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OMG she sounds like a good time and what's this with drugs she might be on? How does that play a roll in this, or why does it matter. I get the working relationship and all tho. I don't know what I would do in this situation, but I usually tend to think with my d**k so I would have probably banged her
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Old Apr 28, 2011 | 01:06 PM
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probably would have banged her brains out.
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Old Apr 28, 2011 | 01:08 PM
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dear penthouse,

fail.
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Old Apr 28, 2011 | 03:08 PM
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I would've hit it But you certainly deserve respect for doing what you did. How is she treating you at work right now?

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You did the right thing, thinking with your big head and not the little head.
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Old Apr 28, 2011 | 03:15 PM
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Originally Posted by Anachostic
If it makes you feel any better (or worse), it's possible anyone else could have been that guy. I'm a believer that sex should be meaningful, and I personally wouldn't have felt good about the whole thing.
i read this and was like

then i realized youre not amisconception or whatever his name is. i get your two confused
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Old Apr 28, 2011 | 03:23 PM
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if i had no morals i would have f***** her ...but hey im just a big talker....props to you for not going through with it
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Old Apr 28, 2011 | 03:23 PM
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definitely props for doing the right thing, most of us wouldn't have
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Old Apr 28, 2011 | 03:49 PM
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Originally Posted by fuzzy02CLS
...
1- She was on meds, not sure what
2 - I work with her
3 - She's friends with some of the higher up's in the company & has been trading at this firm 15 years.
4 - If this went south, I really need a job.
I think you made a wise choice.



Oh, and
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Old Apr 28, 2011 | 04:10 PM
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Originally Posted by vas25tl
You made the right choice. Office relationships do not end well.



Have had opportunities..didn't take them. Although she might not have liked the rejection, so she might act different now.
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Old Apr 28, 2011 | 06:35 PM
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She's not in the office. She's working from home for a few months to take care of her medical condition.
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Old Apr 28, 2011 | 07:33 PM
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What happens when she comes back, though? Never ever deal with females in the work place.

You did the right thing.
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Old Apr 28, 2011 | 07:39 PM
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You should have nailed it...period...thats one you will think back on for years
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Old Apr 28, 2011 | 10:34 PM
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Originally Posted by NwTSXmt
You should have nailed it...period...thats one you will think back on for years

I hear what you're saying, and as fun as it would've been, look what he wrote here:

4 - If this went south, I really need a job.


Is it worth possibly risking your job, and maybe your career for? No way...plenty of other women out there besides the ones you work with.

Now if they were both teenagers working at a fast food chain I would agree with you
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Old Apr 28, 2011 | 11:47 PM
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bang her and then file sexual harassment charges against her?
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Old Apr 28, 2011 | 11:54 PM
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Originally Posted by Mizouse
bang her and then file sexual harassment charges against her?


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Old Apr 29, 2011 | 01:21 AM
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Originally Posted by Anachostic
If it makes you feel any better (or worse), it's possible anyone else could have been that guy. I'm a believer that sex should be meaningful, and I personally wouldn't have felt good about the whole thing.
^ This sums it up...
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Old Apr 29, 2011 | 06:38 AM
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Originally Posted by fuzzy02CLS
She's not in the office. She's working from home for a few months to take care of her medical condition.
perfect! so, even if things went bad in a couple weeks, she will still be out of the office for a while and the situation would have smothered...
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Old Apr 29, 2011 | 08:11 AM
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bang her and then file sexual harassment charges against her?
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Old Apr 29, 2011 | 01:28 PM
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Where is Darksom when you need him...
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Old Apr 29, 2011 | 01:53 PM
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Originally Posted by stogie1020
Where is Darksom when you need him...
Last I saw him, he was up in dem guts.
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Old Apr 30, 2011 | 01:59 PM
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sometimes i think honesty is the best policy, telling her she's on meds right now and you dont want to take advantage of her, tell her its a rule of yours not to have relationships with coworkers as you dont want anything to jeopardize your job, but casual hook ups are ok as long as she understands the ground rules...
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Old Apr 30, 2011 | 06:00 PM
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Originally Posted by leedogg
sometimes i think honesty is the best policy, telling her she's on meds right now and you dont want to take advantage of her, tell her its a rule of yours not to have relationships with coworkers as you dont want anything to jeopardize your job, but casual hook ups are ok as long as she understands the ground rules...
Planning a hookup and planning a seduction are likely very different emotional situations for a woman.
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Old Apr 30, 2011 | 08:12 PM
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Originally Posted by leedogg
but casual hook ups are ok as long as she understands the ground rules...
No...

Why shit where you eat? 9 times out of 10, things will hit the fan when you least expect it, and when they do, you're gonna get the flack at work, not her. So, even if she's crazy, and you want nothing to do with her, once she starts throwing you under the bus to coworkers, work is gonna be hell for you. All that over some pussy? no thanks..
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Old Apr 30, 2011 | 10:21 PM
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but casual hook ups are ok as long as she understands the ground rules...
Tried that once when I was around 21. By the third encounter she was "in love." Maybe older women can handle it?
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Old May 1, 2011 | 03:08 PM
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Never let Punani get anywhere close to your money. Period. Yeah, she knew what she was doing when you went over there, that's a given for sure. You did the right thing. 99% of women will do things like this, some will just tease, some will just do whatever it takes but you have to really read them. If they're expecting you to come over and is wearing booty shorts and a wife beater then a buzzer should go off in your top head that she's looking for something else. Here's a real tip to really tell which is she doing. Listen to her voice. They give off a different tone or pich when they're horny. Also look into their eyes, like really look into their eyes when talking to them. Pay attention to body movements. If they're sitting down, having their legs crossed and you noticed they're rolling their hips a lot, then they're into to you without saying it out loud. Women do a lot of subtle things we don't pick up on unless you literally look at them. Any ladies here please let me know if I'm wrong. I'm a guy and noticed just some things.
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Old May 3, 2011 | 11:33 AM
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werd... if the pie is close to your income, just pass... other pie will come...
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Old May 4, 2011 | 05:46 PM
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Definitely did the right thing by leaving!!
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Old May 4, 2011 | 05:52 PM
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Originally Posted by 97BlackAckCL
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Old May 10, 2011 | 10:35 AM
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LOL Some of you guys are such little piglets! He did the right thing by leaving well enough alone. Office relationships and personal relationships should never mix. It's got disaster written all over it 99% of the time. "Be friendly, but not friends".
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Old May 10, 2011 | 10:42 AM
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so yeah I get to go back today after work. Replacing monitors she ordered........................................... .................................................. ...................
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Old May 10, 2011 | 10:48 AM
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Originally Posted by fuzzy02CLS
so yeah I get to go back today after work. Replacing monitors she ordered........................................... .................................................. ...................
If she shows up in booty shorts again........FUCK HER
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