derrick

If no trust is there ... bail out while the gettin's good.

Mike 350Z

if it's been this long, i'd just weather the storms and forget about it b/c it doesn't seem like it's bothering her too much in the grand scheme of things

RMATIC09

Past is past, let bygones be bygones. Ultimatum her. Either she gets over what happened or the relationship ends. Simple as that.

doopstr

meh, tell her that she needs to drop it. It's not like you cheated on her. Tell her that she needs to stop hanging that over your head or you are kicking her to the curb.

Street Spirit

You can't just tell someone to "get over it" and expect their feelings to change just because you spoke those three words. It obviously still upsets her - whether or not he thinks it's reasonable for her to feel that way. Telling her to drop it won't make it go away for her...you can't tell someone how to feel. They feel how they feel. Whether you want to stick around to work through it, or would rather move on, is up to you. But telling her to get over it via ultimatum won't make a difference; She might not express how she feels as much, but my bet is she'll still feel the same way on the inside. If you want to move on, do it regardless. I wouldn't bother with the ultimatum. An explanation would help her understand why you think it's not working, but a threat/ultimatum would only make her 'change' to be with you, not cuz her feelings necessarily reflect an immediate change of heart.

ShavedH22CL

It can not be fixed. I went throught the same thing but it was switched around. She will never trust you again. If there is no trust there is no relationship.

Pull_T

You handled the initial question poorly.

My policy is to disclose as little as possible...or at least attempt to do so.

Her: "When was the last time you had sex with someone?"

My reply: "Well, I really don't want to get into that. I've had partners in the past and I'd assume you have as well. I'm with you now, so any details are irrelevant to me."

Her: (trying again to pull the info out of you)

My reply: "Look...even though I'm not with anyone I might have been with before, i still respect them enough to keep our private business private...just as I would do with us should anyone ever ask me."

Make it clear you're not trying to hide anything, but that you simply won't get into it.

RaviNJCLs

iTrader: (4)

Oh well, at least you gave it a try. Time to

studville

Cut her loose. If it happened back in May and she's still bringing it up (REGARDLESS of who's fault it is) then it's apparent that there's been no forward movement in this relationship. She keeps reverting back to the past and she will continue to do so.......forever. Relationships started out rocky like this almost 10/10 times end up in the shitter.

On another note. Guys, cut him some slack. He's in college and 21 years old. This is prime age for drama, experimentation, and all that good stuff.

Titand19

I'm gonna to have to add this to my permanant database to dodge the question. Good shit. This will be stored in my brain right behind "The Method"

97BlackAckCL

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Nice method is def #1

CUNextTuesday

College freshman = she was definitely fucking something during that "non-exclusive" stage of your relationship

I definitely think that she probably had a reason for suggesting that. It's really tough though, I had lied about something in my past with my last girlfriend and she could never get over it. She was always jealous n shit...I guess that's the baggage that comes with younger girls sometimes - immature bullshit. She may never get over it