How often do you pay for your GF's meal? Do you pay whenever you two are together (hanging out)? Or, do you only pay whenever you're out on a date?

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I always wind up paying. Just how it goes.

 

me too...i always end up paying

 

Does your GF appreciate your gesture tho? It seems like my GF is at the point where she somewhat "expects" me to pay. Do you have any suggestion as to what I can do to change that? I'm planning on talking to her this afternoon about this. I don't want to make it sound like I'm cheap, but it's kind of making my wallet quite light after five months of doing so I don't mind paying for her whenever I'm out on a date with her at all, but somehow I need to spend less.

So any suggestions are welcomed.

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my ex didnt like me paying all the time, she was a little bit of a control freak.

 

My ideal situation is when we both contribute equally...well as equally as possible anyway. He can get me and then I'll pick the next one up. I dont think its right for one person to have to pay all the time. Just tell her how you feel about it, that she should start contributing to the relationship financially...if she understands then great, if she doesnt want to cut and run. Anyone who does not want to contribute to a relationship is not worth it, especially if you express that you are hitting rough financial times.

 

Whoever has the cash pays...we never really talk about...there is just an understanding, just a blessing...

 

I'm not really hitting rought financial times, but it would be nice if we contribute equally like GeishGirl said. It was fine until I got the feeling that she's somewhat "expecting" me to pay. I guess I'll see what will happen in few hours.

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expectations at some level are needed in a relationship, but both people have to agree what they are gonna be...expectations cannot be assumed or understood...

 

Is your gf named Robin Givens? Other than specific dates where you ask her out (or vice versa) it should be a shared responsibility. You pay sometimes, she pays other times. Of course if one of you makes more than the other, the higher paid one should pay the majority of the time. It doesn't bode well for a relationship when money is already an issue....

 

It's not matter of "money". It's more of appreciation that I'm talking about. Lately it seems like she's not appreciating it, but rather she's taking it more of "expected" from me. Does that make sound?

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i buy all the groceries, so he pays when we go out.. fair no?

 

sounds like a fair trade off to me

 

a lot of girls 'expect' to have their stuff paid for them though. i mean, i kinda dont like paying all the time, but i do have the feeling also that i am 'expected' to pay, no matter what. and if i say anything about it, im' a dick. my last g/f, i kinda mentioned it to her, and she got all offended, and then whenever we would go out, she would make these smartass comments, like 'oh, you just pay for yours, and i ll pay for mine' and then she'd ask the waiter for separate checks. i didnt mean for us to have separate checks, just for her to pick up the tab once and again. i'd probably paid for 100 dinners or so, and the one time i mention something, all of a sudden, i'm a bad guy. Even though i'd drive 45 min to see her, use my gas, and then take her out. Women.

 

I would normally pay unless it was discussed prior to going out. I had a friend who expected his girlfriend to pay for stuff if they went out, which was a good way to contributing to the end of the relationship.

 

I wouldn't call her out on it, you'll probably embarrass her. Just next time you're both hungry, be like, I don't have my ATM card - got any cash? I'm dying for some [insert cash only restaurant here.] Then make a big deal about her taking you out for dinner and tell her how wonderful and sweet she is.

 

i pay as long as the girl returns the favor.......in other ways

 

Let's see . . . I make 6 figures and my g/f is a p/t teacher. Who do you think pays??? I'd have it no other way really, just old fashioned. She does cook great meals though and I never consider our "arrangement" inequitable.

 

Wow I wasn't expecting to see this many replies, thanks everyone!
Anyway I talked to my GF and it went great We've decided to split the check whenever we're just hanging out, and I pay for her stuff whenever I ask her out on a date (& vice versa). I guess I was worried for nothing.

Anyway, thanks for your input everyone!

 

If I was out of school (college) then I won't mind doing that (especially with your income). But you know you kind of have to watch how you spend the money when you're in college (or anytime for that matter), right?

 

That sounds fair to me too.

 

my kinda girl

 

If you're both in college that might explain why she understood more, since she is probably on a similar budget.

 

we must compromise to make it work...it sounds kool...

 

almost always

 

Yes, we're both college students for one more year.

 

id say i pay around 95% of the time.... i feel kinda :ghey: letting the girl pay.

 

aww u're picking up the check the first time right













jk

 

olive garden

 

u cheap bastard, but thats okay I appreciate the gesture....I'll take u to Chili's next.

 

can i order a drink?

 

one with GHB? okay lol no

 

I always paid, and I always cooked when she spent the night at my apartment since she was always broke and can't cook. It was one of the catalysts that lead to our break-up.

 

You have GHB readily available? Send Mikey some....maybe then he will date the larger women...

 

i hate it when a girl expects you to do it. I always will offer, and do pay most times, but almost every girl i have dated will offer/insist on paying after i pay like 2 or 3 times in a row. I like that gesture. Plus if they are making good money, why not let them pick up the tab once in a while.

 

The difference between middle school girls and middle age women...

 

They are all special in their own way!!

 

Yup, especially when they are retarded....they are truly special then.

 

much more impressionalbe too. that is messed up.

 

Cheap dates, park on the side of the road and ask them how they like the movie....