Ok so well I recently started going out with a girl I've known for about 5 weeks, and it's been about a week since we've started getting physical (nothing serious yet, just first base).

My question for you guys is how long do you think I should wait before aiming for 2nd base?

In my last real relationship, I got to 2nd after about 2 weeks and 3rd after about 6, but I really had to push the girl and to be honest I didn't have much respect for her.

The thing with this is girl is that I have much more respect for her, and to make things better (or worse), she's never been past first base with anyone (I'm still in high school).

Of course, I've fucked with random whores at parties, but that gets old very quick, which is why I'm back to having a long-term gf.

Help me!

 

What the hell are your definitions of "bases?" You: Make out, get head/eat her out, get laid... If you want a relationship, get the fuck out of middle school and use adult terminology.

And... it all depends on the girl.

As far as "aiming" for bases, that works a lot different if you are actually putting your relationship as the most important thing, not your dick. If you are trying for a serious relationship, you let what happens, happens. You don't go out of your way to "get laid" out of it. In a good relationship sex is something a couple shares on a deeper level than just getting their rocks off.

Mike

 

What the hell?

 

you have two hours to insert penis into her vajayjay

 

one day, homerun

In all honesty, I'd just keep going as far as I can as long as she doesn't say no or push you away. If you really like her, it shouldn't matter, take your time.

 

jesus, just go with the flow.

 

Yea my fault. I just used the terminology I'm most comfortable with without sounding like a douche, but now I realize my entire post sounds like a 12 year old wrote it.

I guess I'm just at a point in my life where I'm still a kid, but trying to grow up.

This includes my relationships with girls...I need to stop treating every girl I meet as if fucking is a possibility.

 

fucking should be a possibility with every girl you meet.

 

I agree.

How's your sister btw?

 

there is no pre set lol. im in high school to but it differs with every girl... just go with how things turn out, could be an hour to a grand slam or a year before shortstop. if you have respect for her, she should have some for you to rather than to just put her value on a preset hour or day list on when you should be able to move from one point to another.

just let her know and just see what happens. This girl could be a slow romantic or a freak. finding out is the fun

 

I am going to assume you meant that you are going to stop treating girls that you meet like they are easy, immediate scores?

If you didn't (using your baseball analogy) then trade your bat and balls in for a glove if you really think that shit...

 

the length of time between physical contact depends on the kind of girl and the kind of relationship you are looking for.


time of waiting = directly proportional ---> what kind of girl/relationship type

 

Your the only one that knows how this girl is so use good judgement and figure it out. Don't wait to long though because then she might feel that you aren't attracted to her or your ghey. Like I said before you know what you want out of it wheter its long term or short term just go with the flow and see what happens.

 

Don't worry about it. Worrying about it makes it weird. When you're old enough to go to clubs you will realize that you can screw someone within an hour of meeting them on any given weekend. For me, this takes the pressure off of the "serious" or potentially serious relationships knowing it's there anytime you want it.

For what it's worth, the best have always been the ones where we have waited. Not something we discussed or did on purpose but for one reason or another it took a month or two.

For example, there's this energy there, you both know what's going to eventually happen even if you've only known her for a few minutes. For whatever reason, friends walking in, relatives dying, whatever, but you've been close but it never happens. When it finally does a month later, it's much better than taking her home from a club on the first night. Anticipation is fun and you can think about the preceeding weeks as foreplay.....seriously.

 

Oh, and don't push them, that's the worst thing you can do. Girls hate rejection more than we do. If she's in to you and she knows you're in to her but you don't push it, it's guaranteed she's going to practically rape you once she gets insecure about why you're not trying to jump on her.

I shouldn't share this online but oh-well. I had a chick, really cute and fun that I met at a bar one night. We hit it off but toward the end, she kept reminding me we weren't going to have sex. Sex was not even a topic that night so I knew what was on her mind and I knew that she wanted to. I got so tired of her bringing it up that the last time she said it (in her bedroom) I go I know we're not, pulled out a Darvocet (there's no way it can physically happen when I take those), held it up and took it. When I explained the "effects" it had on me, she tried and tried while I was laughing. That morning when we woke up, she wasted no time taking advantage of me lol.

The moral of the story is they want it worse than we do.

 

dont have one ...

 

^ think he was talking to ifirahse lol

 

I never time anything. I just do what feels right. Don't go into it thinking ... hmmm tonights the night. Just do it. Things will naturally progress. How old are you? How old is she?

 

WHO the fuck cares, you are in high school, SMASH as much as she will let you then move on !


Base's, shit go for home !

 

Excellent word play.

 

I can't remember what it's like to be a teenager.

If that is not the case....then if you shouldn't have to ask. I think if she is a really conservative chick, then waiting is not bad. IMO, of she is willing to play ball, then you are a dumbass for not swinging away. Be careful that she doesn't pitch to a pinch hitter.

 

<----Takes notes...

 

I'm just like every batter up for bat. I go for the home run, I'll touch all the bases afterward.

 

I'll just reiterate what I think the best advice is in here.

First, don't over-think it. There is no timeline or magic formula on this stuff.

Second, if you respect her, go with the flow. You can make enough hints to let her know what you're planning - let her react and take it from there.

If you like her, time is on your side. No point in rushing or being pushy.

 

Its usually 90ft to get to first, 90ft from first to second, another 90ft to third... You're on your own with 4th, but it's 90ft from third to home.

 

 

Couldn't have said it better myself.

 

It totally depends on the outfielders' arms. Typically the rightfielder will have the strongest arm because he has to throw all the way to 3rd base to try to cut you down. So I'd wait until you hit it into a gap in left unless you bloop one down the line.

 

Once you are officially dating you should hit it within a month. Otherwise something is wrong.