I just don't get it, how do woman KNOW that you've moved on from them? I was seeing this girl last summer, it was great, she was like the PERFECT girl for me. Well as life would have it, I was more into her then she into me, to the point she was seeing other people. That didn't sit well with me and we have not seen each other since Dec. 24 of 04. Well now I am completely over her and have moved on and am courting a new girl and out of the fucking blue she calls today. Left me a message(which she never does) and just told me to call her... worst part is she called me at work(not like I get in trouble, but that takes some big balls on her part). In any case I haven't called her back. Part of me wants to just to hit it, part of my ego is getting in the way.

Rant over, thoughts?

 

hit it. I don't think there's enough emotional baggage on this situation to be scared.

 

i dunno. ex's just call me after i haven't talked to them in a while. and for some odd reason they know i'm working on another girl or with someone else.

maybe they relize what they lost

 

depends on how much you like the new girl and how things are going

 

post didnt explain what is it that made you think she knows about your moving on

 

You can call her but don't bring up the past. If you're with someone else, try to keep your conversation as neutral as possible.

I'm almost in the same boat. I was into someone and he wasn't. We decided to stay in touch but everytime we talk I keep thinking about the past.

So, if you think you can put everything behind you, call her. If you think she will cause conflict with your current relationship, don't.

 

hit it....don't baby sit it!

 

There is NO way she could have known about me moving on, which is what makes it creepy.

If any of you have ever seen the movie "Swingers" its known as the rub, I've never had it hit me like this before.

I am not really caught up with the new girl, its just convenient and she's pretty cool to hang out with so what ever happens, happens(that's a famous line from these parts). As for the old girl, I don't know- I am going to call her and just play it cool(her whole family knows me well and they are great to me), I don't think I am a big enough ass hole to call her a piece of shit and hang up- I am just worried she could bring up feelings from the past. No matter how much of a bad ass any one tries to be, if you have had feelings for someone and you don't wish they were dead, this sort of thing is difficult.

 

Don't hit it.

If you think enough of her to even talk about her here, then you are still not completely over her. If you hit it, then you're probably going to be in the exact same situation you were in before. She's obviously shopping around and she didn't think you were the best thing out there back then. I guess there's nothing much around now and she's calling up the Army Reserves (you). Don't let your ego get your heart in future trouble.

I don't know but if you think you can handle her this time around, I'd wait a full 7 days before calling her back. Yes, 7 days. Not 2 or 3, 7. When you call, don't even bring up the fact that you called so late and definitely don't apologize. If she brings it up, tell her you've been really busy lately but wanted to see what she was calling about. Take it easy from there. Don't let her on that you still think of her. Don't tell her that you missed her. Don't blubber about how much you need her. Let her chase you! You have 2 girls that you are hanging with. Enjoy the ego stroke and let them chase you this time.

Just to see it from her perspective. She's just calling up the reserve because there's nothing going on in her love life and she probably NEEDs the attention. I have a few female friends who I have kept in touch with on and off since HS. They have had boyfriends and such but I have had a few of them visit me out here in SD since it's a nice place and all. Each time, it amazes me that they would hook up despite their boyfriend because they still remember some HS thing. If a girl doesn't think you are THE BEST thing that's happened to them, chances are they are still looking for the BETTER thing. And you're going to be left in flames.

 

Good advice! I will hold off on calling her, I was going to do it tonight because I will be busy for the next 5-6 days and wouldn't have the time any ways- and I always return calls right away. This will be good for me, I have to remember how she treated me and it makes me think I should just ignore her all together- but if I do call her back it will be down the road when I have time.

 

meh, don't ever talk to her again.

she was a whore then and they never change.

Plenty of ways to get your rocks off without dialing up the baggage.

ex-wife calls me from time to time to tell me how she made a huge mistake and how her life is in shambles and how sorry shes is she left me for another man "you're dead to me, don't ever call again - you made your bed now lie in it bitch" takes care of that drama.

 

SDC said everything that I would have said in the first two paragraphs...if this was just some other girl. But since its your ex...I'm gonna stick to my, all ex g\fs are dead to me philosophy. I just hope your calling her strictly to get ass, otherwise...its just a matter of time before shes does the same thing to you again.

 

Damn it...you always post the same shit as me.

 

Awesome advice.

 

 

couldn't agree more. I would say times like these comes up in almost everyone's life.

 

You guys are right, I'm going to throw her number in the garbage and forget she called. This is why I posted this, its sometimes hard to make the right choice when your involved in the situation.

 

Good idea. Or you could wax that ass then tell her you have a date with your new girl in an hour and have to leave. But I think your idea is probably the best thing, since you're probably gonna end up in the same cycle as before.

 

Hit and run.

 

Call her back and see what she wants. Maybe she passed on something to you from those "other people".

 

Hit it and then bust on her face and leave her just like that. Dont say anything when you leave too. She needs a lil humiliation.

 

Interesting point. I doubt it since it's been so long but I guess you never know. I pray to God now, please don't let me get any VDs. I don't want to itch for the rest of my life!!!

 

I get tested fairly often and have been tested since I was with her at least once, possibly twice. I think I am just going to play the "she doesn't exist to me any more" card from here on out.

I've come to grips with the fact that even if she did want me back, she's not the person I want to spend the rest of my life with, so why waste time - after all you only live once.

 

Good decision. Now don't come crying to us when it turns out that she just wanted a sex only relationship where you can call her and she'll come over at a moment's booty call notice with a pizza, six pack of beer, and sex lube.

 

why can't this be easy

 

Most girls are dumb. They think they find something better...then they want what the had back. That little hole has alot of power over us. I went through the same thing...I learned how to play it to my favor. Tell her you're with someone else and that you are happy....even if you aren't. Get her mind going all over the place.

 

dude, in this case let your ego run your mind. you will look like abitch going back with her after she cheated on you before. Once a cheat always a cheat.