So, I need some helpful advice. I went out on a couple dates with this girl I've known for a couple years. I've always liked hanging out with her and we get along really well. But the last couple weeks there was a lot more going on than just friendship. So, one Friday we had a bit to drink and we hooked up.

Anyways, we've both been single for a while, so neither of us is really willing to rush into anything. We haven't even really spoken about it, but we've been out a couple times and all seems well. And we've planned on seeing each other again tonight.

Well, here's the issue. She went out on a couple dates with a friend of mine that just so happens to be my room mate. Just my luck, I hang out in NYC and I have a thing for a girl that my room mate dated. I need some good advice on how to deal with my room mate. The reason it didn't work out for them is that he can be a bit obsessive when it comes to women. The word psychotic was used a couple times. So I know he is going to be a bit pissed, but I'm not going to be put in a position to choose. I just want to know if I should tell him now, or wait til it gets more serious?

Any input will be good. Thanks.

 

I would wait.

No sense in telling him until what he doesnt know WILL hurt him. You are just kicking things off with this girl so telling you roommate now would ask for a lot of trouble needlessly. If things end in the short term, you would have pissed him off for nothing

Wait until you are sure you will be with her for the long term. Then telling him will be the right thing to do.

 

heh, when is your lease over?

 

You need a hammer, a hatchet (or axe, really any thing that will cut) and an old rug......

 

Oh, and a good alibi

 

If your roomate is a really good friend, then bros before hoes. If hes just a friend, then fuck what he thinks....what is he your mom?

 

If he is psychotic you will end up dead at some point, no need to worry about it now.

 

i'd tell him soon, you don't want to be sneaking around in your relationship. just be like, hey, i've known her for years, and one thing lead to another. if he's not dumb, he'll probably understand. it's not like they were serious or anything, right?

 

Just let your roomie catch you two on the couch and it'll all be over.

Seriously though, you mentioned a couple of dates between the girl and your roomie, does that mean they were never in a relationship or was it a brief one?

 

Yeh, I was thinking about just having her come over, but I know that wall be uncomfortable til I deal with him.

They never had a relationship, just a couple dates and she said they should remain friends.

 

Not that good of a friend.

 

how long has it been since they "dated?" there was nothing serious to begin with, so just mention it to your roommate, if he freaks, and won't listen to reason, just plan for an exit strategy.

 

A while. Year and a half. Exit strategy goes like this...."Get the FUCK out!!!" Lease is in my name only and rent is dirt cheap.

 

I would tell him but be firm about it. I would let him know you are seeing her now and that you didn't want it to be a surprise to him. Let him know that you like her and that you are sorry things didn't work out between them two but she is with you now. If he gets out of hand tell him he has 30 days and that's it. If he is as stupid as she says he is , you will probably need a restraining order and a close eye on your ride.