My assistant is getting divorced after 9 years and 3 children (7-8-3).

Of course, it takes only one immature to create the troubles. "She wanted something else". Talk about an irresponsible BITCH. Unless I miss something he did wrong.

I saw the child support calculation tables on his desk. No doubt it will take 20-30% of his pay and he has to have an apartment with many bedrooms ($$$). Anyway, I feel terrible for him.

 

You really do only see one side of it... You never know.

Regardless, it's shitty.

 

All that tells you is that he isn't telling you the reason. For all you know he banged her sister.

 

That sucks for the kids and ex. But I'm not a big believer that parents should stay together just for the kids.

 

no pre nup = he's in trouble. really expensive trouble.

 

The average person does not get a pre-nup.

 

My thoughts exactly. The only people who know exactly what is inside a marriage are the 2 who are in it. Don't be so quick to judge.

 

Big fat m-f'n

 

I am 100% certain that between what you colleague told you and reading the papers on his desk, you know enough about the situation to characterize her as a bitch.


And don't feel too sorry for the kids...it's better to divorce than stay in an unhappy marriage.

 

my dad had one with his ex-wife....i plan to get one as well when i get married

 

The only reason why it is unhappy after 3 children (unless an unknown fault) is because of one immature.

This is terrible for children and there is no minimization. My brother left his wife after 20 years / 2 children for his secretary and I don't have much sympathy for this kind of selfishness.

 

My last girlfriend was 24 but the longer I dated her the more immature she became. Needless to say that didn't last long....

 

It will be hard for him. She wants him out but I don't know the specific. No talking for 2 months with her.

He wants shared custody (at least 40% for being recognized as such) for the 3 low-age kids, but he can't drive and she used to do the driving all the time.

His work is 12 miles from the home / school. I doubt he will get shared custody, for pratical reasons.

They will go with a mediator. He earns 35K$ / year and a 5 1/2 apartment (him, two boys and one girl) will eat at least 10K$ of it. If in addition he has to pay child support by the tune of 600$ / month, I can't see how he will make it.

I discussed with him today. Awful.

Smells bad.

 

Whatever floats your boat. I'm not a big fan of them. But that's just me.

 

The ultimate show of commitment.

 

He needs a lawyer. Now. Even during the separation stages, it's a good idea to have legal counsel so he a) doesn't do anything wrong, and b) doesn't give anything up that he doesn't have to.

It's tough, I'm going through it, but it'd hardest on the kids. The couple need to keep sight of whats in the children's best interests. That can be Very Tough Work during a non-mutual split-up. Be an ally to him, but be careful taking sides.

 

Good luck with that. You do know that BOTH of you have to sign it. I asked my gf about it one time and she thought I was joking. Then, she said she wouldn't get married if that's the case.