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Old 12-07-2008, 10:44 AM
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no i didnt actually say "whatever" i said something like "ahh cool well have fun at the party". i know, lame. but ive never hit on a hooters type chick before lol
It's not so much that she is a hot Hooters type chick and you have to adore her. DON'T DO THAT! It's about that because she is a hot Hooters type chick she has MANY guys to choose from. So if she chose YOU, and you were to act like "whatever"or disinterested...then it is easy for her to choose someone that IS interested. Get it?

By the way, the next time you talk to her, it would be a good idea to suggest you and her hooking up to do something. This could go stale real quick if you are not aggressive. She will be like I gave this guy my number and he isn't doing anything with it. Hot chicks are used to a guy trying to get with them. Especially, if she gave a dude her number. SO GET WITH HER! Show some interest beyond just listening to her whine on the phone about guys grabbing her ass and looking at her tits all the time. But when you do get with her, do not give the perception that you are in awe of her. Still be the man. Make her laugh. Make her think. Make her want you the same way you would make a "lesser chick" want you...just remember she isn't...

Remember, you are there for the "middle ground", not to fall in love...the force is strong with the "hotness", so you must be strong young padawan...lest ye become the kid's father overnight...
Old 12-08-2008, 09:56 AM
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OP...correction...

I was telling you in a previous post that I was smashing two chicks with 3 kids in the last year, but the truth is, I was smashing one white chick (since May) w/3 kids, and a sistah (since January) w/4 kids! There was also a British chick (since 2005) in that time frame w/2 kids. None of them mine, and I had a good time...

I did meet the white chick's kids a few times and hungout with them on a few dates/overnight. I used to spend a lot of time hanging out with the British chick and her kids. I have never met the sistah's 4 kids, and I don't plan to. Not because something is wrong with them, but because I plan to cut her back soon (she was just freaky fun when I had the time). No sense taking her kids thru that. It's also the end of the year and it will be time to do spring-cleaning in a few months. Get a new stable...

So yes, you can have a sexual relationship over time with a woman and her kids be a non-factor or you never meet them at all...

BTW...what is the progress so far?
Old 12-08-2008, 12:27 PM
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i haven't sent her a text since saturday night when she went to that party. i guess i should send her a text today. dunno what to say i guess how's it goin wanna do something tonight? But remember, I dont care enough to spend $$$ on her. There still is this girl from work I'm talking to.

I guess I could ask darksom what i should text her
Old 12-08-2008, 01:13 PM
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Originally Posted by imj0257
i haven't sent her a text since saturday night when she went to that party. i guess i should send her a text today. dunno what to say i guess how's it goin wanna do something tonight? But remember, I dont care enough to spend $$$ on her. There still is this girl from work I'm talking to.

I guess I could ask darksom what i should text her
How about hey wats up, how was your weekend or the party? just make convo, not too hard. she'll respond with how it was, she may ask u how urs was, then thats when u move in with the you tryna hook up sumtime...jus be natural. Like darksom said, act like you are talking to a lesser chick. Dont be intimidated.
Old 12-08-2008, 01:42 PM
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k sent. hey whats up, how was the party?

this should be fun. $10 says i dont get a reply back.
Old 12-08-2008, 01:56 PM
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Originally Posted by imj0257
k sent. hey whats up, how was the party?

this should be fun. $10 says i dont get a reply back.
I'm sensing a lack of optimism here ... hot or not, she's just a girl. Work your magic and see what happens ... "nothing ventured, nothing gained"!
Old 12-08-2008, 02:47 PM
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Exactly, she's just a girl. If she replies back and wants to hook up, then sweet. If not, then fine I don't mind.

But yea I got a text back and was eager to see what she said but it was my roommate lawl.
Old 12-08-2008, 11:23 PM
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Old 12-08-2008, 11:53 PM
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Originally Posted by imj0257
I guess I could ask darksom what i should text her
Kid in school + she is at home in her thong + you are texting =

F-A-I-L!!!!

More sex and less text...get your ass off the keyboard, get on the phone, and get on that ass! WTF does love have to do with it? It doesn't matter if you don't wanna be with her, get up in dem guts!!! Damn...
Old 12-09-2008, 12:42 AM
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holy hell dude. texting her back 'w/e have fun at the party' is horrrrible. Shes saying that shit to show you she's got other stuff to do and other people to hang with. If I was you I probably would have either a. not replied or b. probably not replied. simply cause, girls LOVE to hate not getting texted back. Plus, that way you could call her the next day and ask how the party was. Especially with girls that KNOW they're hot, they expect dudes to be all over them. The trick is to get them all over YOU. Call her up and suggest to go do something or just say fuck it. The girl that I'm talking to that actually works at Hooters, i pretty much told her i wasnt looking to go out the night before i leave[i leave to go back home thursday morning, and i have a final on weds] so shes coming over weds night and i told her i dont want to go out. She said she was fine with chillin...then i told her all i have in my place is a big ass bed and tv..and once again she was cool with it. haha i guess we'll see how this goes..
Old 12-09-2008, 12:52 AM
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Umm, don't bother anymore. She is now interested in the guy(s) she banged at that party.
Old 12-09-2008, 07:11 AM
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lawl ya she never texted back. i lost interest and dont care anymore. i honestly thought she was bsing from the start, but if you say it was my text, more power to you. plus i plan on going back on thursday to watch the football game so im not gonna text her again. she is *deleted*
Old 12-09-2008, 07:25 AM
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Don't people actually TALK anymore?
Old 12-09-2008, 07:26 AM
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Old 12-09-2008, 07:41 AM
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^ Good luck with that.
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she prob just wanted tips
Old 12-09-2008, 09:55 AM
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Originally Posted by RMATIC09
she prob just wanted tips
Lol...however, it turns out that she's not the one who needed a tip, HE is! So here is a tip OP:

When you ask an attractive woman for her phone number, and she gives it to you, I could be wrong, maybe it's just me...but that might be an indication to you that she wants you to call her...

The first time you texted her to say what's up, that was cool. But to go exclusively with text probably made her feel like she was dealing with a boy not a man. Someone intimidated by her. Hot chicks may intimidate some men, but they don't want to intimidate them. ALL women want to be wanted, especially by ones that they show they want. They want their men to be aggressive and confident. You weren't that, you were, well...you just texted...

Asking for a hot chick's number, getting it, and then coming on AZ and starting a thread about it, indicates that yes, you did have some interest here. Like G.I. Joe, knowing her number is only HALF the battle! Haha! You just didn't know what to do with it after you got it. How to make that connection manifest into a "score". There is no harm in failing. That you shouldn't be ashamed of. But to blow her off as just a girl after going thru the trouble of getting her number, is like seeing a dance that looks cool as shit, everybody is doing it, but you can't do it, so you just say fuck it, it's stupid. You got her number, but you just didn't know how to "bag her". Plain and simple. Back to the drawing board...

If you learned something from this, then it's cool. But if you only walk away from this saying to yourself that she's just another chick, then you will "not know what to do" again. Because yes, she is just another chick...but she is also another chick that you did not know what to do with...
Old 12-09-2008, 10:15 AM
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^ I respect that. But also the reason for posting up here is some of you give great advice/stories, while others continually flame. It is entertaining nevertheless. Ok fine, I failed. But it was a learning experience. Next girl I will just ask her when she gets off and to go to some bar, get her drunk, and it will be lots easier .
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For once I agree with darksom.

At the ad that appears at the bottom of this thread.
Old 12-09-2008, 10:32 AM
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Originally Posted by dom
For once I agree with darksom.

At the ad that appears at the bottom of this thread.
What...the we have it they don't ad?
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Originally Posted by imj0257
.... I was bsing from the start ...
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Old 12-09-2008, 10:35 AM
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What...the we have it they don't ad?
I see a "Are you ugly" ad with a pic of a fat lady showing her gut.
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What...the we have it they don't ad?
I see "are you ugly" with a fat chick
Old 12-09-2008, 10:39 AM
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Anybody else see what dom is seeing? I got a GMC truck ad. They know not to put that fat shit on my computer! Hahahaha!

OP, now you can show us a pic of the chick...
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NOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!

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Old 12-09-2008, 10:51 AM
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Seeing her makes that dumb McDonald's song come to mind:

"Why don't you share your nuggets with meeeee...girl you got a 10 pack so don't be stingy!"
Old 12-09-2008, 11:02 AM
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hmm i dont see any fat lady, as a matter of fact i dont see any ad at all

but also i told yall i dont have pics. not like i snapped one of her at winghouse when she wasn't looking... lol
Old 12-09-2008, 11:09 AM
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Originally Posted by imj0257
hmm i dont see any fat lady, as a matter of fact i dont see any ad at all

but also i told yall i dont have pics. not like i snapped one of her at winghouse when she wasn't looking... lol
Is it far? Go get one...just tell her you dropped by to say hi if she sees you. At this point you don't care what she thinks anyway right?
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it is far from where i am right now.. at work. im planning on going there thursday to watch the football game and will try to take a pic of her when shes not looking just for your guys. when i get there im not gonna follow her around though; ima get plastered cus i took friday off
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O shit I see that "Are you Ugly?" ad LMFAO....
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o i think the advertisements are blocked on my work pc cus i remember seeing them at home
Old 12-09-2008, 07:03 PM
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WTF???

I get home from work, look in this thread...and what's the first thing I see??? That fat ass lady that dom was talking about!
Old 12-09-2008, 07:44 PM
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this thread was painful to read. its like watching someone shit a brick.

sorry man, but you just blew off easy poon. too much hesitation yields ____bation.
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Did she give you her # before or after you tipped her?


Also, I got here too late but it's best to avoid texting right off the bat. It basically shows you're too much of a wimp to actually make a call. You would have been better off calling first.
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Originally Posted by Mike 350Z
Did she give you her # before or after you tipped her?


Also, I got here too late but it's best to avoid texting right off the bat. It basically shows you're too much of a wimp to actually make a call. You would have been better off calling first.
Very true
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Her initial response didn't show a problem with him texting the first time. Most women like a quick text out of the blue. I just felt it should have been followed by a phone call to get the ball rolling soon after. The text was to say remember me or what's up. It couldn't hurt. But I thought relying on it did...at some point and time you have to get in the game...can't strike out from the dugout...but he knows what's up now though.

To tell you the truth, unless she told him and he didn't post it, I believe he can still hit it...



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