View Poll Results: Have you ever been cheated on?
Yes; No, we didn't not stay together
54
48.21%
Yes; Yes, we stayed together for some time after
15
13.39%
Yes; Didn't find out until after the relationship ended
20
17.86%
No
34
30.36%
Multiple Choice Poll. Voters: 112. You may not vote on this poll
Have you ever been cheated on?
02-07-2011, 01:55 PM
#41
Suzuka Master
Oh snap...sorry, didn't see your post until now, Doc. 
The Ex fessed up while we were just chilling one evening. I remember she told me she had something really important to tell me and just broke down in tears...At the time, I was angry but the sight of her in tears also softened me up. She seemed really sorry and at the time, I truly believed she was...
It is not my place to really challenge her true feelings at the time...And as it was common for me, I reflected on my own actions and thought well, I perhaps was not as great of a BF as I could be. So, I forgave her.
Our relationship would go for another 2 years but I would officially go into a "crisis" as my Dad was dying of liver cancer. Naturally, as I was very distracted, our relationship deteriorated and well, she was always quite clingy. And I guess immaturity had alot to do with it...But, the timing of our break-up was just all in all lousy...
Perspective-wise, I dunno if I could ever say I hate her. I've run into her at the odd large gathering since we have mutual friends and I still can't. I think I'll always have feelings for her as with the good and the bad, I did truly believe she would've been my wife eventually.
Obviously, things work out better. As for her now-fiance who was once my good friend...I can't stand him and yeah, I would have no tears shed if he did jump off a cliff.
To answer your question, Doc...I was in a really bad place for the next 2 years and aside from being very angry with life, I also was not a nice guy to women. I dated many and was generally a supreme prick...even to say I preyed on "weak" women. I used them and left them...
I then, well...met my wife and she changed me slowly and surely during the years we dated. I suppose when they say, you meet "the one"...you really do. I wanted to become better again and she helped me to see the better side of life again...
I don't really have a true advice on how you can trust your current squeeze. But, as much as some people say you trust your "gut feelings", in some cases, such as the one with her heading back home for weeks, it is next to impossible to detect. I suppose, this is where trust comes into play. Do you have a reason to suspect?
The Ex fessed up while we were just chilling one evening. I remember she told me she had something really important to tell me and just broke down in tears...At the time, I was angry but the sight of her in tears also softened me up. She seemed really sorry and at the time, I truly believed she was...
It is not my place to really challenge her true feelings at the time...And as it was common for me, I reflected on my own actions and thought well, I perhaps was not as great of a BF as I could be. So, I forgave her.
Our relationship would go for another 2 years but I would officially go into a "crisis" as my Dad was dying of liver cancer. Naturally, as I was very distracted, our relationship deteriorated and well, she was always quite clingy. And I guess immaturity had alot to do with it...But, the timing of our break-up was just all in all lousy...
Perspective-wise, I dunno if I could ever say I hate her. I've run into her at the odd large gathering since we have mutual friends and I still can't. I think I'll always have feelings for her as with the good and the bad, I did truly believe she would've been my wife eventually.
Obviously, things work out better. As for her now-fiance who was once my good friend...I can't stand him and yeah, I would have no tears shed if he did jump off a cliff.
To answer your question, Doc...I was in a really bad place for the next 2 years and aside from being very angry with life, I also was not a nice guy to women. I dated many and was generally a supreme prick...even to say I preyed on "weak" women. I used them and left them...
I then, well...met my wife and she changed me slowly and surely during the years we dated. I suppose when they say, you meet "the one"...you really do. I wanted to become better again and she helped me to see the better side of life again...
I don't really have a true advice on how you can trust your current squeeze. But, as much as some people say you trust your "gut feelings", in some cases, such as the one with her heading back home for weeks, it is next to impossible to detect. I suppose, this is where trust comes into play. Do you have a reason to suspect?
That's the worst of it. Female friends text and call me and GF is cool with that so it is what it is. The rest of the time she's speaking in Mandarin on the phone but if it's a guy on the other line, GF is always up front and honest like he's a co-worker, client, etc.
I have friends who end up being misogynistic after they catch their GF cheating. Glad you didn't end up the same way
02-07-2011, 01:56 PM
#42
Suzuka Master
02-07-2011, 02:05 PM
#43
Chapter Leader (Southern Region)
Not really. One time last year we got in a fight, she went out to have drinks with her girlfriend, and some random guy came over to talk to her. She told him her sob story, prolly about me being unreasonable (I can't even remember what we were arguing about, we hardly fight), he asked for her #, she was crying and gave it to him, and he called her a couple days later. I happened to be there when he called, she told me the truth, and that was it.
That's the worst of it. Female friends text and call me and GF is cool with that so it is what it is. The rest of the time she's speaking in Mandarin on the phone but if it's a guy on the other line, GF is always up front and honest like he's a co-worker, client, etc.
I have friends who end up being misogynistic after they catch their GF cheating. Glad you didn't end up the same way
That's the worst of it. Female friends text and call me and GF is cool with that so it is what it is. The rest of the time she's speaking in Mandarin on the phone but if it's a guy on the other line, GF is always up front and honest like he's a co-worker, client, etc.
I have friends who end up being misogynistic after they catch their GF cheating. Glad you didn't end up the same way
02-07-2011, 02:47 PM
#44
Suzuka Master
To me that's cheating.. When you're in a relationship, the intimacy between you two is personal and when your mate shares that intimacy with a acquaintance, co-worker or some random guy / gal. That trust is broken already no matter if it's because of a fight or unhappy at home.. that intimacy should always be guarded with the small exception to closest of friends and family.
02-07-2011, 03:12 PM
#45
Chapter Leader (Southern Region)
Really? Man, random people complain about their relationships to me all the time. Sometimes I'm thinking "TMI." I would be more upset if my GF was divulging all the details of our relationship to one of her close guy friends. That's a more slippery slope IMO. GF is cool though, she always introduces me as her BF to other guys and once asked some dude to stop texting her as she was already in a committed relationship. Maybe I'm too laid back or more likely I don't want to be a hypocrite since I'll still flirt once in awhile at the club. Doesn't mean I'm taking the slut home or asking for her digits.
I'm no one to judge if it works for you two. I'm laid back too and so is my girl, we trust each other 100% but we know the boundary and we dare not cross it at the risk of killing that trust. I'm sure she wouldn't want some random horny bachelorette rubbing her fingers over my nips, buddha belly and ping ping.
She'd probably kick me in my buddha balls if I did.She doesn't care if I hit the titty bar and pushed me to take my bro to Femme Nu for his bachelor party.. although I spent too much money there.. should have taken him to exotics.
02-07-2011, 03:22 PM
#47
Suzuka Master
I meant specifically the opposite sex. Close guy friends??.. I hope their mahus. lol. I have one buddy who is super perverted who talks way too much about his sexcapades, he even offers to show me his home videos, I call him out for being gay trying to show me his unit. But other than that.. most of my friends and acquaintances don't talk about their relationships. I sure don't want to hear it. When it comes to other peoples relationships, I stay the eff out of it.
I'm no one to judge if it works for you two. I'm laid back too and so is my girl, we trust each other 100% but we know the boundary and we dare not cross it at the risk of killing that trust. I'm sure she wouldn't want some random horny bachelorette rubbing her fingers over my nips, buddha belly and ping ping. She'd probably kick me in my buddha balls if I did.
She doesn't care if I hit the titty bar and pushed me to take my bro to Femme Nu for his bachelor party.. although I spent too much money there.. should have taken him to exotics.
I'm no one to judge if it works for you two. I'm laid back too and so is my girl, we trust each other 100% but we know the boundary and we dare not cross it at the risk of killing that trust. I'm sure she wouldn't want some random horny bachelorette rubbing her fingers over my nips, buddha belly and ping ping.
She'd probably kick me in my buddha balls if I did.She doesn't care if I hit the titty bar and pushed me to take my bro to Femme Nu for his bachelor party.. although I spent too much money there.. should have taken him to exotics.
Hey man I was just being a good sport
I still get nutz on occasion so I'm not going to pass judgement on my girl that I wouldn't hold myself to. Honestly, I don't think my GF would mind. She knew I was going out for bachelor party, told me to have a good time, don't waste too much $$, and that was that. I didn't make out with any of the chicks and came home by myself, called her the next morning to let her know how the night went. Plus, I have a 4-pack, not a buddha belly
02-07-2011, 03:30 PM
#48
Chapter Leader (Southern Region)
I'm just messing with you Rick.. and to be clear.. I'm the one with the buddha belly. 
02-07-2011, 03:33 PM
#49
Chapter Leader (Southern Region)
02-07-2011, 03:35 PM
#50
Senior Moderator
02-07-2011, 03:35 PM
#52
Suzuka Master
J/K
02-07-2011, 03:41 PM
#54
Chapter Leader (Southern Region)
ping ping is literally translated into elephant dong the size of godzilla.
02-07-2011, 03:42 PM
#55
Chapter Leader (Southern Region)
02-07-2011, 03:45 PM
#57
02-07-2011, 03:48 PM
#59
Chapter Leader (Southern Region)
02-07-2011, 03:49 PM
#62
Senior Moderator
02-07-2011, 03:53 PM
#64
Chapter Leader (Southern Region)
Definitely don't shake her hand
02-07-2011, 03:54 PM
#65
Chapter Leader (Southern Region)
02-07-2011, 03:57 PM
#67
Chapter Leader (Southern Region)
Saved? nah.. she posted it in her thread. Your pics of your lady friend.. nope. I deleted them right away. That was shocking to say the least.. 
02-07-2011, 10:20 PM
#69
I shoot people
she cheated on me with a girl... does that count?
02-07-2011, 11:31 PM
#70
Chapter Leader (Southern Region)
02-07-2011, 11:32 PM
#71
Chapter Leader (Southern Region)
02-07-2011, 11:39 PM
#72
I shoot people
02-08-2011, 12:07 AM
#73
Your Friendly Canadian
Join Date: Dec 2007
Location: Toronto, Ontario
Age: 31
Posts: 17,431
Received 1,485 Likes
on
1,049 Posts
Did you find it a little harder to grasp than it would've been if she would've cheated on you with a guy? Or was it the same thing in your mind from the start?
02-08-2011, 12:47 AM
#74
I shoot people
I was kinda confused. I thought I would (or should) have been pissed but I wasn't. Its kinda a long story.
02-08-2011, 09:33 AM
#75
Chapter Leader (Southern Region)
I find bisexuality a strange beast.. are people actually wired this way or are they insatiable slores? I'm going for the latter.
03-14-2011, 06:35 PM
#76
Insert Sarcasm Here
I once had a gf admit she gave a good friend of mine a BJ. (she said it was like for 2 seconds, then stopped from guilt)
Is that considered cheating?
*oh and lots of alcohol involved.
Is that considered cheating?
*oh and lots of alcohol involved.
03-14-2011, 10:09 PM
#77
Racer
Join Date: Nov 2009
Location: pittsburgh, pa
Age: 40
Posts: 425
Likes: 0
Received 3 Likes
on
3 Posts
I have never cheated and my wife ( 2 + years of marriage and over 5 years overall) has never cheated either and I know this for a fact!! I wouldn't no how it feels to be cheated on but I do know someone would get beat down!!!!
03-15-2011, 08:49 AM
#79
Engineer
Once a cheater, always a cheater...
03-15-2011, 09:14 AM
#80
Chapter Leader (Southern Region)
BS. She sucked him off.. It's like a chick saying I fucked him but he didn't cum in me. Cheating is cheating, whether it's an passionate kiss or putting a cock in her mouth. The moment it happens, the special bond / trust is broken. If you convince yourself otherwise, you're a fool. Also, if you're still friends with that guy, make sure you get his girl "drunk" and give her a filthy sanchez.