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If yes, did you stay together for any length of time after (given that you found out during the relationship)? Did you give the person another chance?

(multiple pick poll in case you've been in more than one situation, lol)




And Yummy...



No worries....I'm definitely NOT getting back together with her...

:devilgrin

Whiskers

I sleepz with your womenz

Rapture

Nope. Walked away from her and never looked back. I think the whole concept of someone having a "moment of weakness" is bs. If they cheat on you once they'll undoubtedly do it again if given the chance.

sasha

Yes, it happened to me once. Since I didn't think I could trust him again, I the relationship right away. Some old AZ members probably know who I'm talking about...

I'm glad it actually happened, or else, I would not have met my husband!

Babnik

No, but once I found out that this girl I was dating had slept with this really ugly loser. It happened before we started dating but when I found that out I had to dump her because I couldn't tolerate being with someone who had let someone that ugly screw her.

doopstr

^I just watched a porn of Emma Starr screwing a bunch of fat ugly bastards and I too feel betrayed. I can't watch her other flicks now.

CarbonBronzeRocketTypeS

How many times after the fact did you sit there and wonder "why couldn't it be me Emma WHY!" eh? eh?

Majofo

Best way to get over your ex-girlfriends cheating on you is to PM me their noodz.

imj0257

iTrader: (1)

fucking whorez

1StGenCL

Yep after 3.5 years and I forgave her...she did it again. Game over, once one person cheats the relationship is over

NSXNEXT

iTrader: (2)

I voted Whiskers.

litesout

Yup, been cheated on several times. I used to lack the good sense and self respect to send them packing so I let it go. More times than not, the cheating is what ended the relationship though. And on at least one occasion I didn't find out about it until after the fact. So, I checked all 3.

97BlackAckCL

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I've been cheated on, gave her another chance, never should have. Once a cheater, always a cheater. My last ex started seeing her ex behind my back and lying about it, she got the boot and will never be given another chance.

Yumcha

Yep...cheated on me. I took her back. We broke up just as my Dad was dying...and then a month later, she's going out with a person who I considered a close friend.


That friend and I no longer speak. There was a time when I hoped he would DIAF.

Yumcha

And to 97Ackalacka...once a cheater, always a cheater.

dave_ramkumar

iTrader: (5)

No, but if my girl cheats on me or even talks to another dude and tries to hide it , its over , cuz she knows she is doin sumin wrong , and i aint having it

SharksBreath

iTrader: (33)

well if you're having suspicions that your partner is messing around behind your back, go with them. your first instinct is usually correct. i agree that once a cheater, always a cheater. some people have it in their DNA, some don't.

trust is a hard thing to earn these days. i'm lucky i have someone i can trust in my life. i would hate to be consumed with paranoia about my girl cheating, if you ever have those thoughts, you're probably with the wrong person.

justnspace

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sounds possessive....

ghttf

alot of desis are pretty possessive.

Dr. Colorado

Damn H, how can you ever trust another person after experiencing that? BTW, how did you find out she was cheating if you don't mind me asking.

I've never "caught" any GF in the act. My GF goes back to Shanghai for 1 month and sometimes longer at a time to visit family. She's beautiful and for all I know could be f-ckin a bunch of ballers behind my back but she's always been extremely loyal and has never done anything to arouse suspicion. I've certainly been tempted when she's been gone for awhile, some chicks are such whores they know I have a girlfriend and still want to get my d-ck wet. It seems easier for men to cheat but I know that's fallacy.

MySoCalLife

^ +1
Thats how I am too.

Majofo

Tough to not get all nuts in the head after an experience like that but Yummy seems to be a very level headed guy. I think he must go into some mantra over robots, sony and zonda which helps him clear his thoughts.

Stay strong Rick.. even when you think she'll never find out. She will.. I could never disrespect my girl like that. In fact if a chick knew I was with my girl and still approached me, I'd probably smack a ho for disrespecting. Note: Majofo does not condone the hitting of a woman.


Aren't you 15.

Rapture

Glad I'm not the only one who thinks this way. Knew this one girl who took a liking to me. I didn't want to get anywhere near her because of where she had apparently "been"....

MySoCalLife

lol, add 14 to that.

Never Summer

I found out my girlfriend (now ex) had been having a guy come over to hang out at her apartment, and not only did she sleep with him she let him smoke my stash I kept at her place. That's how I ended up finding out, I was missing three grams out of nowhere and asked her quite a few times where it all went. I guess it's a good thing that I kept track of the weight I had, otherwise I'm sure I wouldn't have found out.

As soon as it came out what had happened I picked up all of my shit at her apartment, saying I was coming over to talk, and peaced out.

Rapture

^I woulda phoned in an anonymous tip to the cops that your girlfriend has a stash of pot in her apartment.

That's assuming you don't want it back, and that it doesn't have your prints all over it..

NJ SHAWD

1st wife...I moved out not knowing about the cheating. Went back a week later to pick up more stuff and my next door neighbor thought I must have bought a new car

KaMLuNg

iTrader: (5)

i posted my story a while ago...

yes... we were together for about 2 yrs.. it happened, i didn't have a damn clue until she confessed it to me... we worked it out and stayed together another year and rebuilt the relationship... things went pretty good, so we got engaged... moved to Dallas for a year for my work... when we were going to move back to NJ, she admitted that she was starting to have an emotional relationship with someone at work and was at a crossroad... didn't know what she wanted to do with her life... eventually decided that was it for me, called off the engagement...

after about a year later of being single again, met my current wife, we dated/engaged for a few yrs and just tied the knot in January and it has been the best time of my life...

do i regret any of it... nope - i learned alot about myself and met great people along my journey...

Never Summer

It was originally two ounces, so yeah I did want it back. Also, the police wouldn't have done anything as we both have our medical licenses and that allows you to possess up to two ounces.

Aman

Not condoning cheating in the least, but you have to give her props for confessing to it, both times. That's a hell of a lot better than most others, although it would've been better if she just hadn't cheated at all. But you get what I mean.

KaMLuNg

iTrader: (5)

yea i get you... the first time i could tell something was wrong.. she wasn't herself and i confronted her about her acting funny and it came out...

the second time was outta nowhere but i put her in a corner and we were moving back to NJ... and it came out as 'i'm not going'...

RaviNJCLs

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I answered YES but up to the last time I spoke with her she still said she didn't. No we did not stay together.

The story was that we were really into each other then out of the blue things changed. No warning. She just got very distant.

She came over and we started talking about needing space and we needed to see other people. About 3 weeks later she said she messed up. She admitted that she went out with someone during those 3 weeks but promised she never slept with him. I just could not trust her anymore. Relationship ended.

Dr. Colorado

You guys were on a break right? Like Ross and Rachel on "Friends"? Did you date any other chicks during those 3 weeks? She probably slept with some other dude and then realized what a yahoo he was compared to you. Too little too late If you're at a point in a relationship where you're talking about seeing other people, than often the damage is irreparable IMO.

whudini3000

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Dated for 5 years and all of a sudden she was talking about being bi sexual. Found out she was cheating on me with some other chick, I asked for a 3some(hoping she would say yes so I could dump her after-wards), she declined, and I dumped her. We bump into each other every so often, and every time she begs for me to give her another chance. Later I found out she contracted gonny in the throat....what a stupid whore. I'm in a good relationship now and life is 15x easier.

Dr. Colorado

I dated 2 bisexual women. Talk about drama, way more comlicated than hetero women. One GF was pretty serious and she invited me to a 3-way with her roommate but honestly, as open-minded as I am, that was just too weird. It's never cool in real life like it is in a porno because emotions, feelings, and attachment are all juxtaposed.

For example, GF often left early for work when I stayed over, so I would end up having breakfast with her roommate and hanging out. Having sex with theroommate would change everything.

I say if you're going to run a 3-way, do it with girls you have no emotional investment in.

RaviNJCLs

iTrader: (4)

This.

Or wait until you are about to break up with her anyways. That works too.

Dr. Colorado

Yeah, good call Ravi. Had I known I was going to break up with her, I would have done it but at that time I had been with her for 6 months or so and things were pretty good.

2 blonde, blue-eyed girls with me in the middle

Majofo

invest in whores.. we hear ya. :wink:

Yumcha

Oh snap...sorry, didn't see your post until now, Doc.

The Ex fessed up while we were just chilling one evening. I remember she told me she had something really important to tell me and just broke down in tears...At the time, I was angry but the sight of her in tears also softened me up. She seemed really sorry and at the time, I truly believed she was...

It is not my place to really challenge her true feelings at the time...And as it was common for me, I reflected on my own actions and thought well, I perhaps was not as great of a BF as I could be. So, I forgave her.

Our relationship would go for another 2 years but I would officially go into a "crisis" as my Dad was dying of liver cancer. Naturally, as I was very distracted, our relationship deteriorated and well, she was always quite clingy. And I guess immaturity had alot to do with it...But, the timing of our break-up was just all in all lousy...

Perspective-wise, I dunno if I could ever say I hate her. I've run into her at the odd large gathering since we have mutual friends and I still can't. I think I'll always have feelings for her as with the good and the bad, I did truly believe she would've been my wife eventually.

Obviously, things work out for the better. I'm very happily married and have a beautiful woman as a wife. As for my Ex's now-fiance who was once my good friend...I can't stand him and yeah, I would have no tears shed if he did jump off a cliff.




To answer your question, Doc...I was in a really bad place for the next 2 years and aside from being very angry with life, I also was not a nice guy to women. I dated many and was generally a supreme prick...even to say I preyed on "weak" women. I used them and left them...

I then, well...met my wife and she changed me slowly and surely during the years we dated. I suppose when they say, you meet "the one"...you really do. I wanted to become better again and she helped me to see the better side of life again...

I don't really have a true advice on how you can trust your current squeeze. But, as much as some people say you trust your "gut feelings", in some cases, such as the one with her heading back home for weeks, it is next to impossible to detect. I suppose, this is where trust comes into play. Do you have a reason to suspect?

RaviNJCLs

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Rick....you're an idiot. I would have done it and see what happens. It is better to have to apologize for doing something than dreaming of what could have been.