Guys get in here quick....we need a Woooosaaahhh moment
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Guys get in here quick....we need a Woooosaaahhh moment
Here it is...I just got through reading this on the g35driver board and I know deep down inside just about everyone of us guys here have gone through or know someone who went through something similar.... I HAD to share it with the Azine gang
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If you have a story like this please share it. I had one a few years ago. This girl I met used to try and play the friend card till I wised up, moved on and met someone else worth it! I never looked back...as for an update, the "girl that played the friend card" is on loser #2
Sometimes they never learn! So what's your story? (( Don't forget to say woosah on the way out lol )) Vent! This is the place for it
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Originally Posted by JasonZ-YA
I see this question posted with some regularity in the personals section, so I thought I'd take a minute to explain things to the ladies out there that haven't figured it out.
What happened to all the nice guys?
The answer is simple: you did.
See, if you think back, really hard, you might vaguely remember a Platonic guy pal who always seemed to want to spend time with you. He'd tag along with you when you went shopping, stop by your place for a movie when you were lonely but didn't feel like going out, or even sit there and hold you while you sobbed and told him about how horribly the (other) guy that you were ****ing treated you.
At the time, you probably joked with your girlfriends about how he was a little puppy dog, always following you around, trying to do things to get you to pay attention to him. They probably teased you because they thought he had a crush on you. Given that his behavior was, admittedly, a little pathetic, you vehemently denied having any romantic feelings for him, and buttressed your position by claiming that you were "just friends." Besides, he totally wasn't your type. I mean, he was a little too short, or too bald, or too fat, or too poor, or didn't know how to dress himself, or basically be or do any of the things that your tall, good-looking, fit, rich, stylish boyfriend at the time pulled off with such ease.
Eventually, your Platonic buddy drifted away, as your relationship with the boyfriend got more serious and spending time with this other guy was, admittedly, a little weird, if you werent dating him. More time passed, and the boyfriend eventually cheated on you, or became boring, or you realized that the things that attracted you to him weren't the kinds of things that make for a good, long-term relationship. So, now, you're single again, and after having tried the bar scene for several months having only encountered players and douche bags, you wonder, "What happened to all the nice guys?"
Well, once again, you did.
You ignored the nice guy. You used him for emotional intimacy without reciprocating, in kind, with physical intimacy. You laughed at his consideration and resented his devotion. You valued the aloof boyfriend more than the attentive "just-a-" friend. Eventually, he took the hint and moved on with his life. He probably came to realize, one day, that women aren't really attracted to guys who hold doors open; or make dinners just because; or buy you a Christmas gift that you mentioned, in passing, that you really wanted five months ago; or listen when you're upset; or hold you when you cry. He came to realize that, if he wanted a woman like you, he'd have to act more like the boyfriend that you had. He probably cleaned up his look, started making some money, and generally acted like more of an ******* than he ever wanted to be.
Fact is, now, he's probably getting laid, and in a way, your ultimate rejection of him is to thank for that. And I'm sorry that it took the complete absence of "nice guys" in your life for you to realize that you missed them and wanted them. Most women will only have a handful of nice guys stumble into their lives, if that.
So, if you're looking for a nice guy, here's what you do:
1.) Build a time machine.
2.) Go back a few years and pull your head out of your ***.
3.) Take a look at what's right in front of you and grab ahold of it.
I suppose the other possibility is that you STILL don't really want a nice guy, but you feel the social pressure to at least appear to have matured beyond your infantile taste in men. In which case, you might be in luck, because the nice guy you claim to want has, in reality, shed his nice guy mantle and is out there looking to unleash his cynicism and resentment onto someone just like you.
If you were five years younger.
So, please: either stop misrepresenting what you want, or own up to the fact that you've ****ed yourself over. You're getting older, after all. It's time to excise the bull**** and deal with reality. You didn't want a nice guy then, and he certainly doesn't ****ing want you, now.
Sincerely,
A Recovering Nice Guy
What happened to all the nice guys?
The answer is simple: you did.
See, if you think back, really hard, you might vaguely remember a Platonic guy pal who always seemed to want to spend time with you. He'd tag along with you when you went shopping, stop by your place for a movie when you were lonely but didn't feel like going out, or even sit there and hold you while you sobbed and told him about how horribly the (other) guy that you were ****ing treated you.
At the time, you probably joked with your girlfriends about how he was a little puppy dog, always following you around, trying to do things to get you to pay attention to him. They probably teased you because they thought he had a crush on you. Given that his behavior was, admittedly, a little pathetic, you vehemently denied having any romantic feelings for him, and buttressed your position by claiming that you were "just friends." Besides, he totally wasn't your type. I mean, he was a little too short, or too bald, or too fat, or too poor, or didn't know how to dress himself, or basically be or do any of the things that your tall, good-looking, fit, rich, stylish boyfriend at the time pulled off with such ease.
Eventually, your Platonic buddy drifted away, as your relationship with the boyfriend got more serious and spending time with this other guy was, admittedly, a little weird, if you werent dating him. More time passed, and the boyfriend eventually cheated on you, or became boring, or you realized that the things that attracted you to him weren't the kinds of things that make for a good, long-term relationship. So, now, you're single again, and after having tried the bar scene for several months having only encountered players and douche bags, you wonder, "What happened to all the nice guys?"
Well, once again, you did.
You ignored the nice guy. You used him for emotional intimacy without reciprocating, in kind, with physical intimacy. You laughed at his consideration and resented his devotion. You valued the aloof boyfriend more than the attentive "just-a-" friend. Eventually, he took the hint and moved on with his life. He probably came to realize, one day, that women aren't really attracted to guys who hold doors open; or make dinners just because; or buy you a Christmas gift that you mentioned, in passing, that you really wanted five months ago; or listen when you're upset; or hold you when you cry. He came to realize that, if he wanted a woman like you, he'd have to act more like the boyfriend that you had. He probably cleaned up his look, started making some money, and generally acted like more of an ******* than he ever wanted to be.
Fact is, now, he's probably getting laid, and in a way, your ultimate rejection of him is to thank for that. And I'm sorry that it took the complete absence of "nice guys" in your life for you to realize that you missed them and wanted them. Most women will only have a handful of nice guys stumble into their lives, if that.
So, if you're looking for a nice guy, here's what you do:
1.) Build a time machine.
2.) Go back a few years and pull your head out of your ***.
3.) Take a look at what's right in front of you and grab ahold of it.
I suppose the other possibility is that you STILL don't really want a nice guy, but you feel the social pressure to at least appear to have matured beyond your infantile taste in men. In which case, you might be in luck, because the nice guy you claim to want has, in reality, shed his nice guy mantle and is out there looking to unleash his cynicism and resentment onto someone just like you.
If you were five years younger.
So, please: either stop misrepresenting what you want, or own up to the fact that you've ****ed yourself over. You're getting older, after all. It's time to excise the bull**** and deal with reality. You didn't want a nice guy then, and he certainly doesn't ****ing want you, now.
Sincerely,
A Recovering Nice Guy
Sometimes they never learn! So what's your story? (( Don't forget to say woosah on the way out lol )) Vent! This is the place for it
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Wow. That brings back painful memories. I was that guy 4-5 times in high school. I got told once that "I wasn't good enough" (not good as in nice, good as in rich), that I was "too nice", that I was "special and shouldn't change". 
Funny, I just drifted away eventually and just dated one girl after another.
But the day I met the girl who liked the nice guy, found a wife.
But I love that post.
Funny, I just drifted away eventually and just dated one girl after another. But the day I met the girl who liked the nice guy, found a wife.
But I love that post.
I'm Down Right Fierce!
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Ahem. I'm sorry, but he just sounds like a pussy.
I've never believed in being a "just a platonic friend" with a girl in order to become her boyfriend or to get her to like me.
If you want someone, go after her; don't just sit there like a "nice guy" and expect that one day she'll finally notice you and pop the question of becoming her boyfriend.
Grow some balls, say that you like the girl. IF she rejects you, move the ***k on and stop bitching about how your such a nice guy and posting about it and trying to make other women feel like they've lost something forever. She got exactly what she wanted from you, and you like a sucker let her take it.
Trust me, if she didn't want you then, she won't want you now; chances are the nice guy she wants now is not going to be the you that was following her around like a "puppy."
In short for all you nice guys out there, stop being so nice. Grow some balls, be assertive and *gasp* even be a jerk; I'm a jerk and I've never had a problem with a girl that I wanted - except for when I wanted to break it off.
In short, less QQ more Spew Spew. KK?
Sincerely,
The Jerk Who was probably with the girl the "nice guy" was "just a friend" to.
Edit: I don't mean to upset any of you "nice guys" out there, but I'm just telling you to stop being the nice guy and letting girls use you like that. If she doesn't want you, move on to a better woman.
I've never believed in being a "just a platonic friend" with a girl in order to become her boyfriend or to get her to like me.
If you want someone, go after her; don't just sit there like a "nice guy" and expect that one day she'll finally notice you and pop the question of becoming her boyfriend.
Grow some balls, say that you like the girl. IF she rejects you, move the ***k on and stop bitching about how your such a nice guy and posting about it and trying to make other women feel like they've lost something forever. She got exactly what she wanted from you, and you like a sucker let her take it.
Trust me, if she didn't want you then, she won't want you now; chances are the nice guy she wants now is not going to be the you that was following her around like a "puppy."
In short for all you nice guys out there, stop being so nice. Grow some balls, be assertive and *gasp* even be a jerk; I'm a jerk and I've never had a problem with a girl that I wanted - except for when I wanted to break it off.
In short, less QQ more Spew Spew. KK?
Sincerely,
The Jerk Who was probably with the girl the "nice guy" was "just a friend" to.
Edit: I don't mean to upset any of you "nice guys" out there, but I'm just telling you to stop being the nice guy and letting girls use you like that. If she doesn't want you, move on to a better woman.
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I have a story about a H.S. buddy that was kinda like that, I'll make it quick for the lazy people here:
Dude's name was Chris, he found the girl of his dreams and she didn't notice him at all. Chris bent over backwards for her, got bag/books when she left it in class, helped her though rough times when her BF's broke up with her and also "helped her" with tests and HW. Well one day he musters up the guts to ask her out (thanks to me) and he gets this response "Your not the guy I'd date, your a pushover and a nerd." Lets just say chris then became the kid who dumped brake fluid over her car (correction: daddy's E class) the next day and gorilla glued her windows, locks, fuel door and wipers to the car...
Dude's name was Chris, he found the girl of his dreams and she didn't notice him at all. Chris bent over backwards for her, got bag/books when she left it in class, helped her though rough times when her BF's broke up with her and also "helped her" with tests and HW. Well one day he musters up the guts to ask her out (thanks to me) and he gets this response "Your not the guy I'd date, your a pushover and a nerd." Lets just say chris then became the kid who dumped brake fluid over her car (correction: daddy's E class) the next day and gorilla glued her windows, locks, fuel door and wipers to the car...
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Guys who think like the quote in the OP don't get it. It's not about not being nice or not. It's about knowing when to cut bait. A girl will make up her mind whether she's interested romantically almost immediately. Find out, and if she's not move on.
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I have a story about a H.S. buddy that was kinda like that, I'll make it quick for the lazy people here:
Dude's name was Chris, he found the girl of his dreams and she didn't notice him at all. Chris bent over backwards for her, got bag/books when she left it in class, helped her though rough times when her BF's broke up with her and also "helped her" with tests and HW. Well one day he musters up the guts to ask her out (thanks to me) and he gets this response "Your not the guy I'd date, your a pushover and a nerd." Lets just say chris then became the kid who dumped brake fluid over her car (correction: daddy's E class) the next day and gorilla glued her windows, locks, fuel door and wipers to the car...
Dude's name was Chris, he found the girl of his dreams and she didn't notice him at all. Chris bent over backwards for her, got bag/books when she left it in class, helped her though rough times when her BF's broke up with her and also "helped her" with tests and HW. Well one day he musters up the guts to ask her out (thanks to me) and he gets this response "Your not the guy I'd date, your a pushover and a nerd." Lets just say chris then became the kid who dumped brake fluid over her car (correction: daddy's E class) the next day and gorilla glued her windows, locks, fuel door and wipers to the car...
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I have a story about a H.S. buddy that was kinda like that, I'll make it quick for the lazy people here:
Dude's name was Chris, he found the girl of his dreams and she didn't notice him at all. Chris bent over backwards for her, got bag/books when she left it in class, helped her though rough times when her BF's broke up with her and also "helped her" with tests and HW. Well one day he musters up the guts to ask her out (thanks to me) and he gets this response "Your not the guy I'd date, your a pushover and a nerd." Lets just say chris then became the kid who dumped brake fluid over her car (correction: daddy's E class) the next day and gorilla glued her windows, locks, fuel door and wipers to the car...
Dude's name was Chris, he found the girl of his dreams and she didn't notice him at all. Chris bent over backwards for her, got bag/books when she left it in class, helped her though rough times when her BF's broke up with her and also "helped her" with tests and HW. Well one day he musters up the guts to ask her out (thanks to me) and he gets this response "Your not the guy I'd date, your a pushover and a nerd." Lets just say chris then became the kid who dumped brake fluid over her car (correction: daddy's E class) the next day and gorilla glued her windows, locks, fuel door and wipers to the car...
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there's absolutely nothing wrong with treating a nice girl right.
but it seems like the kid quoted by the OP needs to stop being such a pussy. honestly, you see it all the time the nice guy getting owned by the selfish, and downright bitchy woman. i'd like to say im a nice guy, but honestly i wouldnt get tooled around by an unappreciative girl.
the way i act is a direct correlation of how im treated and i think that saves me a lot of the head/heart ache a lot of other people get. being a lap dog is step one to the ownage by a female.
and rofl at the gorilla gluing the e class. i bet she fell in love after that...
oh and just to edit ... that quote was taken from g35 driver??... if this kid is driving a G coupe and not getting laid... HE SUCKS!
but it seems like the kid quoted by the OP needs to stop being such a pussy. honestly, you see it all the time the nice guy getting owned by the selfish, and downright bitchy woman. i'd like to say im a nice guy, but honestly i wouldnt get tooled around by an unappreciative girl.
the way i act is a direct correlation of how im treated and i think that saves me a lot of the head/heart ache a lot of other people get. being a lap dog is step one to the ownage by a female.
and rofl at the gorilla gluing the e class. i bet she fell in love after that...
oh and just to edit ... that quote was taken from g35 driver??... if this kid is driving a G coupe and not getting laid... HE SUCKS!
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What I don't understand is, how come some guys wonder why the girl they are interested in does not like them back even when they do all these nice things if they never expressed interest anyway in the first place? 
I remember back in college, there was this nice guy who was interested in a female friend of mine. I know she liked him too, but he never showed it! So my friend thought he didn't like her and eventually gave up on him. By the time the guy had the guts to tell her, she has already moved on to someone else. Poor guy... :shakehead
If you treat the girl just as a friend, then of course she'll only see you as a buddy. But if you are interested in having more than a platonic relationship, then act on it from the very start!
I remember back in college, there was this nice guy who was interested in a female friend of mine. I know she liked him too, but he never showed it! So my friend thought he didn't like her and eventually gave up on him. By the time the guy had the guts to tell her, she has already moved on to someone else. Poor guy... :shakehead
If you treat the girl just as a friend, then of course she'll only see you as a buddy. But if you are interested in having more than a platonic relationship, then act on it from the very start!
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that's what i do!
but i guess i always end up w/ the girls that play hard to get which BLOWS!
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What the "nice guy" doesn't realize is this behavior is great to display to someone you're already in a relationship with, but it does not work to win over the affections of someone you're chasing. The difference between the nice guy and the guy that gets it is the 2nd guy only reserves the nice behavior for someone who has earned it, i.e. someone that has already shown some level of interest in or commitment to him.
Some people learn this early, some never do. For me I think I got it when I was about 20.
Some people learn this early, some never do. For me I think I got it when I was about 20.
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What I don't understand is, how come some guys wonder why the girl they are interested in does not like them back even when they do all these nice things if they never expressed interest anyway in the first place?
I remember back in college, there was this nice guy who was interested in a female friend of mine. I know she liked him too, but he never showed it! So my friend thought he didn't like her and eventually gave up on him. By the time the guy had the guts to tell her, she has already moved on to someone else. Poor guy... :shakehead
If you treat the girl just as a friend, then of course she'll only see you as a buddy. But if you are interested in having more than a platonic relationship, then act on it from the very start!
I remember back in college, there was this nice guy who was interested in a female friend of mine. I know she liked him too, but he never showed it! So my friend thought he didn't like her and eventually gave up on him. By the time the guy had the guts to tell her, she has already moved on to someone else. Poor guy... :shakehead
If you treat the girl just as a friend, then of course she'll only see you as a buddy. But if you are interested in having more than a platonic relationship, then act on it from the very start!
And no, not all girls like assholes. I like a guy who is a little bit of a bad ass to the point where he would stand up for me or himself in a tight situation or protect me if I needed it, but not where he's a jerk to me constantly. I won't tolerate that bull.
P.S. That story totally reminds me of the movie "Just Friends" with Ryan Renolds. Very funny--rent it if you haven't seen it.
And no, not all girls like assholes. I like a guy who is a little bit of a bad ass to the point where he would stand up for me or himself in a tight situation or protect me if I needed it, but not where he's a jerk to me constantly. I won't tolerate that bull.
P.S. That story totally reminds me of the movie "Just Friends" with Ryan Renolds. Very funny--rent it if you haven't seen it.
DISCLAIMER: All of my assumptions arent to generalize men and women and are just based on the masses of ignorant people out here. Dont want to offend anyone
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What I don't understand is, how come some guys wonder why the girl they are interested in does not like them back even when they do all these nice things if they never expressed interest anyway in the first place?
I remember back in college, there was this nice guy who was interested in a female friend of mine. I know she liked him too, but he never showed it! So my friend thought he didn't like her and eventually gave up on him. By the time the guy had the guts to tell her, she has already moved on to someone else. Poor guy... :shakehead
If you treat the girl just as a friend, then of course she'll only see you as a buddy. But if you are interested in having more than a platonic relationship, then act on it from the very start!
I remember back in college, there was this nice guy who was interested in a female friend of mine. I know she liked him too, but he never showed it! So my friend thought he didn't like her and eventually gave up on him. By the time the guy had the guts to tell her, she has already moved on to someone else. Poor guy... :shakehead
If you treat the girl just as a friend, then of course she'll only see you as a buddy. But if you are interested in having more than a platonic relationship, then act on it from the very start!
She speaks the truth: don't treat a girl you're interested as just a friend.
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I was a "nice guy" right around Jr. High. Then I wised up and became a dick. That certainly got me more girls, the only problem is I dont know how to stop being a dick. I've spent so much time acting like I don't care, it's tough to act like I care, even if I do.
So I get it, I could have been a nice guy, but now I'm not. All thanks to Jr. High girls.
So I get it, I could have been a nice guy, but now I'm not. All thanks to Jr. High girls.
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