Glad to hear it.

 

r u kidding me? her response sounds like the typical female response when she is in the wrong. if the guy was the one at fault he would be saying sorry and apologetic throughout the whole email but when its the girl its like she barely admits fault then tries to change the whole subject with excuses.

 

I guess that's just how it is.

 

:sigh: They're doing better. She admitted it's mostly her fault. Why would you try to propogate negativity in someone else's relationship? Let them focus on the positive.

 

I thought the whole point of marrying someone was to "share your life" with your spouse. Has money become such an important figure that it requires a separate set of rules?

This is just sad.

gatrhumpy, I am not insulting your marriage at all. Don't take this personally please. I see crap like this in my own extended family all the time.

To me life is all about the sacrifices you make to be a better person. The ultimate joy in life would be selflessly dedicating all your physical belongings and your inside feelings to a person(or a group of people) and feeling good about it.

 

I have three kids. First pregnancy my wife was lovey dovey with a hint of crazy. Second pregnancy she cried during m&m commercials. Third pregnancy she was possessed by Satan.

Jelly beans saved my life a few times. Take a tip from your uncle Boogie here, stop by your local Target/Wal-Mart/7-11 and pick up a couple of those 99 cent bags of mixed jelly beans. Leave a bag with a little stiky note that says something like "Hope you have a good day" or "Was just thinking of you." on the drivers seat of her car. Don't say anything and just let her find them in the morning on the way to work. She'll love you for the day and brag to her co-workers about how wonderful you are.

Money issues suck. Combine those with hormonal rages that neither she nor you understand and you get severe brain damage.

Just be extra nice and PLEASE PLEASE buy her an anniversary present out of YOUR account.

-Mark

P.S. Glad to hear everything is going better but now is the best time for the jelly beans. That way she doesn't think you are doing it because you were an ass, just doing it because you love her.

 

Oh God, is this what I have to look forward to?

I laughed at the first part of your message.

Good advice. Thank you.

 

Add in the fact that she feels fat, can't get comfy in bed, temperature is never right and she has to pee every 15 seconds and you get a very volitile (sp?) situation.

The hardest part for me was not over reacting to every situation. Sometimes she'll be mad or sad and its not your fault, don't pressure the situation too much because it will end up in a fight. Show her you love her, tell her how excited you are for the baby and make sure she knows that she has a shoulder to cry on if she needs it. Try not to add extra drama, and remember, its not like she is in control of the hormones...

-Mark

Another note: Its good to have AZ (I'm being honest) for when you need to vent. Type it out here when you are frusted or upset, try not to add to her already unstable situation. Hell, sometimes I even hit the post reply button, type it out, then delete it before I post it. Seems to help me.

 

Yeah she just needs some good ol reinforcment that shows you care about her. In the future, after arguing over something, always try and let that argument go, completely change the subject even "we'll discuss this later, ok on another subject" and change your tone completely as if you hadnt been vehemently fighting just a minute ago. You're switching back into loving husband mode.

Whenever you're really pissed off, ask yourself: Will this fucking matter 1,5,10 years from now? If not, let it wash over you, who cares. If yes, you take a stand and stick with it.

 

Awwww, that's a sweet ideal. Everytime I find surprise candy I'm super happy! You are wise. Each time you get into a fight, remember why you got married in the first place...because you LOVE each other for better or worse.

 

This is what you will do for her this anniversary

 

This is new to me...

 

I did that, but I think I'm passive-aggressive. I tend to let things go, and then I explode when she does something that I don't approve of. That was a bad idea. Now I've become open and honest with her. If something bugs me, I'm going to tell her.

 

this is y i didnt get...the seperate money thing...ur both married so ur money is hers and hers is urs....