so I've been hanging out a lot with a friend more recently. She's hot and we click. Been having lunch together a lot and she's been texting me late at night etc. I just don't have a lot of experience going from friends to more. So what's the best way to do this. Next time we greet and hug, I should make my move and kiss her and see how she reacts?

 

Honestly, just try and get her tipsy/drunk. She will be more susceptible to opening herself up. Unless you are 100% certain she's digging you, you may set yourself up for failure being that direct. Make it in a social setting though, like a lounge where there's good music playing but not loud to the point you can't hear eachother. Let her make the move, but gentle physical touches like brushing her hair back to talk close to her ear or putting your hands near her lower back to get pull her closer works for me.

 

thanks we watching movie at her place next week.

 

A kiss seems a little too forward, but then again, I always go very slowly. I think you want to start with getting your arm around her - that's where I would start. It's fairly easy, just pick a bench seat or couch, sit down first with your arm extended on the back and indicate where she is to sit. If she cozies up to you, you're golden. If she sits close, then you test things out by touching her shoulder and go from there until she feels uncomfortable (which hopefully is never, but you'll know where you stand pretty quickly).

Cuddling leads to better kisses than a greeting hug anyway. A greeting kiss should not be the first kiss. If the first kiss is not from being "in the moment", it should be a parting kiss.

 

Don't just up and kiss her, you need to tell her you want more than friendship

 

Talk about it sooner than later. The fall from the friends ladder is a long one, good luck.

 

me and my fiance were friends at first. We just clicked I guess we started doing more stuff together we had mutual friends, they knew I liked her but she didnt. I think we kissed each other for the first time at the same time, b4 we were together after work I would see her on the phone and I always thought it was another guy, which it wasnt it was just her friends. We used to live 3 blocks away from each other and we took the bus home from work and I would throw out hints when we were together and I guess they finally worked..

 

just watch movie at your house or her house, cuddle, get closer to eachother, then go in for the kiss.

from there on, you can progress.

first kiss tells everything.

 

^ thats what kind of happend with me as well..

 

^flip, this is a diff situation.

i dont think you were ever in the friend zone.
whereas the OP is def. in the gaybuddyletsdoournails zone.

OP:
Dont talk about your feelings with her.
it will get awkward fast.

the other posters that suggested kissing her are right.
but the timing has to be spot on.

 

Read the body language, look for the signs. Don't make a move until they're there.


Don't do the greet and kiss thing...that's a nice way to creep her out and make it awkward

 

^ well for you kissing wouldnt creep her out your driving habits would

 

Movie sounds like great idea. Try get some scary/horror flick, turn off the lights. Man up and make her some fresh kettle popcorn or something, have a couple glasses of wine. When the flick gets scary, just casually throw your arm over her shoulder. If she doesn't slap you, you're doing good. From there, hand on her thigh, not up by her cooch but a little above the knee. If she doesn't slap you or push your hand away, it's looking even better. If you get that far, you may want to chill on the kiss since you already gave her the signal that you're interested in being more than a friend. No need to have a long discussion with her, her body language will tell you if you're in like flynn.

Good luck

 

1. Invite her over
2. answer door without pants on
3. profit

 

^you forgot the cake.

 

i NEVER forget the cake. I am just not sharing it today.

 

Tasty, someone said "cake"?

 

I'm also saying Pics of said friend, OP!!!!!!

 

 

If I ever get a tattoo, it may very well be of cake.

 

Fuck the Cake Give her this when you open the Door. Epic!!!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Usc_9izbJBU

1. Cut a Hole in the Box
2. Put ur Junk in that Box
3. Let her open that Box
4.......
LMAO

 

 

I really like Doc Rick's advice the best. good luck OP

 

You guys are a little more forward than me, I'd talk to her about it before i started grabbing up on her leg

 

I'm in a similar situation (see my dating thread). I would try and talk to her about your feelings, first, and see if she feels the same way. That's how it worked for me, but in reverse. GL.

 

IMHO do NOT talk about feelings, conversation can become awkward (considering you are asking for advice) and make her feel uneasy. Actions (IMO of course) are easier to gauge a persons interest as body language and how receptive she is to your touch will be more of a clear indication if she expresses the same interest that you have. Of course, some conversation must take place, but let it be on an issue you are confident on that she would also have interest in or may excite her (you must pique or strike a talking point that interests her). Conversations on your "feelings" is too straight forward. Touching the leg should not be the first part of her that you touch as well nor putting the arm around shoulder unless she actually leans into you.

 

this.

talking about your feelings(love) to a platonic friend will not go well.
Awkward.

 

Female Perspective: DO NOT talk about your feelings first and DO NOT just go in for the kill with a kiss. (Yes, I know I'm a newbie, but hear me out.)

Women like a bit of subtleness. Personally, I would say to start small - putting your hand on the small of her back to guide her through a door, brushing her hair out of her face, etc. Start complimenting her. (Notice I said compliment HER. Do not say stuff like "love those jeans on you" - that will likely dump you into the gaybestie zone.)

If she feels same way about you, she'll pick up on those things QUICK and you'll notice it in return. It'll be easy to go from there.

 

^win!!!

 

Fo sheez. A persons touch is a clear indicator.

 

Here is some Great Advise...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IKIAbueB9sM

Just tell her how you Really Feel and if she doesn't like you like that Oh Well and move on to the next one, don't feel Scared of Rejection Brah. Be like "Real Talk I am feeling you and would like something more with you, If your not interested then I understand and if you are then Great" You are in!! Girls like it when u are real with them anyways, None of that Beating around the Bush Shit!! I should really take my own advise FML Good Luck Tho!!

 

gaybestie zone

 

Jayne will fit in here

 

Just like me and Justin have been saying. In this instance, actions speak louder than words.

 

It hasn't been said I think, but you have to realize that if things don't work out (either initially or if you do get together and break up) you run the HUGE risk of losing that friendship. Keep that in mind.

With that said where are the pics?

 

OP not back yet, success. Nudez bro?

 

Update please.

Anyways, I've known my girlfriend for 12 years but we've been dating for almost 3. When I first moved here from Orlando we both joined the same bowling league and I couldn't fucking stand her. Even my dad thought she was annoying and my dad likes just about everyone. A few years later I got a job at the bowling alley and she did too. We worked together and got along but weren't really friends. A few years into that we became friends and would hang out after work; go get dinner and shit like that. Then we were friends with benefits with no intentions to make a relationship out of it, but then we ended up getting together.

Cliffs:
-Met gf 12 years ago and hated her
-Starting working with her and got along
-Became friends and hung out
-Starting hooking up
-Made it official and have been together for almost 3 years

So why did I tell you my life story? Because I was in the same boat that the OP is in. I liked her more than a friend but I didn't want to risk losing her if I told her my true feelings. I took her out to a nicer dinner and then we went and saw a movie. I didn't bring up my true feelings at all but rather just watched how she reacted to the situation. If I felt like she was having a good time and was comfortable, then I would tell her how I felt later that night. Which I did and now we are together.

 

You thought she was an annoying 10 year old?

 

More than usual.

I only saw her at the bowling alley so all I would see/hear is "MOMMY MOMMY I GOT A STRIKE LOOK". Congratu-fucking-lations.