Girl At the Bank: UPDATE Page 10
09-30-2008, 09:11 AM
#684
Make a hole, coming thru!
You guys need some reading comprehension refresher training. He's provided Cliffs at least 5-6 times in the pages since 10, and reading his posts, I think he repeated the current state of affairs as many times.
09-30-2008, 09:24 AM
#686
Hang in there Dope, there was a very cute little Panamanian girl I knew in Mobile who was painfully shy, didn't speak such great Inglés, but didn't hesitate to say "Yes!" when I asked her out to see Dizzy Gillespie's band. I was always the one to initiate our seeing each other, but her smile said it all. A hot case of "mutual like." We did mess around a bit until she confessed that her heart still burned for a guy who dumped her. 
So we cooled it. Pity, she turned me on more than a lot of young women.
Aaanyway, having your number and not using it (because then
you'd have hers 
and could text her sometime 
"I'm tired of my homework, if you are too, wanna talk?") is a sign that she's holding you off. Now, maybe she really did just break up and needs a little "alone time," or maybe she is keeping you on the back burner (I hope she's more genuine than that, but I've seen it many times), or perhaps it just will never be.
One tactic that's worked for me more than it's failed ... "the walk-away move." You show interest, let her know you like her, ask her out, and when she doesn't respond, turn 180 degrees and be completely nonchalant (but still friendly). A lot of young women who think they've got men figured out, it drives them nuts. I've had more than a few girls who played "figure me out, maybe I like you or maybe I don't" come running when I showed I wasn't THAT interested to be trifled with. Consider it a litmus test for a young woman's true intentions.
And I know young women reading this will be offended. Trust me, not my intention. I've been at this a while, is all. I know how much time can be wasted wringing one's hands trying to figure out how to make a girl know you like her ... versus just saying it and then waiting for a response. The ones who don't or can't ... who wants 'em? You want the person who likes you and isn't afraid to act on it.
I'd like to give you more encouragement and advice, Dope, but ... it's time for me to make time for my own sweetie.
So we cooled it. Pity, she turned me on more than a lot of young women. Aaanyway, having your number and not using it (because then
you'd have hers and could text her sometime "I'm tired of my homework, if you are too, wanna talk?") is a sign that she's holding you off. Now, maybe she really did just break up and needs a little "alone time," or maybe she is keeping you on the back burner (I hope she's more genuine than that, but I've seen it many times), or perhaps it just will never be. One tactic that's worked for me more than it's failed ... "the walk-away move." You show interest, let her know you like her, ask her out, and when she doesn't respond, turn 180 degrees and be completely nonchalant (but still friendly). A lot of young women who think they've got men figured out, it drives them nuts. I've had more than a few girls who played "figure me out, maybe I like you or maybe I don't" come running when I showed I wasn't THAT interested to be trifled with. Consider it a litmus test for a young woman's true intentions.
And I know young women reading this will be offended. Trust me, not my intention. I've been at this a while, is all. I know how much time can be wasted wringing one's hands trying to figure out how to make a girl know you like her ... versus just saying it and then waiting for a response. The ones who don't or can't ... who wants 'em? You want the person who likes you and isn't afraid to act on it.
I'd like to give you more encouragement and advice, Dope, but ... it's time for me to make time for my own sweetie.
and well yea it's either she's playing figure me out or like you said needs some alone time. but from what i can tell she's being genuine, its not like she doesnt give me ANY play. like when i saw her on frdiay we talked and stuff and then that night when i came home, i had a myspace message saying "it was nice seeing you at the bank today, sucks we didn't reallt get to talk. you know how it is with work and all. so any plans for the weekend?" so although she acts shy in person, im thinking1. its becuase SHE IS SHY
2. she's at work
there's TONS of other girls out there and trust me, while im single, i don't just spend time with one unless its getting serious. but something about this girl makes her stand out from the rest. i'm not yet sure what it is.
09-30-2008, 10:05 AM
#688
actually...
its fail becuase i havent made a "deposit" well all i have to say is, i don't want the type of girl who gives it up fast. that's not gf material, there are other girls for that, which are girls i don't really care for and only call when i want something. as for this one, she seems like a decent girl and that's the kind of girl i want. as of now, i don't know if this is even going to go anywhere, but there's no harm in trying, its not like im spending time with one girl exclusively, or just focusing on one girl, because like i said, that's not the case unless it gets serious.
its fail becuase i havent made a "deposit" well all i have to say is, i don't want the type of girl who gives it up fast. that's not gf material, there are other girls for that, which are girls i don't really care for and only call when i want something. as for this one, she seems like a decent girl and that's the kind of girl i want. as of now, i don't know if this is even going to go anywhere, but there's no harm in trying, its not like im spending time with one girl exclusively, or just focusing on one girl, because like i said, that's not the case unless it gets serious.
09-30-2008, 11:23 AM
#689
Make a hole, coming thru!
good stuff and well yea it's either she's playing figure me out or like you said needs some alone time. but from what i can tell she's being genuine, its not like she doesnt give me ANY play. like when i saw her on frdiay we talked and stuff and then that night when i came home, i had a myspace message saying "it was nice seeing you at the bank today, sucks we didn't reallt get to talk. you know how it is with work and all. so any plans for the weekend?" so although she acts shy in person, im thinking
1. its becuase SHE IS SHY
2. she's at work
...
and well yea it's either she's playing figure me out or like you said needs some alone time. but from what i can tell she's being genuine, its not like she doesnt give me ANY play. like when i saw her on frdiay we talked and stuff and then that night when i came home, i had a myspace message saying "it was nice seeing you at the bank today, sucks we didn't reallt get to talk. you know how it is with work and all. so any plans for the weekend?" so although she acts shy in person, im thinking1. its becuase SHE IS SHY
2. she's at work
...
OBTW, I would vote against the flowers or even a note to her at the bank. She's clearly playing it cool where she works, don't jeopardize that. "It was nice seeing you at the bank today, sucks we didn't reallt get to talk..." confirms that, and is clearly an invitation to reply, "I'd like to talk more sometime, too, would you like me to call you, or do you want to call me some night? Or let me buy you breakfast this weekend?"
... Stands out from the rest, don't know what it is....
09-30-2008, 12:16 PM
#691
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Sorry dope, but you're done. You started this thread on 8/29. Here it is over 4 weeks later and nothing.
Hate to say it... but your chances are pretty much non-existent at this point. The excitement is gone, the mystery is gone... you're just another MySpace friend in her eyes.
Time to move on....
Maybe even a myspace creep, considering asianspec going in and throwing your name out, then she had a bf, then she didn't, but is too busy to hang out with you. Not saying it's over, but certainly doesnt' seem like you're getting anywhere, you haven't even hung out with the girl
09-30-2008, 12:21 PM
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Maybe even a myspace creep, considering asianspec going in and throwing your name out, then she had a bf, then she didn't, but is too busy to hang out with you. Not saying it's over, but certainly doesnt' seem like you're getting anywhere, you haven't even hung out with the girl
09-30-2008, 02:14 PM
#694
Make a hole, coming thru!
Dope is less prone to discouragement and loss of interest than some of you.... Maybe IRL you're Casanovas, but from what we read here.... 
10-01-2008, 09:10 AM
#695
Yep, as I noted before, I think her "bf" response was a result of you asking her out at work, and may've wanted coworkers to think she gave you the brush off. Of course, it's her job to be pleasant and courteous while you're in the bank, but that note on myspunk (I'd forgotten that) the very next weekend, and another the same night that she saw you at the bank, shows that away from work, she wants to get to know you. So you just have to give her the opportunity/opportunities.
OBTW, I would vote against the flowers or even a note to her at the bank. She's clearly playing it cool where she works, don't jeopardize that. "It was nice seeing you at the bank today, sucks we didn't reallt get to talk..." confirms that, and is clearly an invitation to reply, "I'd like to talk more sometime, too, would you like me to call you, or do you want to call me some night? Or let me buy you breakfast this weekend?"
Yep, THAT is the $64,000 question. The fun part of dating is finding out the basis of the "mutual like." Attraction? Personality? Suspicion that to each other you could end up very close and committed? I think that's what "chemistry" is all about. Don't douse it with too much effort or eagerness (like so many here would have you do). Just keep letting her know you're around (because if there WAS a bf, she most certainly is giving herself a little "alone time," not to mention maybe not dating so her friends won't think she's a tart). /me can't believe all the supposedly grown up guys here who don't suspect that she might want a week or two or three to message you on MySpace and see if your interest is authentic, find out what you're like away from the teller window.
OBTW, I would vote against the flowers or even a note to her at the bank. She's clearly playing it cool where she works, don't jeopardize that. "It was nice seeing you at the bank today, sucks we didn't reallt get to talk..." confirms that, and is clearly an invitation to reply, "I'd like to talk more sometime, too, would you like me to call you, or do you want to call me some night? Or let me buy you breakfast this weekend?"
Yep, THAT is the $64,000 question. The fun part of dating is finding out the basis of the "mutual like." Attraction? Personality? Suspicion that to each other you could end up very close and committed? I think that's what "chemistry" is all about. Don't douse it with too much effort or eagerness (like so many here would have you do). Just keep letting her know you're around (because if there WAS a bf, she most certainly is giving herself a little "alone time," not to mention maybe not dating so her friends won't think she's a tart). /me can't believe all the supposedly grown up guys here who don't suspect that she might want a week or two or three to message you on MySpace and see if your interest is authentic, find out what you're like away from the teller window.
everyone says fails just becuase i havent gotten in her pants or gone out with her. WHO CARES. she's obviously shy and i'm gonna give as much time as she needs until she feels comfortable enough to go out wiht me somwhere.
no homo?
lol there you go 
that you like women lol just messin wit ya man haha
10-01-2008, 11:40 PM
#708
~Da Nocturnal Cheetah~
Dope, stop playing around and move or remove playboy. You know that there is a "window" when it comes to this sort of thing. Sometimes you sound like you just want to hit it. Not happening real quick with this one. Not that type of girl. Then, sometimes you sound interested in more. If so, the next time if you get nothing definitive when you step to her, then step off. Remove this one from your mind. Put the work on her to get back at you.
But these bank runs and myspaces. You know that ain't right. You gonna play yourself soon on this one. She might be hung up on the bf and trying to keep you at arms length for the "break glass in case of an emergency" for all you know. The pauses between communication are enough to make you wanna see the exit. Pressed fools linger after they get the "Heisman". That ain't you, and that ain't how it's done. I ain't even gonna say good luck, cuz you need to leave her alone man.
Do work soon, or move on...she might be looking at you from a different perspective anyway by now...because you slacking...
Peace2fingaz!
But these bank runs and myspaces. You know that ain't right. You gonna play yourself soon on this one. She might be hung up on the bf and trying to keep you at arms length for the "break glass in case of an emergency" for all you know. The pauses between communication are enough to make you wanna see the exit. Pressed fools linger after they get the "Heisman". That ain't you, and that ain't how it's done. I ain't even gonna say good luck, cuz you need to leave her alone man.
Do work soon, or move on...she might be looking at you from a different perspective anyway by now...because you slacking...
Peace2fingaz!
10-02-2008, 09:54 AM
#717
Drifting
10-02-2008, 10:37 AM
#720
Make a hole, coming thru!
