Girl At the Bank: UPDATE Page 10
09-25-2008, 01:53 PM
#641
^ I know you won't fail to deliver.
When you give out your number, it implies that you want her to make the first move.. not a great idea assuming she might not have the courage to initiate the first move. Who care if she requested you, doesn't it say "friend request" anyways.
Since you initiated the move by asking her out, you should utilize that momentum and carry out the rest of your initiatives. Ask for HER NUMBER, in that case no need to hassle with messages and you can call her straight up, 3 day wait of course, this way you have a better channel of communication and she will definitely know you are interested.
As for her ex, forget him. You better make your move quick before her ex plays some type of Marvin Gaye music and shows up at her front door with a dam kitten and a box of Swiss chocolates trying to make amends.
Timing is everything my friend, one second delay could cause what was meant to be a good relationship between you into "oh shit, now I have to change banks because I can't stand to see her back with her ex."
When you give out your number, it implies that you want her to make the first move.. not a great idea assuming she might not have the courage to initiate the first move. Who care if she requested you, doesn't it say "friend request" anyways.
Since you initiated the move by asking her out, you should utilize that momentum and carry out the rest of your initiatives. Ask for HER NUMBER, in that case no need to hassle with messages and you can call her straight up, 3 day wait of course, this way you have a better channel of communication and she will definitely know you are interested.
As for her ex, forget him. You better make your move quick before her ex plays some type of Marvin Gaye music and shows up at her front door with a dam kitten and a box of Swiss chocolates trying to make amends.
Timing is everything my friend, one second delay could cause what was meant to be a good relationship between you into "oh shit, now I have to change banks because I can't stand to see her back with her ex."
09-26-2008, 11:35 AM
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Dope have you guys spoken since the last update? She has your # now right? Perhaps you guys can get together for the weekend. What does she like to do in her free time?
Is there a show playing (like a play or something) or maybe you guys can meet up at the park and a small picnic or something...I dunno
How opposed are you to heading up there today and talking to her in person now that she's broken the ice? I think that'd be a great idea...now that the ice has broken, you can flat out ask her out on a date...maybe even meet up with her after work tonight
The old BF is out the picture so now you're good! This should be an easy one now since most of the road blocks have been eliminated ( plus it issss Friday haha) Keep us posted bro we're pulling for you
Is there a show playing (like a play or something) or maybe you guys can meet up at the park and a small picnic or something...I dunno
How opposed are you to heading up there today and talking to her in person now that she's broken the ice? I think that'd be a great idea...now that the ice has broken, you can flat out ask her out on a date...maybe even meet up with her after work tonight
The old BF is out the picture so now you're good! This should be an easy one now since most of the road blocks have been eliminated ( plus it issss Friday haha) Keep us posted bro we're pulling for you
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09-26-2008, 11:37 AM
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Dope have you guys spoken since the last update? She has your # now right? Perhaps you guys can get together for the weekend. What does she like to do in her free time?
Is there a show playing (like a play or something) or maybe you guys can meet up at the park and a small picnic or something...I dunno
How opposed are you to heading up there today and talking to her in person now that she's broken the ice? I think that'd be a great idea...now that the ice has broken, you can flat out ask her out..
The old BF is out the picture so now you're good! Keep us posted bro we're pulling for you
Is there a show playing (like a play or something) or maybe you guys can meet up at the park and a small picnic or something...I dunno
How opposed are you to heading up there today and talking to her in person now that she's broken the ice? I think that'd be a great idea...now that the ice has broken, you can flat out ask her out..
The old BF is out the picture so now you're good! Keep us posted bro we're pulling for you
im planning on asking her if she's busy after work and if not we could do something. 
she hasn't replied on myspace but when i see her in person she'll have to reply lol
09-26-2008, 02:18 PM
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For the manager right?
Yeah leave the myspace alone for now especially since she's not on there. That was for last week to help buy you some time and break the ice.
Now that the threshold's been crossed, you can walk into the bank but in a different position than before and it should be much easier.
Is Asianspec rolling with you as the decoy for the manager this time?
Now that the threshold's been crossed, you can walk into the bank but in a different position than before and it should be much easier.
Is Asianspec rolling with you as the decoy for the manager this time?
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09-26-2008, 02:27 PM
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For the manager right?
Yeah leave the myspace alone for now especially since she's not on there. That was for last week to help buy you some time and break the ice.
Now that the threshold's been crossed, you can walk into the bank but in a different position than before and it should be much easier.
Is Asianspec rolling with you as the decoy for the manager this time?
Yeah leave the myspace alone for now especially since she's not on there. That was for last week to help buy you some time and break the ice.
Now that the threshold's been crossed, you can walk into the bank but in a different position than before and it should be much easier.
Is Asianspec rolling with you as the decoy for the manager this time?
and asianspec isnt rolling with me, i can handle this one myselfdont jinx me!
09-26-2008, 04:13 PM
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09-27-2008, 01:50 PM
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For the manager right?
Yeah leave the myspace alone for now especially since she's not on there. That was for last week to help buy you some time and break the ice.
Now that the threshold's been crossed, you can walk into the bank but in a different position than before and it should be much easier.
Is Asianspec rolling with you as the decoy for the manager this time?
Yeah leave the myspace alone for now especially since she's not on there. That was for last week to help buy you some time and break the ice.
Now that the threshold's been crossed, you can walk into the bank but in a different position than before and it should be much easier.
Is Asianspec rolling with you as the decoy for the manager this time?
09-28-2008, 05:56 PM
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Yea dope the longer you wait the more of a chance you are put on the friends ladder or put in the end of the line of potential sutiors player. You have to do something quick or you may get screwed.
09-29-2008, 01:18 AM
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09-29-2008, 10:07 AM
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lol ok, i went to the bank friday, she was there, i was enxt in line and she was available so i sent to her window. we talked a bit and i asked if she was doing anything this weekend she said she had TONS of calculus hw to catch up on. i said i had hw too but if she wasnt too busy maybe we could do something, she said she had taken my number down from when i gave it to her on myspace and she would text me and lmk. well she never did, but she replied on myspace saying she has been busy with work and hw.
shes SHY dammit! cuz, she seems nervous when i see her in person. on myspace she's herself a bit more. anyways, im thinking progress is going to be slow like it has been, she seems cautious, and it doesn't surpirse be since she seems like the girl who's been hurt and cheated on time and time again. from what she's told me too, it seems this way. will keep u guys updated
09-29-2008, 10:43 AM
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Don't ask her "maybe sometime we can do something", be more assertive man. Find out when she's free, call her up and tell her bitch we're going out.
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09-29-2008, 11:32 AM
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She just broke up with her boyfriend...if you're going to be her man, umm its going to take a while. Either she's worth it to you or you're very patient...especially if she's acting like this now....
09-29-2008, 11:49 AM
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lol ok, i went to the bank friday, she was there, i was enxt in line and she was available so i sent to her window. we talked a bit and i asked if she was doing anything this weekend she said she had TONS of calculus hw to catch up on. i said i had hw too but if she wasnt too busy maybe we could do something, she said she had taken my number down from when i gave it to her on myspace and she would text me and lmk. well she never did, but she replied on myspace saying she has been busy with work and hw.
shes SHY dammit! cuz, she seems nervous when i see her in person. on myspace she's herself a bit more. anyways, im thinking progress is going to be slow like it has been, she seems cautious, and it doesn't surpirse be since she seems like the girl who's been hurt and cheated on time and time again. from what she's told me too, it seems this way. will keep u guys updated
09-29-2008, 12:10 PM
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yea true, i'll keep at it and im patient, there's other girls on the side so im not worried about it, this one caught my attention more than others, so i'm willing to put in more work,. who knows, it could be worth it in the end.
09-29-2008, 02:18 PM
#674
Sorry dope, but you're done. You started this thread on 8/29. Here it is over 4 weeks later and nothing.
Hate to say it... but your chances are pretty much non-existent at this point. The excitement is gone, the mystery is gone... you're just another MySpace friend in her eyes.
Time to move on....
09-29-2008, 03:15 PM
#676
Sorry dope, but you're done. You started this thread on 8/29. Here it is over 4 weeks later and nothing.
Hate to say it... but your chances are pretty much non-existent at this point. The excitement is gone, the mystery is gone... you're just another MySpace friend in her eyes.
Time to move on....
so this isn't over, progress is slow but steady. so yea
09-29-2008, 03:21 PM
#677
I'm Down Right Fierce!
I'd have to agree with JuniorBean. Its been too long; and personally I don't believe in the "Tree Chopping" theory. If the girl doesn't fall for you initially, its time to move on.
Just move on. I'm sure you can find another girl at college.
Just move on. I'm sure you can find another girl at college.
09-29-2008, 06:35 PM
#679
Make a hole, coming thru!
09-29-2008, 08:02 PM
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Make a hole, coming thru!
Hang in there Dope, there was a very cute little Panamanian girl I knew in Mobile who was painfully shy, didn't speak such great Inglés, but didn't hesitate to say "Yes!" when I asked her out to see Dizzy Gillespie's band. I was always the one to initiate our seeing each other, but her smile said it all. A hot case of "mutual like." We did mess around a bit until she confessed that her heart still burned for a guy who dumped her. 
So we cooled it. Pity, she turned me on more than a lot of young women.
Aaanyway, having your number and not using it (because then
you'd have hers 
and could text her sometime 
"I'm tired of my homework, if you are too, wanna talk?") is a sign that she's holding you off. Now, maybe she really did just break up and needs a little "alone time," or maybe she is keeping you on the back burner (I hope she's more genuine than that, but I've seen it many times), or perhaps it just will never be.
One tactic that's worked for me more than it's failed ... "the walk-away move." You show interest, let her know you like her, ask her out, and when she doesn't respond, turn 180 degrees and be completely nonchalant (but still friendly). A lot of young women who think they've got men figured out, it drives them nuts. I've had more than a few girls who played "figure me out, maybe I like you or maybe I don't" come running when I showed I wasn't THAT interested to be trifled with. Consider it a litmus test for a young woman's true intentions.
And I know young women reading this will be offended. Trust me, not my intention. I've been at this a while, is all. I know how much time can be wasted wringing one's hands trying to figure out how to make a girl know you like her ... versus just saying it and then waiting for a response. The ones who don't or can't ... who wants 'em? You want the person who likes you and isn't afraid to act on it.
I'd like to give you more encouragement and advice, Dope, but ... it's time for me to make time for my own sweetie.
So we cooled it. Pity, she turned me on more than a lot of young women. Aaanyway, having your number and not using it (because then
you'd have hers and could text her sometime "I'm tired of my homework, if you are too, wanna talk?") is a sign that she's holding you off. Now, maybe she really did just break up and needs a little "alone time," or maybe she is keeping you on the back burner (I hope she's more genuine than that, but I've seen it many times), or perhaps it just will never be. One tactic that's worked for me more than it's failed ... "the walk-away move." You show interest, let her know you like her, ask her out, and when she doesn't respond, turn 180 degrees and be completely nonchalant (but still friendly). A lot of young women who think they've got men figured out, it drives them nuts. I've had more than a few girls who played "figure me out, maybe I like you or maybe I don't" come running when I showed I wasn't THAT interested to be trifled with. Consider it a litmus test for a young woman's true intentions.
And I know young women reading this will be offended. Trust me, not my intention. I've been at this a while, is all. I know how much time can be wasted wringing one's hands trying to figure out how to make a girl know you like her ... versus just saying it and then waiting for a response. The ones who don't or can't ... who wants 'em? You want the person who likes you and isn't afraid to act on it.
I'd like to give you more encouragement and advice, Dope, but ... it's time for me to make time for my own sweetie.