Then it's a lost cause.

 

Bro you already gave her the heads up that you weren't comfortable with her maintaining contact with her ex. Her persistent calling and texting, even more so when inebriated, is a slap in the face to you. If you are really are a top priority in her life, she would try to avoid doing things to jeopardize her relationship with you. Her inability to move on from her ex is a worrisome sign about her relationship and feelings towards you. For example, I believe that I should minimize or cut off communication with my ex when I start dating a new woman because I'd like to devote all my attention towards the new relationship. Maintaining communication with the ex, even if it's platonic, to me detracts from cultivating the new relationship. For those who say you've only been dating her for a few months so why are you worried, i call b.s. If she's acting this way now how the f- do you think she's gonna be acting 6 or 12 or 18 months down the line? You seem like a good guy and a solid catch so man up and extricate yourself from a relationship that to me sounds like a waste of time. Either keep her on the side as bed buddy with no strings attached or acknowledge and move on. My

 

I always say I am one of the easiest guys to cheat on Rav. I mean, I allow a woman to police her own bullshit. Not an insecure bone in my body. But, having said that, insecurity is NOT the case for our boy. Insecurity is when you have problems with a situation, and those problems originate and are fabricated in your own mind because of trust issues already in place. But, it's not insecurity when your significunt other does shit to make you feel like that!

For example:

Insecurity
Your lady likes to hang out with her girlfriends, and she is attractive. You always see guys looking at her and admiring her near and far. However, she never returns their admiring stares, and she doesn't smile up in their faces. She doesn't do anything to perpetuate this "admiration". Nevertheless, you don't like this, so you keep tabs on her, suspects that she is cheating, and every once in a while pop up out from under a manhole cover when you see her talking to someone with a dick!

Scheming slut
Your lady likes to hang out with her girlfriends, and she is attractive. You always see guys looking at her and admiring her near and far. However, she not only returns their admiring stares, and smiles up in their faces, but she says she takes their phone numbers for "business purposes". She doesn't do anything to curb this "admiration" and reminds you that that's how your weak ass got hooked in the first place! You don't like this, so you keep tabs on her, suspects that she is cheating, and every once in a while pop up out from under a manhole cover when you see her with someone - with a dick in her mouth!

Ya feel me???

 

lol

 

Hm .. OP has yet to re-chime in on our thoughts and his current situation.

 

seriously?
clearly kick the bitch to the curb, no ifs ands or buts.
it's obvious how she feels about you, about her ex, and what kind of girl she is.
no point in talking about it with her, just get her out of your life and move on.. you got a rotten one this time. next!

 

If he gives her an ultimatum she'll just be more careful when she talks to him so the OP doesn't find out.

She's a slut...it's that simple.


I feel bad for 1StGenCL though. I remember some of his posts in the past...guy has the worst luck.

 

^ Man, that sucks. I hope he took my advice to heart.

Most guys don't realize that one of the biggest keys to that turnaround of crashing and burning...is higher self-esteem. You never build that and confidence if you let people continue to come first. Love of self before somebody else can love you, will help see him thru some tough ordeals. The people he deals with will be whoever they are, but HE will handle it differently and that is the thing that must change!

 

That pretty much sums it up.

 

GF still calling her EX???

No... regardless how they ended... its just wrong...

later on once you are married, she's still going to be calling the other guy??? You won't be able to tell her not to anymore... You guys get in a fight and who is she going to run to? Yuuup, the guy that has been on the other side of that phone consoling her all these years... and now its time to pay up... if you know what i'm talking about...

Even as your GF...

Then again, i'm Mexican, and every culture has different views on this...

 

Scottman - maybe you are right, i should just bring home random girls because i have shitty luck but i am not sure i believe in luck. People have some control over what happens to them and i think i am a push over. Like the last girlfriend/thread, I am really nice to them and they start to walk on me and know they can do whatever. This one is beautiful and I care a lot about her but I feel deep inside she knows she can get away with murder and still be with me. I guess i need to be more of a dick and just say fuck you, I can do better. I finally did it with the last one after much delay but i have learned that doing it from the start has far better results

 

Good Bye Girlfriend, Hello Single Life

 

congrats!

 

Don't take no sh*t.

Make the Gorge this year, you'll get some if you want some.

 

I would let her know how you feel about her calling the EX. If she still does it after the talk, then its time to move on without her. Its obvious that she is still hung up on him.

 

Chances are she was still sleeping with him anyway.

I'm not one to usually suggest this but since she treated you like shit.....

Hopefully you hit it like it was nobodies business then dumped her.

 

+1

 

i am the same way as you, i'm the nice guy for a girl i like.

but dude this one girl i've been talking to did some shady shit and what not. well we are "freinds" now, and i haven't given her the time of day in the last week. well now she tells the kid that had us meet that she wants me, and wants to hook up with me this weekend when we go out, and possibly go out with me. she likes the fact i'm not trying to be her bf, so fuck it, i'll just let it happen

 

Not all...some and the ones who mostly do it are the hot chick types or maybe even the cute chicks with a complex! The way I see it, some pretty girls take advantage of their looks and think that they can get away with everything because these poor men (like yourself) ALLOW them to take advantage! I see this all the time! Men get suckered into this vulnerable stage because a girl is either hot or good in bed! So, they turn into a DOORMAT and these women expect things to be the same regardless of what they do or say because it's obvious that you are giving her the power to! I mean, it's not just men, but women go through this too!

So, don't let anyone screw you over like that! It's obvious she's not into you because then she wouldn't do such a horrible thing! I say, grow some balls and boot this whore out of your life because it's obvious that she wants to have her cake and eat it too! You deserve better than that! So don't compromise your worth for anyone!

And just so you know, this is coming from a strong, independent female!

 

Just like when you screwed me over.........J/P

 

I did no such thing!


What YOU did was very deserving in its own rite! =p You deserved to get your balls handed to you! You messed with the wrong female! haha

 

+2

Raw dog and bail man. Then, a month or so later, call her and tell her you got teh gonorrhea, and you are sure she gave it to you.

 

I know, I deserved it. But I miss you girl! Sorry for messing around. Will you ever take me back

 

Okay, no more jokes! I don't want people here getting the wrong idea! Too many people here are UPTIGHT!

 

I thought you were more relaxed now Joy, you know you can't change public opinion/perception...might as well do you sugar and have fun!

 

I feel ya girl

 

I am relaxed! haha Btw, I don't like being called by my middle name...call me Shay!

 

That must be a woman thing...not the first I've heard it...Shay it is!

 

Werd. I try to do the same as I want to show the current gf I am committed to only her and not my ex.

 

haha its funny..im on the other side of this.. i went out with this chick for 2.5 yrs and then we broke up and now shes with this new dude, probably only been like 2 months or so, but a couple weeks back she called me up and starts saying that im a better guy and that she still loves me, and that she made a mistake and shouldnt have broke up with me, so i was like aight you know what?, let me talk to this girl and shes all about getting back together with me while she is still with the new bf. i told her straight up that if she wants to be with me she has to break up with that dude and stop talking to him period... theres no need for any bull shit. the sad part is the night that i started talkin to her i got caught up in the moment and we hooked up, looking back on it I feel like a dick, but I still have feelings for her and vice versa so it was ~kinda~ justified. in any case i was like alright im really not going to go through this BS with you..its either him or me..im not going to go back out with you unless he's out of your life completely. well in the end she chose him..so now shes out of my life completely..i burned that bridge. but to the OP, being on the other side of your situation, you (the new bf) shouldnt have to put up with that shit, if she can't treat you right, then she doesnt deserve to be with you. dump her ass and dont look back; however if you feel strongly for her, then talk to her and see if shes willing to work on the whole ex thing. if she does it, who knows where the relationship can lead...if she doesnt then, you need to end it and stop hurting yourself

 

iimm sorry but i woulda broken up with her sorry ass a long time ago =)... i dont put up with that crap with my gf's... i got better things to do than waste time on a girl thats obviously not inerested in a relationship.... or money both are a factor =).. but yea.. dump her ass

 

the Gorge would be freakin amazing. I was flipping thru my iphone and realized that most of its harddrive is dave. I have been hooked on radio city lately...

 

Not to laugh at your plight, but this post is damn funny... i spit water all over the place.

Truth be told, it is true, if you dont look out for you first, no one will!