I have not been around this Planet for a long time, but have grown very wary of being set-up. It seems everytime I meet someone through a mutual friend who claims we would be "perfect" together seems to be a HUGE waste of time. Am I alone with this, or is it genuinely a cursed approach to meeting the person you want to engage in a long term relationship with?

 

IMO you'll find the one for you randomly, not by being set up by another person to go on a date and instantley fall in love (although that has happened berfore)....

the pure fact that you're looking for long term probably makes women weary of you. i advise u go w/ the flow and everything will fall into place

 

I see it as yet another avenue to get laid.

nothing wrong with it.

 

I've been set-up twice by the same friend. The first time, I was in a relationship for more than a year. The second time ... well, I'll let you know how it goes. Going good so far.

 

i say make sure it's not a date at first. if your friend thinks you two should meet, have it be in a social setting. go out to a bar or something, where you can talk, but you're not required to exclusively talk to her.

actually, i've never had good luck with this. it's weird, because the few times i've been purposely introduced to a guy, he's been attractive, etc, but the personalities were ... duds.

BUT, never rule out the possibility of meeting someone new, even if it only results in friendship. people forget that it IS possible to be solely friends with the opposite sex.