Does anyone have any good ideas i can use to convince my girl to go to the gym with me? First of all I know it's a touchy subject cuz it's like saying 'hey youre fat.'

Thing is, she always talks about how she has a big ass and wants to lose weight, etc. but she's to lazy to do anything about it. So i suggested she go with me for that and also since i usually go alone, it would be nice to have a lifting partner.

Trust me, I'm happy with her appearance now, just losing 10-20 lbs would make her look that much better. (I recently saw my ex from last summer, who I was very attracted to even though she was kinda chunky, for the first time in a year and she has since lost 20 lbs and looks damn good. Kinda like how having $5 million is cool, but having $6 million would be that much better.)

Also, she makes up excuses like "I don't wanna get all sweaty and gross in front of you" and things like that so I try to tell her that there's a degree of attractiveness in a girl that gets sweaty...i.e. takes care of her body (which i didn't actually say).

Trust me, I'm happy with her appearance now, but she's not, although losing a few lbs never hurts plus I know she would end up being more confident of herself and her body. Plus it would give me a lifting partner. So how can I convince her to get her butt to the gym and workout with me without hurting her feelings or sounding selfish?

 

Very touching subject that I have run across. I would say keep asking her to go with you. Tell her how much better she will feel afterwards. Tell her it would be fun to work out with her and that you would like to do it together. The last thing to say would be to tell her that, "you are always talking about how you want to start working out." Try to avoid anything resorting to the word "weight" or her appearance.

 

I wouldnt know a delicate way to put it..

suggest that you would like to spend more time with her, but its hard to do so with such a busy schedule (assuming you have one) and working out would be a good way to spend time together and talk..

this way it appears youre making an effort towards the relationship and spending time with her.. not trying to get her butt in the gym to lose weight.

 

Oh man, people better have some tips for me here tomorrow - got to go now - she's lumbering this way as I type!

 

fuck that. when my girl slacks off at the gym, i just say "so... when exactly was the last time you went to the gym" her: "uh.... why" me: "no reason, its just.... forget it"

i'm a dick, but whatever, i'll tell my girl straight up if she's gaining weight.

 

tell her exercise is good for her heart and she will live longer and not have a stroke.

that way its not about being fat.

 

OK thanks guys...she did play like 3 sports in high school but for the last 3 years it's all just drinking and eating bad food. So it's not like she's never been active in her life.

 

just say "hey fatty fatty fat fat why don't you eat another donut"

 

I just told mine she was getting chubby, was kind of pointless since I was 260lbs at the time. But now that i've lost 20 she's been motivated

 

so that's why adri is on that south beach diet and has made her sick

tsk tsk tsk

:P

 

we got a winner

 

get her to go hiking with you or whatever

that really plays on Silvias relationship spending time idea.

 

Tell her the truth about needing a lifting partner. If she does go maybe she will like it and start wanting to go, or maybe not, but it would be worth a shot.

Better than telling her she is fat and having her pissed off at you.

 

tell her about teh hawt chicks at teh gym that are always flirting with y0u. she'll be working out like a motherfucker.

 

exactly the opposite case between the wife and myself. She loves to go to the gym and she can't convince me to go (after like 30 tries)

 

"bitch you is huge! you best work out or i'll remove you from my stable of hoes"

seriously .. who knows. girls only work out between relationships. sad but true. they get so relaxed in the relationship that they almost don't care. i mean this goes for guys too but more so for girls.

 

Why not just call her on it? If she keeps talking about how fat she is and needs to lose weight blah blah just tell her then wtf don't you do something about it and stop bitching? Its a nice little reality check. I recently started doing pilates with a friend and whenever one of us gets lazy and starts talking about how we need to get toned we remind each other that we're not getting shit done just talking about it. Maybe start a support system or something with her, and encourage her to do it because its good for her health

 

Just tell her if she gets healthy and stays healthy you two can live longer together and life will be more enjoyable if both of you were in good shape to do whatever later in life. Even if you don't plan on being with her forever this might work.

 

Indeed! I like the idea of calling her on it. This way you didn't start it and she doesn't have much leverage on you.

 

reward her in some kind of way

 

But not with a dozen hot glazed donuts from krispy kreme.

 

Mental Abuse is the best way to trim a woman down. Follow my checklist and she should lose weight or kill herself.

When you are making love and she is on top, groan and struggle, occasionally gasp for air.

Buy her a dress 2 sizes too small. Before you give it to her tell her you spent all day looking for it and it's the one dress you would die to see her in. When she says it's too small, frown, look disappointed and say 'well I based it on your dress size when we started dating, didn't know you were not that size anymore.......

If she has a sister that is fatter, accidentally call her by her sister's name and then say ooops! For a moment I thought you were (Sisters name here).

If she has a sister skinnier than her, be sure to stare at her more when you go over and ask 'those shorts your sister has on, weren't they yours a year ago? "

When you go out to eat in public, let her order first and then YOU order a salad. When her calzone comes out look disappointed and stare at the nearest waitress's ass.

This thread could come in handy: Using PAM in the bedroom

When you lie in bed together, be sure to complain about how warm it gets nowadays in bed. Put a fan in the room and remove a cover or two. Talk about how when you are alone in bed you are never that hot.

Put on a porno when having sex, stare at the TV while your banging her, every time your view of the TV is obstructed be sure to push her away and complain.







































(Don't follow my advice)

 

Classic Ernie right there.

 

omfg

 

That's great....maybe go looking for a new forklift and when she asks why, just explain to her it will be the only way her big ass is gonna get around if she keeps gaining weight.

 

I've grown fond of just letting her catch me staring at her butt in a dazed manner and occassionally poking her in the gunt when I need to get her attention. She got the hint years ago but hasn't done anything about it.

 

Next time you are heading to the gym tell her that she is coming with you, and that she has 5 minutes to get ready, and if she starts to complain tell her that there is a glazed ham in the front seat of the car waiting for her. That'll probably get her out there.

Seriously though, you could just say that you are sick of listening to her bitch and moan about how she looks, and that if she cant drag herself to the gym, then whether she likes it or not, you will drag her there with you when you go.

 

when its your "girlfriend" nothing should be a touchy or sensitive subject to talk about. flat out tell her, no reason to beat around the bushes and give her signs. The next time she says anything about herself being fat or large, tell her to do something about it and tell her you will help her out like, you will purchase the membership for her, take her whenever she wants to, also give her some kind of incentive too!

i think you are having trouble brining up the subject. so dont! wait for her to make the move and then speak your mind. this way if an argument breaks out there is no way you are at complete fault and you will be on the defensive side and not offensive side of the argument. I mean shes the one who brought it up, so she wants to talk about it, so she is asking for your advice!

or if you are totally impatient about waiting for her to make the move then be aggressive.

the type of excuses shes giving you makes me want to believe that she thinks its flat out gross to be around sweaty people in a fitness club or gym? is she a clean freak or does she not like to touch anything gross?

well purchase her a membership and take her out shopping for gym clothes. or take her out to different fitness clubs and help her choose one that she will be comfortable with

or you can get her a tread mill or eliptical machine to put in the home and see if she uses it.

sidemarker

 

I kinda agree with sidemarker on this one. but depending on her personality she may not want to feel like you are making her go. For some women you have to persuade them to go and then convince them that they are going because they want to. Tell her you need someone to motivate you so that she would be helping you out. This wouldn't work for me because I'm a sexist pig and would not get much out of "lifting" with my wife.

 

any ideas on how to get into her butt??

 

Go find Always Dirty's thread about diamonds. That should help a bit.

edit: here's the link: http://65.54.244.250/cgi-bin/linkrd?...goto%3dnewpost

 

everytime I see this thread title I can't help but think of someone trying to find a way to tag their girl at the gym.

 

The only way you can get your girl in the gym is to break up with her.

My ex has lost 10lbs and gotten a new hotter hairstyle since we broke-up. Trust me it never fails, revenge and loneliness, those are the only things that motivate chicks to take care of themselves.

 

Or beating her so she looks horrible and then she gets motivated to do take care of herself...

 

yeah you gotta dump the bitch. then she'll lose weight. beyeeotch will lose weight just to piss you off.

 

 

I thought the same thing...I quess my mind is in the gutter...sorry ya'll

 

next time in bed look at her body and go "is that a stretch mark? no? cuz i swear i think u got stretch marks.. yea.. on your ass too..."

 

Hey she's not fat, she's just overinflated.

 

if she puts one donut in her mouth, you go on and eat a dozen...if she puts on 20 pounds of flab, you gain 40 pounds. Thats the chicago way.