Friend A started dating friend B.

Three months after dating, A slept with ex-gf and got her pregnant.

Somebody called and told new GF that happened.

Stayed together.

Fast forward 2 years to today.

Somebody sent B a message saying hes cheating again.

I suspect its true based on what he has said and who we have been with in the past (just at the bar and such)

Do I tell friend B even though I met B through A?

 

once a cheater, always a cheater. I have 2 friends like that. The one guy tells me he loves his g/f and has since proposed (she accepted). But he is screwing this other woman he met at work and she knows he is just a booty call. He was also cheating on his ex when he was with her.

 

Yeah, thats the way I see it. But do I tell her (B)?

 

NO! WTF?? NO!!

And no, I'm no cheater...

 

No- someone already did that.

You should only respond, if asked, that B should talk to A about their relationship, especially since you are not certain about the facts.

 

If she stayed with him after he already got someone else pregnant, she isn't going anywhere. So it doesn't really matter if you tell her or not.

BTW, did the ex deliver or abort?

 

Dont say anything. stay out of it. these things have a way of working themselves out. Not always good...but you dont want to be rolled into the drama.

 

Stay as far from this as possible. It will end badly. And you don't need to be part of that.

 

Yeah, in this case stay out of it.

If I were you, I'd be evaluating my friendship with person A, but then again, I feel very strong about the whole cheating issue.

 

 

If you rat on A, it will look like you want to get with B.

 

Have a talk with A...
Don't tell B anything... stay out of it...
That is all you can do...

Oh and
Its hard watching your friends go through this type of stuff but you are not the one in the relationship... let them work their personal lives out... If they ask your opinion/support/etc... try to stay neutral and don't choose sides... Don't say anything that will give leverage to one of them over the other... NEUTRAL!!! Even if they don't work out or aren't friends with each other, you won't have nothing to do with it...

 

I told my friend A, 2 years after she broke up with "friend B" ended up staying friends with B and not A. She was like "Yeah that sounds about right" She didn't get mad or anything cause it had been 2 years.

 

Friend C has to stay away because C doesnt need the drama

 

mind your own business. thats a book you dont even want to get into. in the end it will only cause you problems. if you want to be a friend be there for whoever is your friend when the shit hits the fan. they will need some consoling and drinks.

and whatever happens dont hook up with any of them it will make you look bad and everyone will hate you in the end. not saying thats what you want to do just in case it comes up.

 

Shit it the fan. She came over here today unexpectedly while I was talking to him on speaker... she heard him rambling on about how his ex-gf and him talk all the time.

She called him and bitched. He drove here, they fought in the car. Now I don't know where shit is, but I told the doorman not to let him in the building.

End of story.

 

doh!

 

should have just hung up on him real quick. i never talk to people on speaker. i guess all you can do now is just wait and see what happens. a good friend will be there for good friend when they need someone. gl with everything

 

Wtf? Does she have a key to your place? Unfortunately, the stuff always comes out in the end....cheating is never a a good thing, yet so many people do it....

 

She came over unexpectedly...you had him on speaker...that's rather convenient, given that you wanted to dime him out all along dude...how did the conversation continue long enough AFTER she walked in, to hear all of that? Again, I am not an advocate of cheating, but damn man, aren't you supposed to have your boy's back? You let her keep listening to that shit? Something don't sound right there, but it is what it is...that's fucked up! Real fucked up...you wouldn't have to kick me to the curb, I would kick YOU to the curb for that shit...

 

 

It didn't I hung up faster than you can imagine when I heard her banging on the door screaming at me.

Either way, kicked them out to the street and let them fight there.

I don't know what the deal is now, they say they are in a "limbo" sort of on a "break"

I told both of them this morning they are out, I'm not dealing with the shit - if they want to stay together, stay together away from me so I don't have to deal with their constant arguing. If they break up, good.

Then again... she stayed with him the first time, he cheated, they are both stupid - maybe they are right for each other.

 

I'd hate to have YOU as a friend.

 

Because I was contemplating telling B?

It turns out its his ex-gf sending these anonymous messages saying hes cheating. Joy to the world.

 

My humble opinion: don't offer any information to B unless asked. Sounds like B knows. If asked, I'd tell the truth, but providing unsolicited information puts you in the middle of it.

 

Do NOT get involved........it's THEIR issue

 

They are done. He said 'its time for her to heel and as long as I'm in the picture, she won't be able to" and "i'm just a constant reminder of the fuck up 2 years ago"

 

are you a or b?

 

I'm D

 

and this is why I dont tell ANYONE what Im doing, or have done!

 

+2

 

+3

 

See...this is my thing vp911...How can you even imagine stepping out of bounds, and going to your man's girl and telling on HIM???? That's your friend! How can you do that? You wouldn't even know her if it wasn't for your man! That's foul playa! For even thinking it!

I think you have something going on with B...how did she happen to hear that conversation? She has a key to your house? Why does your boy girl have a key to your house? Even if she doesn't, shit is foul...ya'll fucking...or you want to, but that might just be me!

 

Good points...I thought the same thign....

 

Something is going on here. Either the OP is after his boys girl or is just a cockblocker in general. Either way

 

it had already crossed my mind. otherwise he wouldnt be putting himself in the middle of this drama. nothing good is going to come of this.

 

Just getting the facts straight and in one place... (correct me if I'm wrong)

A = Your Friend (Intorduced you to B)
B = Your Friend's girl
C = Your Friend's Second girl (Cheating with)
D = You

Ok... A was cheating with C while he was together with B... You were contemplating on telling B but you met B through A making A your primary friend (homeboy)... You were talking to A through your Notel speaker phone... B over heard your conversation (B was coming over to your place by herself for??? ... ) B started banging on the door and was getting crazy on you to get info out of you (or something esle out of you )... A rushed over and tried to settle things with B with you as a mediator... You flaked and kicked them to the curb to settle their problems on their own terms without you... They went and argued in their vehicle... Now they broke up...

Now the question everyone else has is why was she going to your pad/location by herself???

Why didn't you help your boy out and mediate, to calm the missunderstanding??? This would have left everything at where it was before and you could of talked to A in a more private setting... #1 reason why I hate Notel...

Now you either potentially lost both of them as friends...

At least next time you know what to do... we live we learn... gl...

 

What fucks my head up is why a mofo would even post that he went foul like that on his boy, like we gonna validate his treachery by agreeing with him. Man, I wonder if dude know he turned bitch on him like that...

Haha...you said he should "mediate" huh? More like "her he ate"!

 

He may have gone foul on his boy, and we certainly don't have to agree with it... But the way I see it is that this is a learning experience for him and this is why he posted it here for us to give him some advice on what to do...

In other words, his inexperience with a situation like this led him to post it here so that the ones that do have any experience with it can help him out... If the OP keeps us posted on his friendship with his boy, we will never know if he knew he "turned bitch" on him...

@ "herheate"

Mediate... help his boy out in that instant to clear out the misunderstanding, because he got involved in something he shouldn't... once you are in, you aren't suppose to bail... Don't choose sides... just cover for your primary friend... afterwards him and his friend should have gone out to shoot pool or grab a couple beers to talk about the situation his friend found himself in... advise him to quit his cheating or else his girl was going to find out...

I still want to know what she was doing at his place...

 

Well to me it seems like things worked out for you. You no longer have to worry about whether to tell her or not.

Now you have to ask yourself....is he that close of a friend that you can't hit on his ex? Well, is he?