I had a date earlier today. Sunday night, I was at the bar and caught up with an acquaintance of mine who I hadn't talked to for a couple years. Well, it turns out that he had this really hot friend. We end up all dancing together, and Ryan (the hottie), is a little drunk. I'm sober. He starts making fun of the hideous people staring at him, and I laugh because some of the things he said were just so funny. To make a long story short, we ended up dancing a little closer (but not touching), and our mutual friend ends up leaving. We talked while dancing and I found out that he just got his degree at the U of A. This piques my interest! After talking about university and our courses, he asks me if we should leave and grab some coffee or tea. So I agree and we go to Tim Horton's (it was 3AM, nowhere else was open). It turns out he likes the music in my car (and he likes my car!), Mean Girls is his favourite movie (it's a top 3 for me), he's very well read (we share some favourite books), he thinks Lindsay Lohan > Hilary Duff (so do I ), He-Man and She-Ra were his favourite shows growing up (ditto), and he likes sports; he played football in high school as a linebacker (WOW!). He's also 22 (a year and 22 days older than me), 5'7" and built like a tank with perfect teeth! So when I drive him home, we didn't kiss right away (even though I could see he wanted to, but he said he was worried about his breath smelling like coffee, I told him not to worry about it). It turns out we only hugged, and exchanged contact info, and I asked him if he wanted to come over to my house tomorrow (which was today). He said sure!

So today, we're at my house and we were supposed to go swimming but he forgot to bring trunks. Oh well, so I suggest we rent a movie. My good DVD player downstairs rejects the disc (it won't even let me insert it!), so I try the PS2. It plays 3/4 of the movie and then can't read the disc. So we go up to my parent's room to use their machine. We finish the movie, the whole time rubbing our legs together in very subtle ways, but there wasn't much talking during the movie. Then we go into my room and check out what books I have. He's got his degree in psychology, so of course he's interested in the book I have about the nature of sexuality. We end up laying down on my bed while we have a long talk about that and He-Man, and a whole bunch of other stuff. Then we end up snuggling close and nuzzling each other. Finally we kiss. It was just a little peck on the lips, but it turned into very mellow making out, nothing more. Then I decided I had to drive him back home because it was getting late, so I did, and he offered to take me shopping for clothes next week on Sunday afternoon and said we'd have a blast.

CLIFF NOTES:
- met a hottie through mutual friend.
- date was kinda awkward and kinda not at the same time, kissing & making out happened.
- second date is already arranged

My question is, how do I go about making the initial awkwardness go away? He claims he had a great time. I told him I liked him, and he said the same to me. I told him the reason I was a little bit shy was because I like him. I hope that wasn't a mistake. He said it was cute. How do I not screw up during our next date?

 

I'd go out somewhere and do something with the guy.. spending time in public with somebody will help ease the awkwardness... Maybe coffee or lunch or seeing a movie in the theater.. you just need to spend more time with the guy.. good luck!

 

Thanks...we're going shopping together on Sunday in West Edmonton Mall (one of his part time jobs is at Banana Republic, selling clothes). One problem is that if I ask what he wants to do he says, "Whatever you want to do" and just smiles at me all cute and stuff. Is that a kiss of death? Or is he just a little indecisive, or is he implying that he indeed likes me and it doesn't matter what we do as long as we spend some time together?

 

Stop thinking so much and go with the flow... maybe he just wants you to take charge and call the shots... just go with what feel right...

 

Okay, I'll take your advice and try that. I'm sure the shopping trip in itself will be enough to occupy us.

 

Yeah it should do the trick.. just relax and be yourself, I'm sure you'll be fine

 

It's hard to just relax when one look at him and I have trouble even thinking right!

(for the ladies of AZine)


I kinda had a little daydream about him at work. I guess if things are right, they'll just fall into place. It really is difficult to not be totally distracted though!

Has anyone done anything to prepare themselves to try and not get totally lost in their date?

 

hes lying to get in your pants...

 

Seems like you had a really good time, I don't understand the problem really?


Just go for it. Then again, look where that's gotten me


You and him would make a great duo

 

sounds like your really interested in this guy....I'd say just go with it smooth and see what happens and plus you got nothing to lose

 

Maybe he wants you to have him ? Do you mind being in control, or would want the partner to be? Sounds like he's not worried about doing anything as long as its with you... good luck.

 

uh....i guess you should.......uh......dunno? I've never given gay relationship advice before, so all I can say is....... good luck!

 

I don't think that's the case, otherwise he would have been more agressively trying when he was drunk on Sunday night, which he didn't.

 

Thanks, I actually talked with him on MSN last night. We got to know each other way better. It was a little easier not in person so I wasn't all gaga over him (that was the problem initially).

 

I like his hair...does that make me gay ? or am I gay because I said it ?

 

 

 

Nah...I dont find him attractive...but Richard Gere...

 

initial awkwardness is common. No sweat. When you can fart in front of him you know that you are in a comfortable relationship.

 

However crude that sounds, it's totally true! I think the ice is gradually breaking while talking to him online.

 

Yah no need to rush things.

 

Okay, so I had fun with him Friday night and last night (Saturday), and we had a great time. Today was really weird though. I was at his house and we watched a movie and he was sitting close but not quite touching, and then he was all weird after when I was leaving and only gave me a short little hug and no kiss like he usually does when I leave. I asked him if something was up and he said no. I'm worried that this is the end of it...I sure don't feel good about myself right now.

Why would he do such a thing?

 

meh you thinking too much...
seen "Last Samurai" ? there is this this line : "...too much mind...no mind !"
you got one hawt homo btw

 

yeah, I gotta agree there. If I had a few drinks in me and got *bopped* on the head, I might take him on myself.

 

Why are all the good ones gay?

 

YoungTL is slowly converting the men of Acurazine...

 

Stephy32 is turning us all off to women.

 

As long as he's not acting like this you are thinking too much:

 

Thanks guys. It just seemed like such a sudden change, and I had a bad gut feeling, so I'm a little concerned still, but not as much after reading that. I guess my problem is I've been too trusting in the past and got my feelings hurt one too many times, and I get paranoid that it's going to happen again.