hi yall,

as some of u know, i have been having problem on and off with my gf who is an EX now.

Well, this Deputy from Sheriff called and wanted to inform me not to call her or text her anymore. And he also said, "that She will be going to some County Court office to get protective order against me that will be served to me."

First all, she is pshycotic, i havent even tried to contact her or send her any messages. So who knows .... my main concern is this...

im no lawyer, but what does this "Protective order being served in court" Means for me ?

If it means, i stay the F*&K away from her and never contact her... Fine by me... i would love for that to happen.

I dont want nethin to do with her, I just dont want anythin negative on my record...

I want to cover my own A$$ as well, should i also go and get a protective order against her ?

Thanks again for readin and feedback
Ash.

 

Sounds like she's getting a restraining order on you. I'd talk to a lawyer about what it might mean for you in terms of undesirable ramifications and an appropriate response.

Mike

 

Sounds like you need to have a good alibi, let someone know about the situation so they can back you up if she pulls some psycho shit on you. This is some scary shit. I read a story about a guy who got put in jail for beating up his ex. His ex was psycho and pre-fabricated the whole thing. Cops didn't believe the guy until the chic messed up her story later on.

 

Back in my university days...same thing happened, except within the school system and not "official". It turns out she was sending herself death threats using an account similar to mine. Me = in big trouble even though I didn't do anything.

Be careful.

 

Right on the money. She is going to establish a legal set of restrictions from your contacting her or being near her. If she is, indeed, creating an impression of you as a stalker, you really need to contact an attorney to explain exactly what she is doing, and tell you what your rights are as well. At the very least, if this individual goes off any further, you will be "lawyered up" prior to the the shit hitting the fan.

I would also start to keep a fairly detailed daily diary. Buy one of those daytimers; they have a day at a glance kind of thing, and annotate where you are through the course of the day and who you are with. If this nutball goes off with some accusations of you stalking her, your daily diary will become invaluable in establishing the legitimacy of your non-involvement. Annotate your telephone calls as well, so that accusations about wild telephone calls can be denied. It may be worth changing your land line, if you have one, to an unlisted number, and switching numbers on a cellphone, if you have one. Your diary or daily calendar, by the way, should be a "paper trail", which I believe is admissable in court. Electronic diaries (Palmpilot, etc) can be too easily doctored for some folks to believe it, alhtough a printed and annotated output from such a device might work. But trap all the detail - friends you socialize with, and when you left them.

And be aware of reverse stalking, she may wish to shadow you seeking to find an opportunity to create a scene. If you do see her, head the other way, preferably into a public place - restaurant, bar, store, dorm, classroom, office, whatever - and engage in conversation with folks so that your behavior can be documented. Thus, when she starts railing about your stalking her or some other such bullshit, you can establish that you were buying a cup of cappucino from a clerk named "shelly".

Whatever you do, do not try to engage her in any conversation, even if she approaches you. She will distort any response. If she approaches you in a public space, walk away, and move to a "safe zone" = restaurant or such. If she attempts to call you, even after having changed your number, etc, block the call.

 

You should contact an attorney ASAP. If she gets the TRO it may affect your gun rights and it will be be in the NCIC for the long time, if you apply for a job, new employer can find out, etc... .

 

Im sorry.. TRO and NCIC means ???

 

be very very careful, similar thing happened to my uncle when he was in school. this bitch he was fuckin decided to file rape charges on him. naturally he was cleared because it was bulshit. she also got a restraining order. one day he was at the library studying. she comes in sees him in the corner and called the cops, since "technically" he wasnt supposed to be within 200ft of her.

be real careful man

 

TRO = Temporary Restraining Order

NCIC = National Crime Information Center

GET A LAWYER TODAY!!!!!!!!!!!

She is definitely trying to set you up. The suggestion for a daily journal is right on the money, DO IT

 

Thanks for all ur advice peeps... A-zine always comes thru

Ahhh I think i kinda went overboard, i got this letter from her today via a mutual freind, explaining how much she loves and cares for me, and that she wont really be doin nethin legal against me. She also said that she doesnt see a future with us nemore due to the number of times we have broken up and gotten back together.

Its true, we have always had a rocky past 6 months. Now im confused, cuz as much i wanna be over her, her givin me the letter, and as i was walkin away on campus, saw her and her freind on a bench crying her eyes out.

I truly dont think she is right for me, but at the same time I still Love Her! The reason being is she gets mad very quickly, she is stubborn and she thinks im stubborn.

In a marriage there has to be a compromise, and we both feel that either one of us dont comprise wit the other partner as much.

Ahhhhh soo confused yet soo desperately in love with her !!!!

-Ash.

 

share your pain here, and not with her. The two of you sound pretty volatile, and the discussion of legal action came from somewhere - something she said in a hot moment. Usually, that kind of thing re-enacts. Try to find someone who finds your stubborn-ness cute and endearing.....

 

Thats fucking nuts...that sucks for you man, good luck with that shit.

 

Well Said Eric, this time im not goin back or givin in! .

Every friggin time, i go back cuz im miserable, things are hot for 2 weeks or so, and they go down hill again mostly due to her being moody and overly dramatic bout everything. And we fight again n again!

Both of us i think arent meant for each other! What she says and what she does are 2 different things!

She claims she loves me, but i know ne gyrl wouldnt jus talk bout leavin over a stupid fight and she will want to make things right almost instantly cuz the bigger picture is we love each other. She NEVER did that ... i had to be the one making thing right... whether its her fault or mine!

Eric, i think ur right on this one, Stay away and jus kind of hope we both end up in a happier place !

Thank U Sir !
Ash.

 

Attorney stat.

Don't sign crap.

Get attorney.

Daily journal is execellant advice.

been there, done that, don't want to do it again.
(psycho chick trying to own me when I haven't seen/spoken/talked to her in over a year)

Get attorney, NOW and don't EVER contact her again in any way shape or form.

 

Good Lord!!!

WTF is the world coming to these days...this thread makes me glad I'm happily married. If you're mobile, I'd almost recommend to get the fuzz out of dodge.

 

i dont know about you guys, but, with my extremely little ammount of experience, i would say call the deputy and tell him about the letter adn that you have no fucking clue why she is doing this

 

Just to be safe, contact your lawyer with this info or your local law enforcement. I woudn't take any chances

 

Nothing more you can do then that... ric set you up with a list of "to do's" and with every one of them... record everything you do during your day... keep a journal... receipts of you being at a store here and there...

good luck with phsycho girl... even though you are in love with her and what not... doesn't seem that you two are compatible... she was close to Mrs. Right... but not the one for you hommie...

about the letter she wrote you and sent it with one of her friends or whatever... Ignore it... save it in case you need it etc... but most likely she is trying to cover up what she really is trying to do legally... Just do what ric said and you should be fine...