Ok guys, I think I could help some of you out w/ your relationship issues. I've managed to keep myself in one for over 6 years now and since I was 18 I've been through most shitty scenarios.

Fair warning:

I am brutally honest, as some of you know. Don't ask if you are a sensitive sally.

 

Why am i so picky when it comes to girls Dr.??

 

because if you don't want to have to turn off the lights when you hit that tail.

 

How do you respond when girls talk about other guys they have been hanging around, or want to do something with? do you just say "OK"

example:

Girl: this kid wants to play me in bball
Pid3w: who
Girl: he said he wants to work out n shit
Girl: ___ ___
Pid3w: whos that
Girl: we play for the same team just he plays for the guys
Girl: he is in my grade

what do i say to that? like, when she mentions other guys i feel jealous as hell but i dont say anything cause i dont wanna control her, shes her own person and can take care of herself.

 

shouldve asked me. I know.

 

ok, what should i say?

 

because you have standards and not everyone is suppose to match up to them

 

Why do the girls I'm into eventuall bail on me, even if they are into me and why are the ones that are into me usually don't attract me? Tell me more than simply "you gotta be a dick"

 

well i have to understand a couple things first.

are you dating?

if not, are you interested in her, is she showing signs of being interested in you?

 

Poachin' eclipse's patients...buzzard.

 

we're dating for like 2 weeks now, but its high school relationship if that changes anything

 

i'm gonna take advice from a fart?

 

Dr. Love-SICK is not amused. Your thread sucks. Lock it bub.

 

Lemme guess, you are looking for the PERFECT GIRL. Well, guess what, reality check, your not the perfect guy. From last I know your a 20 something cell phone salesman with a big mouth and a good line for everyone. Focus on yourself and look to see what you bring to the table before being sooo critical of someone else.
Once you are totally comfortable and HONEST with yourself you'll see your impossible standards will ease up a bit. After all, we are all human.

 

Well, lets break it down:

Your young, and I am not holding that against you or making you feel bad because of it. This person obviously means alot to you, and your scared of her leaving you or finding someone who is better than you, etc. Unfortunately we all go through that ackward 'serial killer' stage of life where we want soo badly for someone NOT to leave us we get jealous whenever that 'special someone' is talking to the opposite sex. Although I think my advice may be a little too hard for you to follow right now, I would say that you give her a little bit of room and act cool about it. Girls HATE guys that are over-protective but they also HATE guys that totally ignore them. Some girls love to test guys like this "Me and my friends are going to the club" or "This guy at work wants to take me to lunch, as friends ofcourse" and it's up to you to carefully guage the threat. Go with your gut, if you think it's not right make subtle hints that your not happy with it. If you see something that is obviously him trying to get your girl don't let him walk all over you. BUT, if your not sure either way, don't be over-reactive or it's bye bye to her. Your g/f will have guy friends and that's ok, as long as there is a a very defined line that your the B/F and they know it.

 

You have to ask yourself 'am I fun to be with?'.

I know it sounds silly but there is alot of truth behind that question. Girls love fun, dynamic guys with a good sense of humor and a bit of 'randomness' to them. In a relationship, especially a starting one you need to sell yourself a little. You have to show her your unique and attractive and do things that make her laugh and keep her looking at you. Are you a selfish person? Do you think of your date when your hanging out? What is usually on your agenda when going on a date or when dating a girl what do you find yourself wanting to do w/ her? (aside from the obvious). There is also the 'click' factor: Have you ever 'clicked' with someone else? The 'click' is a girl you once dated that it was just a very natural relationship. If you don't feel that 'click' well it's a harder relationship to foster because you have to work harder to shape yourself perfectly into the relationship. My best advice is to stand back, take some personal observations about yourself, think about your last 5 dates or so and try to figure out why they failed.

 

LOL I started posting in here based you so called 'great advice'. :pfawk:

 

It sounds like shes trying to see how you feel for her. Girls do retarded things like that.
She starts talking about another guy and if you go and get all jealous and upset, and she thinks its so cool that you like her enough to get upset about her. A lot of times shes playing a game to make herself feel better.
I saw it happen all the time in highschool. girls would do stupid things to make their boyfriends jealous, just to see how far the guys would go for them.

Just sounds like shes testing the waters to see how much you actually like her =)

EDIT: I also agree with what eclipse said as well. if you act TOO jealous, shell throw it back in your face saying youre over protective and holding her back

 

Marry me? LOL, kidding, I just totally agree with what you said, and I wish more people would be willing to take this advice before they go criticizing others for petty little things that, in the long run, are not that important.

 

That what I am hazy on...the last one felt right, it felt good like it was clicking. Then she went for the douche bag with no plans for his future, no education...

 

that means she lacked intelligence. thats not your fault

 

i sense some competion between eclipse and dr love sick. Personally i love eclipses break up letter ideas.

 

man that was some good advise, thanks eclipse and silvia!!

 

eclipse has a good insight. i just know cause i have the evil double x chromosomes.

 

Dr. Love Sick who? I run this part of town.

 

Your real honest man, i wasnt expecting such decent advice...good looking out...

 

You know I don't mean any harm by it. Honestly, if it helps your game, that makes me happy.