I have an ex I have sex with when she comes into town. It's no big deal and I told her straight up I am not looking for a relationship just some loving. WELL she is a bit weird because she tells me she doesn't have any feelings about sex so it's no big deal. It kinda scares me because she wears low cut clothing and has a million male friends who are always coming to visit her in college. It's like every weekend some dude is coming to visit her...he could be an old friend or an ex coworker. It's a bit un nerving and I always ask her who she has had sex with and so far it was only me and one other guy. SO my problem is I am worried she doesn't think highly of herself and shows her body off because she has self esteem problems and gets herself in sticky situations that if I were the guy in that situation I would expect sex from her but she swears she doesn't. I dunno I feel kinda bad and don't want to see her turn into a whore...so should I save her and try to talk her out of acting the way she does or leave it alone and when she is in town get my nut but make sure I strap up before hitting it?

Cliff Notes:
-Have a ex I fuck when she comes into town with no strings attatched
-Scared she has low self esteem and may become a whore
-Should I try to save her by talking to her and telling her not to go down that path or should I shutup and just get my nut.

 

"turn into" a whore? I think the transformation may have already taken place.

 

Depends on how you feel about her. You've peggerd her self-opinion fairly accurately, the quetsion is whether she wants to do anything about that. If she doesn't, she won't .... on the other hand, she may, if someone talks to her about it in a caring way, begin to think about her self in different terms.

 

Same here, man I dunno I feel bad about it for some reason. I guess because she is my ex and plus I hate seeing chicks give it up without at least being in a relationship or being in control, sometimes I just think she does it to feel better about herself. Like all her male friends are always making comments about her breast and she eats it up. My ex, fuck that...you better not ever say some shit like that to her.

 

You sure your not jealous?

 

 

I'd continue hitting it

 

Touche
I have to admit I enjoy having a sex buddy who hasn't been ran through by half of Boston so yeah I am thinking that is a part of it but at the same time I would actually like to see her do better.

 

If you really are concerned and want to help her with her self esteem, you can always stop using her for sex. Your choice

 

 

WHY!?
I have actually considered doing this but damn it it is so much fun!
But in the end I think I may just do that because she actually does like me and I always feel bad because I never feel like talking to her.

 

Well I guess I got my answer but now does it make a difference if I talk to her or not? I mean does that ever really work or am I just spinning my wheels and should just leave her alone.

 

Keep it in the AZ family. Post her cell phone. Better than TOTAL strangers banging her silly.

 

well my current/ex girl is very similar to that, has a lot of guy friends, and has huge boobs and wears "boob shirts" a lot. WE recently had a falling out, and I just don't want her to become a girl that gives it up easy. I've talked to her about her self esteem a lot and she just doenst' buy it. She's gotten a little better since I met her, but she still feels unattractive, and I'm just hoping she isn't gonna go have sex with guys just to feel "wanted". It also doens't help that her dad is a total prick to her.

you can try talking, but it only MIGHT do something.

 

good point

 

See that's the thing, all her male friends make sexual references about her boobs and butt. Is this normal? I mean do healthy stable girls like this and let this happen? Am I being too uptight?

 

definately what I was thinking. For one, she said she's not sleeping w/ these guys and you assume she's not. So she dresses in skimpy clothing. When was the last time the majority of girls on a college campus didn't?


Big deal she has guys visiting, that's her thing If you try to step in and "talk to her" about being a whore she will most likely never speak to you again.

 

Sounds like she hangs out w/ a lot of immature guys

 

True prolly just Jealousy but the weird part is it doesnt bother me when she tells me she has sex with one of her male friends on a normal basis. So far I know it was me and him that have hit it. I asked her if she has had sex with anyone else and she wouldn't answer me.

 

dude. she is your EX!!! whats with all the pussy ass threads these days. If she tells you a bunch of guys are comming to see her and then says shes only slept with 2 guys and you believe her ... YOU are an IDIOT! "Don't save her. She don't wanna be saved."

 

why screw with it now

tap that ass

 

LMAO best post today

 

dumbo ...

 

 

can we see some pics please? please?

 

I would but too many Bostonians, someone might know her

 

I feel you about not saving her. I have had many harlotts in and out of my life that I could give a fuck about. I guess its the fact that I am hitting it and the fact I used to date her whatever man. I like being a pussy

 

All these male friends coming to her house and she doesn't think sex is a big deal?

You better get to the free clinic.

 

Seriously. I can't find my "Enjoy your AIDS" pic

 

Girls don't want to be saved. Saved from what? You're just saying that sex with you is ok, but with other guys, it's a no no. Come on, that's hypocritical. If she's not your girlfriend anymore, let her do what she wants and skip the saving for the right wing conservatives.

 

LOL sex with other guys is ok...she is currently having sex with one guy. My thing is having a bunch of partners. But yeah I get what your saying.

 

Advantage - Nut.

 

You can't up someone's self esteem if they don't want to themselves. sounds like she's carrying baggage too. obviously you still care about her/dont want other guys to hit it because of selfishness (its normal i do it all the time). even though it seems to be NSA on the surface it seems like it's coming with some strings anyway.

 

I'm glad you came to your senses. Now find yourself a new girl and forget about your ex-girl. Live and let live.

 

Yeah I just finished talking to her and broke our friends with benefits off and she is probably not going to talk to me again. I basically told her she walks around and talks like a loose girl and people are going to look at her as a loose girl and that's how I am looking at her and I thought she would have realized it by now. I know I took the pussy way out and truthfully if she wasnt my ex I might not have cared but since she is and I obviously care for her it's hard seeing her act this way. So I said fuck it.

 

 

Yeah, if you care about her, say something. Make it short and sweet and leave it at that....

I totally understand how you feel. My ex of 16+ years now has a 3 year old, lives in a nice house ($1,500 rent) and does not work. She is living off what she got from our divorce.

I finally could not take it any more and said something. She was not pissed and she knows what evertone is thinking. I do not think she is going to listen but at least I spoke my peace...

 

To quote E-40 "Who's that in the skaaay 'Cap'n Save A Ho Maaaaaaan!".

But I say keep things they way they are, unless you are willing to handle it. If you give the advice, she will come back to you for more and more until your ears melt.

 

I think you just did an extremely stupid thing. The kind of thing that would of gotten you slapped had you done it in person.

 

Meh everyone knows I am an uptight prick and I was just being truthful. She would know better then to slap me. I was just telling her not to walk around with her titties hanging out all the time and expect respect from guys. Plus she played games with me and a bunch of other guys I know. In the year after she broke it off with me she dated 5 guys...4 of them were guys I knew. I was just telling her hell if she is going to act like that then 1 don't be around me and 2 you need to respect yourself. I might be a self righteous judgmental bastard but sometimes I wish more people were truthful instead of having their friends walk around like whores.