synth19

This really is directed towards the guys, but does it bother you if your significant other makes more money then you? I probably make double what my wife makes now, but in my single days I dated two girls who made significantly more then me. First girl was a consultant and about 6 years older then me. She defined "shuga momma," most of our meals were comped and I flew for free. My friends always made fun of me because she was always buying me shit too... lol..... Anyways, didn't bother me in either situation....

dom

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No, my wife actually makes a K more than me now. Probably not enough to bother me but I don't think her making 10K more would either. At least I hope.

CGTSX2004

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My philosophy is...if she makes more than me, might as well enjoy it.

Whiskers

At first it kinda did (this is when she made slightly more then I did)...I don't think I was jealous, I think I just didn't understand why I couldn't make more. She then hit a point where I knew I couldn't make what does in my field (IT) unless it meant 80 hours consultant weeks in the city....At that point, It kind of felt more of a relief that I could have a job I wanted and not be so concerned about money. When we get back to the US, I will try to find a job that I enjoy and at least pays decently...

jlukja

it bothers me that she doesn't.

j/k

When we married I made about 40% than she did but she's been promoted at her job more than I have at mine and now she's catching up (behind by only 6%).

SwervinCL

I wish... I dont care who makes more. Just SHOW ME THE MONEY.

badboy

gf and I are both in the IT field....it's been going back and forth for a couple of years now....but she is getting her mba in May this year, so she'll be making a lot more that me hopefully.

fdl

cazzy

My girlfriend makes about 19 K more than I do and it doesn't bother me one bit.

At first glance, many people assume I am the bread winner, but that is because she is very bad with money. If I do marry her, I am marrying into a shit load of debt.

Ryee

My wife makes about 50% more than I do. But, she's in sales and is very successful. It doesn't bother me too much, after all she's the reason I was able to buy my TL.

Mokos23

No I wouldn't care as long as my gf and I are happy. Also, both of us could buy more of the stuff we both want like another car or that nice 50 inch LCD TV.

doopstr

I wish she did, but she makes 0

tdhillon

i think i'm too young to fully comment (seeing as i'm not married) but i don't think i'd really have a problem as long as we were both caking it and doing what we wanted. But seeing as i'm in finance, chances are i'll generally be higher.

spdy0001

Girlfriend is still in college but when she graduates and becomes a teacher she will probably make about what im making or less. I don't see why this would bother anyone, heck I wish she make 100X more than me.

97BlackAckCL

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I wish my girl made real money, she cuts hair and waitresses, and makes

03silvertypeS

My girl just got a job offer starting off making more than me and when she's all done w/ school and training, she'll be making a lot more than me. I'm perfectly ok with it. If i had the desire to get into healthcare, I could make the same as her, but it just doesn't appeal to me.

mfkitson

Crazy Bimmer

If everyone knew that my wife/girlfriend made a lot more than me, then i think it would bug me.

But if its something thats not talked about with others, then no i would care.

Jared03CLS

My g/f makes quite a bit more than I do, but who cares.

As far as what people might think? I care even less about that. Anyone that would bash you about it is doing so out of jealousy anyways.

AdamNJ

I sure hope you are able to turn her habits around long before marriage comes, overwise I see problems in your future.

eve

No, it doesn't bother me.


However, it bothered my ex that I was making more than him. He would always bring it up too.

moeronn

My wife makes fairly close to what I make. If she made more than me, that would be great - as long as it didn't involve her working a ton more hours or increase her stress. She works hard and takes her work seriously.

She was considering going into school administration for the pay increase, but it would be way more hours and way more stress. The hourly pay would end up being roughly the same.

BustedJack

nah.... why should one feel awkward or bothersome. After all, it isn't always about pride........ as long as money is coming in to the family, I can careless how much more she makes.

Business aside, the wifey puts my salary to shame...... but with the business, I puther salary to shame x 10


those who have a problem when their significant other makes more........ is obvious insecure about themselves. Too much pride and should just go take a shit and relief some of that pressure

BustedJack

at least she gives great head?

cazzy

Yeah...she's a shopaholic. A shoe sale to her means buy 5 pairs to take advantage of the sale. It could be a problem or maybe she will finally be able to afford her habit when that time comes. She's in health care and is one of the best at what she does in the area. In a few years, and after she finishes up her MHA program, she should be making well over a 100k.

Either way...my daughter is 7 years old and also loves to shop (yes, my gf has something to do with it), so I can guarantee there will be problems in my future...at least financially.

doopstr

Either you or Scrib need to change your Avatar. I read this and spit my water across the room, then I realised it was you and not him.

doopstr

amisconception

She doesn't make more money than me...

But if she did, not necessarily. If money changed her, then yes, it probably would...

Infamous425

first couple yrs we were together i made more now she makes more, doesnt bother either of us

saiko_cl_duck

i make the money, it'd be nice if she made more. But who really cares, it's not much, but we get by on what we have, and we're very happy.

CLsuperhero

Somebody let me know where I can find a suga mama... I've only dated broke hot women. It was be nice to be bought things for a change rather than spending my money (or what's left of it) all the time.

EuRTSX

Stop paying for prostitutes.

fla-tls

Absolutely not. She's worked hard and earned every bit of it. In fact, I don't understand why anyone would be upset that the one they love is doing well financially.

sasha

When I graduate this year and finally work, my bf knows I'll be making twice more than him but it doesn't bother him.

mg7726

i honestly wouldn't care. i make decent $$ for myself anyway.

fast-tl

Wifey outdoes me by quite a bit the last few years, but in her field (tech writing/project mgmt) it's feast or famine. She mostly does contract jobs because it's hard adding nearly 100K to payroll, so when she works, it's killer, but the work hardly lasts; it's one assignment starting, then kepe an eye out for the next project, just in case. I say as long as the bread's coming into the same pot, all the better for everyone.

Also, someone edit the thread title, should be 'makes more $$$$ THAN you' not THEN you.

subinf

I wouldn't care. I'd actually like it. She could actually come visit me instead of me always going down to see her.

crazymjb

I could see it being bothersome to some as society still does dictate that men are supposed to be the provider and protector, etc... If my SO was able to kick my ass I may feel a bit bad, but financially I wouldn't have a problem.

In fact, If I won the lottery, though I would still eventually get a degree as I think intelligence is important, the things I would follow a completely different path career wise. If I find myself in a similar situation with my spouse, I would also consider doing something along the same lines.

If they can't love you for more than what you make, than they're not worth it. However, if you have them carrying the weight (not incredibly easily mind you) of the entire family and show no effort to help out, than maybe you deserve it.

So ultimately, no, I don't care what my SO makes.

Mike

jupitersolo

I don't have a problem with the money she makes, almost as much as me. But my job is volatile. Wholesale food sales. Her job get us health bennies and health retirement. I make sure that I tell her often that her job is more important than mine. I've been doing it for 17yrs, if one big account goes away, there's only 5 of us in the company.



My wife had problems with money before we meet. Once we got serious I told her to get her shit cleared up. Once we were engaged I told her she was to be debt free before we got married. I think she had one store card with a couple hundred dollars.

neuronbob

I wouldn't care if the wife made more than me. Then I'd be able to spend more money on car mods. That is, after the baby's educational savings and retirement savings are taken care of. She'd be able to buy whatever she wanted without having to bug me--I'm the budgeter in the house.