pgt89

I got a divorce. I don't know what else to say. I am somewhat depressed. I think I will be on this board lots more now. I am not looking for a new girl or anything and money is a little tight so that doesn't help.

eclipse23

Why a divorce? Irreconcilable differences? Adultery? Any kids caught up in this?

pgt89

I think I checked the "marriage is irretrievably broken" box. There is no children involved, thank god. I went through my parents divorce and it was horrible.

bsomm22

I feel you man, in a way i feel like me and my girl just got a divorce, except we broke up after 6 years.

Was there anything specific that caused the break up? What is scary is that sometimes people just grow apart and change over time. How does anybody know that you will still love the same person 10 years from now?

Bulldog01

Welcome to the club. It sucks ass for a while, but you begin to understand that, depending upon your particular situation, it's likely a blessing.

I was with my ex-wife for 5 years before our wedding, and then 5-6 years of marriage. 10-11 out of 30-or-so years, at the time, was a healthy chunk of my life. I was with her all of my adult life to that point.

I think mine was the same reason...irretrievably broken. Some shit just ain't fixable.

PM me if you ever wanna talk about anything.

jimcol711

caught her bangin someone else?????

jimcol711

were you deployed or something? and she did something while you were gone? by the way, all the respect in the world to ya for being in the armed forces.

pgt89

Thanks for the advice and offer, man.

pgt89

No, not like that at all but if I did I would be in jail. I wouldn't touch her, though. I don't believe in hitting women.

HIM

pgt89

Thanx.

Out of our five year relationship I was gone for over two years of it. We kinda grew apart.

1killercls

jim is so subtle...


Sorry dude, been there done that. Brighter horizon around the corner.

ironchef10

Things happen for a reason. All the best to you.

BTW...where are you stationed?

pgt89

Thanks. I am in Panama City-- Tyndall AFB.

darrinb

bro u got a 6 speed with those mods, nothing can stop ya

ironchef10

Tyndall? 325th FS if I'm not mistaken. I think some of our birds (F/A-22's) are training there!

pgt89

^^^ It is the 325 Fighter Wing (FW) with the 1st, 2nd, 43rd, and 95th FS Fighter Squadrons. The 43rd has about 4 or 5 of those F-22 Craptors. There are F-22's in Texas???

pgt89

I want to sell it for some damn reason!!!! :'(

ironchef10

Hey watch it there buddy...I work on those Craptors...eh...Raptors!

I'm an engineer for a Lockheed subcontractor.

pgt89

^^^ :P They are awesome jets. Too bad no incentive flights.

ironchef10

Time will tell. Anyway...take good care of the jets and yourself. If you need to talk you'll always find a stable of good people here ready. And thanks for serving our country.

rise

man that always sucks to hear... how old is she/are you?

pgt89

^^^ She is 24 and I am 23.

tmk70

You got married too young...just like I did. Consider it a starter marriage, man. The real one will happen down the road a piece. PM me if you need anything.

ironchef10

pgt89

Starter marriage. It was practice for the real one down the road. Thanks TMK.

GeishaGirl

wow, sorry to hear that...at least you can learn from this and be prepared for the next time around

pgt89

If I decide to do it again

Bulldog01

Ain't no rule sayin' you have to sign up for that nonsense again!

fast_daddy_car

At least you realized early that it was broke and got out. I was stupid for marrying young, stupid for trying to keep it going, and stupid for waiting way too long to dump out of it.

best wishes

GeishaGirl

well, if it was a "starter" marriage like someone suggested but not marrying again is cOo too...I can totally see why someone wouldnt want to take the risk again.

Ashburner

Sorry to hear about the divorce man... Hopefully, it will be a good thing. My life is just starting to take a turn for the better after my divorce.

pgt89

How long were you married and how long did it take for you to recover?

Ashburner

I've was married for 2 1/2 years, but we were living together from the first time I kissed her. So all together it was 4 years.

Recovery is not an easy process... I moved away 2,000 miles and up until just recently (about 2 months) we were still talking every day and even saying "I love you" We decided that wouldn't be a good idea anymore so I just have to focus on myself. She is doing the same thing.

So, in fact, I am still recovering.

fast_daddy_car

was married 14 years, free now for about 18 months. I recovered the minute the ink was dry

Bulldog01

Damn. I was married five, almost six, years. We were together for five years before our wedding. You got me beat...fourteen years is no joke.

suXor

Why? Wouldn't it be her fault, not his? Don't blame dudes for a girls inability to stay loyal.

pgt89

^^^ It would be her fault and his if he knew she was married... either way I would take out my anger on him.

SilviaGTO

if i found my guy cheating on me with another woman, id kill them both.

him for obvious reasons, and her because more than likely, she knew. girls love to have guys that are taken for some reason.

pgt89

fast_daddy_car

Guess I crushed the old ring too soon?
:P