So my wife's birthday is on Wednesday, 9/23.

I have bowling every Wednesday at 9pm (in a league)

Wife is expecting me to sweep her off her feet, but i REEEEAALLLY want to bowl tomorrow. I didn't buy her anything other than a card right now (But I did get her a new cell phone last week and called it an "early" birthday present).

I could leave work early and take her out before bowling, so at least I can make it there later on...Or I can cancel bowling altogether and try to enjoy the evening (But i know that's not going to happen, I get very easily distracted, unless I leave my cell phone at home or shut it off).

What to do?

 

Dude. Cancel your damn bowling and take her out to dinner. Buy a bottle of wine and make the most out of it.

Bowling? Are you kidding me?

 

Seriously???



Miss a day of bowling, leave your cell phone at home, and enjoy yourselves!



Do you love your wife? Do you value your friendship, relationship, and enjoy spending time together? Do you love bowling more and can't stand to miss a game for someone you love during a special occasion? It's not like bowling won't happen again next week.

Although you might not put as much importance into your own birthday (perhaps why the answer isn't so obviously clear to you right now), I bet she wouldn't brush you off on your birthday for a trip to the mall, for example. That's something to ponder.

 

Dude.. Really? If you pick bowling instead of taking your wife out, you will pay for that a lot longer than you think... Years.. Think years....

 

Dude?

 

The difference between her and I, is that she makes a big deal about birthdays (although the older she's getting the less she wants to be reminded of it), while to me a birthday is just another day. Gifts? meh. I see it like everyday is a birthday. I randomly give her cards "just cause", I randomly give her gifts "just cause".

Do I love her? Yes! Does she know that I love bowling too? Yes!

Also, there was a bit of sarcasm that came out of the post. I know the obvious answer, but I still REALLY REALLY want to bowl...She did ask me what I was going to do. She knows how much I enjoy bowling, and that's my weekly tension release, which is why she isn't like, "Don't even THINK about bowling on my Bday!" because that's the only night I am out and not with her. Other than that, besides her and I both working during the day, we spend every other waking (and sleeping) moment together.

She's a simple person to please. If I went as far as merely going for a walk with her and just chatting while leaving my phone home or off, that would the key for her that will make her happier than happy.

 

I figured you two had different views on birthdays, that's why I mentioned it. Thing is, it's her birthday, and you mentioned she has expectations. Understandably, if it's your birthday, and you don't care...why bother. If she's a simple person to please, choose to miss one day of bowling and show that you'd rather honour her birthday....which as you said, is important to her. In that respect, it won't matter what you do, but the fact that you chose to spend it with her that will make her happy. Birthdays - once a year....bowling - continues next week.

 

Remember what happened to Marge...

 

lmao..

 

:shakehead


If you don't take your wife out,

Oh, and you can't make it up to her... trust me on this.

 

Same sentiments here.

Birthdays are very important to your wife and it's her birthday, not yours, so you should spend the entire night with her and make it special. No matter how much you want to bowl (or play whatever sport because that's the only time you can relax with the boys), celebrating your spouse's birthday should be a top priority. Even if you think she might understand your desire to go bowling, why would you risk hurting her feelings and possibly cause resentment?

 

I'm home, she's out tutoring (She's a Science/Bio teacher), I made dinner tonight...

 

Her sister just called me and asked if I am taking her out tomorrow because they (her sisters) want to take her out to dinner.....

I'll have to talk to her tonight to see what she wants to do. She cares enough about me and how I am with bowling that I got $50 bucks that she says "so i'll go out with my sisters tonight and we'll go out on saturday night" or something like that. We'll see...

 

And as an awesome husband, you should have told them you already planned a really special night. Either they can join you ( ) in celebrating tomorrow, or perhaps they can take her out a different night. You've got it all backwards.

Anyway...good luck. As long as your wife is happy, feels special on her birthday, and knows that you care (more about her than a two hour game of bowling).

 

I will be taking her out tomorrow night. Haven't figured out just what we're doing yet, but I am taking her out.

As for bowling, I'm going to go tonight to pre-bowl so they can use my scores for tomorrow's game.

Best of both worlds, I guess..

 

go bowling, who cares about your wife.

 

Thank god for pre-bowl.

And thank god you came to your senses.

 

this thread is awesome

 

Thread win!! :lol:

Its her night, you get 360 days a year... the other 5 do something nice. (Bday, anniversary, Valentines day, xmas, vacation(s))

 

Oh my God, Shoofin. You can't be for real. Damn right you're going to pre-bowl. I guess actually, you already did.

Now go have fun with your wife tonight and we don't want to hear from you here ALL NIGHT. lolol

Goofey man........

 

You're right...I was being a little sarcastic about it, I do know what the right thing to is...Just wanted to add a little kick to the D&R forums...


BUT in all seriousness, aside from me enjoying bowling very much, my team is in a very critical position in keeping the standings where we want it to be for advancing into the playoffs/semi-finals, etc...That's really why I needed to bowl as bad as I made it seem. BUT I did bowl last night (and I bowled like crap too because I rushed through it).

Now, I just have to see what we're going to do tonight.

 

Good luck with the playoff standings. I'm sure your wife will drop whatever is important in her life to cheer you on. lolol We do that stuff. She probably loves to see you succeed.

My ex-husband raced motorcycles. I built them for him. We had an awful lot of fun chasing championships up and down the east coast. Recreational time is crucial, whether it's together or not. Personally, I loved to watch him fly. I couldn't have been prouder.

Have bunches of fun tonight, and get some good "bonding" in after dinner.

 

So far this is all I have for her right now..

 

AWWWWWWW You're so cute and helplessly late. lolol Just give her your FULL attention, Honey. She'll love it. Trust me.

 

lol i agree!

 

if it was so important, you shouldve taken her out for a nice dinner last weekend or when you made this post yesterday.

it's a bit of too late now isnt it

happy birthday to your wife!

 

That reminds me. Our anniversary is this weekend. I'm not sure if I should blow her off and go to the strip club. I mean she does have her aunt in town so it's not like I'll get any.

 

I think you're a little obsessed with bowling...just a little

 

 

1- check out the bowling thread in ramblings.
2- prebowl (you did that already)
3- her birthday is once a year, I think you're obligated
4- where do you bowl?

 

So was she bowled over by the card?

 

this thread is great

 

she's got him by the [bowling] balls.

 

Shoofin....... Wake up........ I think she killed him.

 

+1

he probably went bowling and didnt get the hint from his sisters..

 

I'm sure he's alive. Probably just did him like Kingpin and sawed off his bowling hand.

 

I'm here, I'm good. We didn't exactly do what I wanted to do because of time constraints. The place I wanted to go to is closer to my office than home, so I told my wife to pick me up from work and we went straight from there. I wanted to go into NYC and maybe see a show, but by the time we both would have been ready to go, there wouldn't have been time to do dinner and a show, so we just did dinner. I did give her the card and I bought her 2 dozen red roses.

I'm going to plan a day in NYC on a sunday where we can spend the day together, we'll do lunch, a show and possibly go to a museum of some sort, she is very smart and likes stuff that stimulate the brain, which the museum I'm planning to go to will do just that (a place we've been meaning to go to but never went together). We're in between one Jewish holiday after another (and this year the high holidays are falling on the weekends), so this plan will have to wait until the holidays are over sometime mid October or so.

Oh, and my bowling team got 5 out of 6 possible points that night, so we accomplished what we needed to.

 

win / win

 

You're a good man, Charlie Brown.

 

I've bowled forever at Shell Lanes in Brooklyn, but the last 2 seasons I've been bowling at Maple Lanes, needed some change!