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Old 12-11-2011, 05:53 PM
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Dating pet peeves.

Let's talk from experience here, what things have happened to you on a date, or things girls have done on a date, that have annoyed you a bit?

For me, it's as recent as last night. Went out for the first time with a girl I met a couple weeks back. We hit it off really well when we first met and I was looking forward to the date. Lo and behold she doesn't give me much to work with in terms of showing interest. Quiet all night, no eye contact and no real conversation at any point - it was pretty much a night of awkward small talk. I found that odd seeing as I didn't get any of that when we first met. Honestly she looked bored most of the time. "No big deal, things didn't work out - atleast we tried" is what I thought to myself on the way to her place. I take her home, get out of the car to give her a hug, end of the date small talk, wish her a good night (again, no real signs of interest throughout this) and make sure she got inside before I left.

About 5 minutes into my drive home I get a text "I guess I didn't deserve a kiss goodnight?"

I instantly do this:



How do you go from being as interesting as a peice of plywood to wanting a kiss goodnight? Needless to say that annoyed me a little bit

We talked a bit afterwards and surprisngly she wants to go out again, so I'll give it another shot. I'm just hoping the girl I first met actually shows up this time

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All the signs were there...you should of peed in her butt.
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She is shy. Really likes you. Ask her for a nude
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She is shy. Really likes you. Ask her for a nude. Then post here.
*fixed
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She is shy. Really likes you. Ask her for a nude
This definitely wasn't shy.
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So she is a retard. Should be an easy bang.
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Originally Posted by Mr. Maker
So she is a retard. Should be an easy bang.
Pretty much what I'm banking on now

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she wants your cawk. She probably had no idea what to talk about and was crazy nervous.
did you check her seat for piss? lol

Go on a "fun" date. meaning somewhere free lol she'll open up.
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Old 12-11-2011, 09:06 PM
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Originally Posted by 05TLdcc
she wants your cawk. She probably had no idea what to talk about and was crazy nervous.
did you check her seat for piss? lol

Go on a "fun" date. meaning somewhere free lol she'll open up.
She may have been nervous, but that's besides the point. Go through the whole night like that then expect a kiss at the end? Talk about mixed signals.
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Originally Posted by S A CHO
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She wants you.. in and around her mouth. true story.

Also.. you fail.

Next time.. if there's nothing to talk about.. use your mouths for something else.



Now.. back to the topic at hand...

I haven't been available in a long time, but the one thing that pisses me off is... your date being tethered to their phone whether it's texting, taking calls, leaving phone on the table...
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Originally Posted by S A CHO
She may have been nervous, but that's besides the point. Go through the whole night like that then expect a kiss at the end? Talk about mixed signals.
No kidding lol. Maybe she isn't very experienced with dating? sounds like when you're 13 and you go over to a girls house only to sit in her living room on opposite sides of the couch lol
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Is she aware that you were not rcving the proper 'go in' signal for a kiss? Your reply - well I guess I did not deserve a kiss goodnight. Females can be so needy sometimes. Bro-mance her - treat her like a friend until she reacts like a date.
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Originally Posted by miner
Is she aware that you were not rcving the proper 'go in' signal for a kiss? Your reply - well I guess I did not deserve a kiss goodnight. Females can be so needy sometimes. Bro-mance her - treat her like a friend until she reacts like a date.
I pretty much told her that I wasn't getting anything in regards to signs she wanted anything to do with me, let alone a kiss She laughed and said she'll try a bit harder next time. I'm not exactly sure what that means but sounds like it could be fun!

This feels like an elementary school dating discussion
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OP, you def. fail... She was bored because you were boring, why didn't you spark it up? You know they've invented alcohol for a reason? Mellow out, laugh, bang. Peace.
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She's showing you mixed signals, write her a letter
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Old 12-12-2011, 08:57 AM
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Originally Posted by 97BlackAckCL
She's showing you mixed signals, write her a letter
Old 12-12-2011, 09:32 AM
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Originally Posted by TeknoKing
OP, you def. fail... She was bored because you were boring, why didn't you spark it up? You know they've invented alcohol for a reason? Mellow out, laugh, bang. Peace.
I'm telling you, if it wasn't for me, a word would not have been said all night. We talked for 2 1/2 hours when we first met. The conversation flowed so easily as if I were talking to somebody I'd known for years.

Even yesterday we talked for over an hour, the same way we did the first time we met. It seems that she gets really shy on dates, and she's admitted it. I kind of took it the wrong way.

Not wanting to rush into anything I told her that I want her to be as comfortable as possible, so I told her to let me know when she'd like to go out again, and not to feel pressured into making it too soon. She really appreciated that

Originally Posted by 97BlackAckCL
She's showing you mixed signals, write her a letter
I wonder if she watches classical music performances alone too

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Definitely sounds like she is shy, you will just have to work harder to make her come out of her shell a bit
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Definitely sounds like she is shy, you will just have to work harder to make her come out of her shell a bit
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She is adorable... once you let that animal out of the cage she will the be best you'll ever had..gf material.... I don't like promiscuous girls, it tells me they will do it again with someone else just as fast.

Take her on a date with something fun, like a gaming center or climb something..you'll break the ice better. That is if she is worth it and you truly like her and would like to get to know her more... If it is only for a f@ck... you may have to work your ass off with her.
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^sounds a bit shy or nervous or both. next time you both hang out, make the night about her. ask her questions, make her talk about anything. women don't care what you say anyway, but they love to talk about themselves. keep up the questions, nod politely and smile.

you've got to make her feel comfortable talking to you, the only way to do that is ask questions. that way, she has to answer you.

if you get her going on a topic she likes, you're golden.
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women don't care what you say anyway, but they love to talk about themselves. keep up the questions, nod politely and smile. n.
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Originally Posted by TeknoKing
She is adorable... once you let that animal out of the cage she will the be best you'll ever had..gf material.... I don't like promiscuous girls, it tells me they will do it again with someone else just as fast.

Take her on a date with something fun, like a gaming center or climb something..you'll break the ice better. That is if she is worth it and you truly like her and would like to get to know her more... If it is only for a f@ck... you may have to work your ass off with her.
That's exactly how I feel, and it's the reason why I want to try and make her feel comfortable.

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^sounds a bit shy or nervous or both. next time you both hang out, make the night about her. ask her questions, make her talk about anything. women don't care what you say anyway, but they love to talk about themselves. keep up the questions, nod politely and smile.

you've got to make her feel comfortable talking to you, the only way to do that is ask questions. that way, she has to answer you.

if you get her going on a topic she likes, you're golden.
It's a little more than that though. Like I said we've got no problems talking to each other outside of the "date". You can only ask so many questions before it starts to feel like FBI interrogation.

She's actually just sent me a text and wants to go for dinner tomorrow She even suggested the place so I think this is a good sign
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Here for the nudes..

Good luck!
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She's actually just sent me a text and wants to go for dinner tomorrow She even suggested the place so I think this is a good sign
Very good sign
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I hate when girls ask me to buy them dinner before I even ask them on a date...?
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I hate when girls ask me to buy them dinner before I even ask them on a date...?
Chicks like free food
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She's actually just sent me a text and wants to go for dinner tomorrow She even suggested the place so I think this is a good sign
Bring your condoms.
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watch out, she might have crabs.
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watch out, she might have crabs for dinner.
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watch out, she might have crabs.
Did she get them from her bi-boyfriend?
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Bring your condoms.
I always keep a few handy

Originally Posted by justnspace
watch out, she might have crabs.
I'll be sure to bust out the UV light.
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Originally Posted by S A CHO
Chicks like free food
I like free vajay, but we don't always get what we want.
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Originally Posted by 97BlackAckCL
She's showing you mixed signals, write her a letter
Originally Posted by TeknoKing
and share it with us on here!
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I don't know about the writing a letter suggestion anymore after seeing the thread about the investment manager in New York.
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I don't know about the writing a letter suggestion anymore after seeing the thread about the investment manager in New York.


I am happy to report that last night was a MUCH better night than Saturday. I think I cracked the code I knew as soon as I picked her up the night would be better.

We even talked about how Saturday went, and it all kind of fell into place when she said that she's been feeling a little stressed because it's exam time. Mix that in with her shyness and you get what happened.

The night also ended off on a much better note.


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