Ive been dating this girl for a few weeks now. We met through a mutual friend - and this friend tells me that the girl is IN love with me. I don't have nearly the same feelings for her. I like her and all but the whole in love thing worries me a little. I don't want to lead her on, I don't know if it's going to last that long. Any suggestions?

 

Dump her fast, the longer you wait the harder it will be on both of you when it eventually happens

 

Suggestions? yes, do nothing, dont worry and dont change a thing

It's shouldnt matter who falls first so long as both parties are heading that direction. In all reality, one will always fall in love before the other. Nothing new or strange. Also, in all reality, one is bound to be hurt more than the other upon breakup. So who cares if she feels a little stronger for you than you do for her, thats to be expected from one person or the other, initially.

Eventually, if you lose your feelings for her and its time to end it, so what. You didnt lead her on. You just persued the feelings you always had but they eventually fizzled out. It shouldnt matter that hers were always stronger.

In my opinion, I wouldnt sweat it. It's natural relationship progression. Follow it through its lifecycle.

 

She likes you. Just make sure you're both clear on the current state of the relationship and proceed just as you would have otherwise. It'll all work itself out in the end.

 

your friend could be over exaggerating said girls "feelings", is this friend a woman ?

PLay it out, if she starts to bug you, stop her like a hooker when the cops show up.

 

Maybe its the RL




Stick with it, don't change anything, go at your own pace, things will pan out as they are meant to.

 

It's okay, nobody ever knows if anything is gonna last for long! I agree completely with GoDucks, just see how it goes. Just be sure to always be honest if/when the topic comes up and it will be fine. If she were sure about feeling "in love" with you or if she is starting to feel very strongly for you, she will tell you herself. Until then, go with the flow!

 

Yeah, i've been in that situation My First love was like that, i fell first it took her almost a year for her to say she feels the same way i do. but i was head over heels and she fell later. so dont think your leading her on tell her the truth when she brings it to you, and let her know she'll respect you more. plus if you both are dating you'll prolly be headed in that direction anyway. GIVE IT TIME!

 

I think you guys missed the part of his post that said a few weeks.

If she loves you after a few weeks you have typically what is know as a crazy bitch.

 

If you aren't going in the same direction, get out. Like if this was just a fling and it was fun so you were gonna hang around or were just there for the sex.

If you like her and feel like you are heading in the same direction, then by all means, keep going, don't say you love her till you do. Just cause she fell faster doesn't mean anything as long as you both fall it will be a good relationship.

 

I would take what your friend tells you with a grain of salt. Just act like you never heard anything. Until she starts watching you sleep when she doesn't live with you, don't worry about it.

 

yeah I did miss that until I read the thread after I posted. Actually I read it and past it over, cause my experiance says that doesn't mean crap. the girl I am dating we were in love after say a month of dating. (No this isn't so HS thing) Basically she is the sister of a good friend of mine, so I had been at her house and talked with her and hung out with her and her bro and his g/f for years, then I spent 3 weeks in europe with thier fam, me her her brother and his gf all lived in one room for 3 weeks, so I knew her pretty well before we dated.

Basically could be crazy attatched girl, or there could be more than the time they been dating involved, like hanging out before in a group ect. It all depends on the back story.

 

Who cares, not like shes the one who told you that shes IN love with you.

 

I wouldnt do a thing! Just let cards fall as they are supposed too. Feelings can grow and sometimes it takes time. Just be honest. When I first started dating me Girlfriend, she fell in love in like 4 months. I told her that i didnt feel that same way. We stayed to gether and I eventually realize that I was just as much love.

 

If she starts talking about marriage and babies in the next few weeks, abort.

 

Is she coming on too strong for you? If so, then get out. If not, let it be.

Perhaps your friend did not understand your girl's tone when he talked to her. You don't know what context her comment was made in.

Do the judging for yourself. Don't rely on what others say.

 

Yea I wouldn't sweat it either - especially coming 2nd hand like it did. Who knows she mighta said "I'm in love with his car" and it comes back to you as she said she's in love with you. Maybe not but who cares. How old is she? Is this an 18 yr old girl and you're her 1st love because then it probably isn't love anyway even if she says it is and it's just infatuation.

 

Just keep going out and see what happens. No reason to end it now just because she possibly likes you more then you like her. If you have been going out for a few weeks, you must have some interest in her (or just getting in her pants?), and if that is the case, then jsut see where it goes.

 

Run Forrest Run..before she stalks you

 

Thanks for all the opinions guys, I will stick with it for a while and see how it goes