There's this bangin' chick at the gym, but I never get a chance to talk to her. She's seriously my type. Every time I'm there she keeps looking at me. The other day I was lifting weights (I work out early in the morning, 6 AM) and in the middle of my set she came in and asked "Are we the only ones here today?" I was like "Uhhh, I think someone just walked in."

Maybe I could have thought of something better if I wasn't bench pressing while she asked me. She said "oh ok thanks" while smiling and went to the dressing room. Well, the problem is, she always runs and I lift 95% of the time. Usually the treadmills are always taken and if they aren't, it's not the ones next to her. I don't wanna creep her out by waiting by the entrance of the gym to talk to her. My gym is in this business complex where I work and I'm not sure where she works. That's the only time of the day I see her. What's the best way to approach her?

 

Just talk to her. You wont creep her out. If she just randomly tried to start a conversation, she obviously thinks youre cute or something. Just be your self

 

Well, first you need to post pics...then we'll give you advice...

And so,

 

I'd start the convo with something like 'all that running is definitely slimming down your ass, good work'

 

Or "Let me know if you need a spotter while you do squats. I'll gladly lay down under you in case you bend your knees too far."

 

"I'd totally do you now that you're not a fatty"

 

Ok, so I'll just say "I know a better way to burn those calories, and I'll reward you with some protein"

 

Women love that kind of thing.


Usually when you say those things she gets on her knees right away then music comes out of nowhere then all your buddies come out for the gangbang.

 

If she came up to you first, and your getting "eye fucked" already, just walk up to her and get her number, you can take care of basic getting to know you conversation later.

 

she might already think you're not interested in her
how long have you been interested in her?

 

She started coming to the gym not too long ago, maybe 2-3 weeks ago...more frequently in the past week.

 

It's too late, you blew it. May as well just walk into the locker room shower and drop the soap.

 

nah its not too late. just say something funny to her and ask what shes doing. if she'd like to hang out/go out. get the digits and ur golden. All you have to do is keep her smiling for a few min then ur in there!

 

It's all a friggin' dance ... she initiated and expressed interest (as obvious as any woman can possibly make it). Now you gotta reciprocate before she looks for someone else. There are windows of opportunities in life and you gotta crawl in them once in a while, right?

C'mon, you gotta make sacrifices too. If she's on a treadmill, GET ON THE VACANT ONE NEXT to her. You don't have to run, just walk-jog. Catch her eye, then say, "You must be really tired since you were running thru my mind" ... actually, ditch the line. Just be yourself and move forward from there ... but you have to be proactive.

 

Is that a mirror in your pants? Caus I can see myself in them.

 

Threads like this make me so glad I am married.

 

I don't like when people talk to me at the gym and Im sure this woman feels the same....

 

 

I love threads like this, because I think it's ridiculous that anyone would ask advice about this stuff in the first place.

 

smooth.

just start up a conversation with her. Talk about anything, ask her out to lunch (less intimidating than dinner). Ask her if she jogs on the weekends, if she lives or works around here. Tell her you noticed her. Compliment her on her dedication, tell her you like the results.

 

You should have said "Why no, it's just the three of us here, would you like to meet my little friend?"

Never too little - next time just go with the flow - you just need to jump in there and take a chance - what do you have to loose?

 

I'm thinking more along these lines. "Hey, I've noticed you work out regularly, what's your name...where do you work...are you new here? I'll show you around, have you been in the men's dressing room yet? We got nice showers, they look like they can fit two people comfortably, but I'm not sure yet. Would you like to be the frist one to try out?"

Seriously though, it's not about what to say, but getting a chance to say something.

 

put a lot of weight on the barbell when you bench, then get locked in and call her over to help you. Take it from there ....

 

what I would do:
time your workouts so you both coincedently walk out the door together, ask her if she's got an exciting day planned, it'll be either yes or no
if no, ask if you can brighten up her day by getting lunch together (not 'take out to lunch')
if yes, ask if she can make your day more exciting by getting lunch together.
exchange numbers

personally I would not want to talk to her DURING my or her workout. i'm there to work, not socialize.

 

I highly doubt she feels the same considering she already tried to initiate a convo with him first

 

And her for a spot while you're doing lunges and watch her try to figure out where to grab.

 

This is a good idea, but the way the gym is set up, the men's locker room is behind the women's locker room. I have no idea how long it takes her to take a shower, get dressed, etc. Only thing I could do is wait for her in front of the gym.

 

Yeah, or "I know this really cool ab exercise, but it'll need full dedication from both of us."

 

Well anytime it's rehearsed it's gonna come off that way and look bad on your part. Of course she did initiate so that's a good sign. Now you're free to just approach her, make small talk for a minute, get her # and say "well that was nice I have to get back to my workout now, later."

 

Start a convo like, I've been seein you around lately, did you just start working somewhere? Where do you work? Can I get your number and do the nasty with ya? Ya know, simple stuff.

 

just wait in the womens locker room naked for her

 

Is the water bubbler near the women's locker room? If so and you know approximately when she comes in, I would book it over there right when you notice her coming in and when you're walking by, say something to the same extent as what she said to you (obviously not the same thing since that would actually make you look like a tool), but something to that extent. That will hopefully spark up a short conversation. Good luck!

 

Seek her out early in the morning, stare at her chest, don't blink, and say the same thing.

 

I love these threads.

 

Since the locker rooms are one behind the other, you could always drill a hole in the wall to keep an eye on her so you can time your exit appropriately...waiting outside might be construed as stalking...

 

I will try to remember that one

 

Good idea but save it for last day at your gym membership.

or

use the starbuck guys approach.


"Great day for a run huh?"

edit* use one of my co-workers advice. put "In-bed" after every sentence.

 

are you kidding me??? threads like this make me miss the game. i remember when i first hollered at my current girl, she was smoking a cig on some steps and i walked past her. i had never seen her before, but i turned around and asked her for a cigerette and the words ensued.......my game was so fluid.....been with her for almost a year.


man, i miss that shit....fast acura i think you fucked up though. she already made a move on you, and you acted like you werent interested. the first convo is the right one....you shoulda smiled and acted nice, and just let your game do the work....small talk, small talk, leads to interests and similarities, leads to more talk which can ultimately open the door to the number or another contact.

 

btw keep us updated...i wanna know what happens


dont put pressure on yourself. i always fuck up my words when i feel on the spot...just forget your trying to get in her pants and its all gravy....pretend you already have a girlfriend or wife and your just talking to her. god talking to girls is so easy when your taken already.

 

Keep in mind I am quite a bit older than you. :killer: