I love the changing of the last names when you get married... of couse, I say that because I'm a guy. It is still a tradition for a woman to either carry a hiphen or completely change their last name to yours once she gets married to you. For example; my wife's maiden name was Dessommes, now Huang. We talked about hyphenating the name to Dessommes-Huang but I say that's just too damn long.

Throughout out her medical school and part of her residency, she was called Dr. Dessommes or Doctor D/Dee. Once she got married, she changed it to Huang. It is almost as I also am a Doctor too when someone referrs her as Dr. Huang since she carries my last name..

Now that she works at a hospital, she tells me whenever patients are told by nurses "Dr. Huang will be in shortly," or "Dr. Huang will be in to consult you" they are always shocked to see a caucasian woman walking in to greet them instead of some asian guy, I can just picture the whole patient-doctor initial meet

For the married folks, did your wife change her last name completely to yours or she uses the "hyphenated" strategy?

 

She took my balls and my last name....

 

 

Same with my wife.

 

I took a LOT of convincing, but my fiance will be taking my last name after we're married...poor girl...

 

My wife initially went with the hyphen. After living with it for a few months she realized that she was tired of writing and signing it, the hyphenated name was just too long. So she dropped the hyphen and just stuck with my last name.

 

im not a big feminist or anything but i dont like the idea of giving up my last name (which i love) for another. i think its a crock. for instance, my last name is so much shorter to spell and easier to say than my boyfriends. although i love him, if we were to get married it would be really hard for me to give up mine for his. im irish/german and id have a slovak type last name....

 

Let's just throw all traditions out the window. Why stop with last names?

Men will wear wedding dresses and women will propose.

Fugg it.

 

I'm going to add my fiance's name(no hyphen). This will allow me to use either name just as easily. A complete change would be too much trouble for me at this point in my life(career, diplomas, certifications, etc.). Children would be given both names, but legally their last name would be his.

 

I'm sure it's been done.

 

Im not down with the dress part but i meet you half way and wear a kilt. Also im up for the propose part. While were at it im 100% ok with me staying at home and watching the kids. While the wife goes out and brings home the bacon.

On a side note some asian countrys the female dont change their last name but keeps her maiden name. But the kids takes the fathers name.

 

Hey, if the wife makes more $$$, and one of you is going to stay home anyway, I agree. Me, personally, I spent too much time and effort in college to stay home.

 

For certain professions, such as doctor, I think its almost expected that a woman keep her last name. After all, her name is her reputation. Everyone may know who Dr. Jones is but then no one knows who the hell Dr. Smith is.

 

I'm positive we've had this discussion here before.

My wife is hyphenating right now, but she uses my last name (well, initial) at work. Her students call her Mrs. O. I'll give it another year before she gets fed up with the hyphen, but I don't care too much either way. Plus, any kids will have my last name.

 

I guess that's the choice each woman will need to make before they get married. Changing from Irish/German into slovak isn't as drastic as Swedish-Italian into Taiwanese. The only thing that really annoys her is the fact patients constantly ask her "are you married to an asian?" Because nobody will ask you if you married otherwise to another caucasian last name.

Yes, that's why we had a big discussion prior. Keeping a name like Dessommes is ok, but when attending a social event of hers, I don't want the other doctors to be calling me Mr. Dessommes unknowningly as they thought it is my last name. Reputation is important in the medical field so it was very difficult decision for her, but marriage means compromises and I was willing to go along with it if it meant that much to her. She decided to change it completely since she hadn't really started working that long, although residency did count a few years. It was a drastic change for her and it took her awhile to get used to but in the end I guess I wear the pants
Her sister however with a phD doctrine, might keep her last name if she does get married down the road since she had already started working before getting married.

 

My wife took my balls, then kept her own last name...

 

 

Hmm, so why did my wife name my kids after my best friend...

No, the kids do have my last name, and the wife kept her name because we were leaving the country on our honeymoon and thought it would be better not to have official documents with different last names.
We're too lazy to do all the paperwork to change names.

 

I think the wife should take the husbands name. What makes her more special than this long tradition.

 

lmao

 

Overzealous feminism.

The social science academics would like the complete abolishment of gender-specific anything. From gender-specific bathrooms to the box on your driver's license that says you're male or female.

 

Meh. We've discussed this in-depth before.

Traditions only matter if they have personal meaning to you. Tradition is broken a lot: Some families open presents Christmas Eve instead of Christmas Day, Thanksgiving is only celebrated when everyone from the family can join - even if it's a few days early or late, etc. etc. etc.

If the couple agrees they want to do something that works well for them and that they both agree on, who cares.

Do whatever works best for you and your family.

 

Nice smiley usage.

 

That sounds like a bunch of liberal, hippie BS to me. If you're gonna be at home on full scholarship with the kids, you better take my name.

Just think, what if your parent's or my parents did this? You wouldn't want me giving you an Italian last name would you?

Leave picking names to the kids' first and middle names (unless you're both famous or something)

 

I left it up to her. She decided to take my name.

 

i think you of all people know im no Liberal. but the croatian last name may be worse than an italian one...although i perfer NEITHER.

put yourself in my shoes....would u wanna give up your family name?

looks like i need to go find me an irish boyfriend

 

I asked this in the last discussion on this topic just to stir the pot. It's doubtful there's as many men as women who would change his last name (without allowing the argument of 'tradition' of course).

I think it's hard for some people to understand how attached someone might be to his/her name. It's how you've identified yourself your entire life, and leads to a long line of other family with the same name with whom you share something with. It's not just throwing different letters together to form a different name. To some it has a lot more meaning behind it than which one sounds better.

 

I love my last name. But I am also a traditionalist, so I would definitely be taking his last name. Only if I had a successful career, pre-marriage would I still use my name int he professional world. Legally it would be his.

To me it is saying that you both are now one and share everything. It shows respect to his family too.

 

well considering that would be a blow to my manhood and very forceful pimp-hand, it ain't ever gonna happen

plus you wouldn't wanna disrespect my family would you?

 

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