My g/f and I have just made 1 year. To be honest (and she knows it), I have not been happy in the relationship even tho' there is alot of good in it. I like being with her and the sex part is good. But she has 2 kids (11 & 14), takes care of a large house/yard and is always busy doing one thing or the other. We get Wed and every other weekend. That sucks as even tho' she has Mon on her own, she does not want to make more time for the relationship.

I guess I have come to realise that I just have different expectations from her. She is happy with minimal time and I am not.

Just a rant, but it sucks to let go a relationship that has its good points. But I want more for myself and even tho it is risk, it may be worth it.

I see her tomorrow and have to decide which way I go....

 

Maybe you can agree to date others, but it sounds like you are not happy, so maybe it's time to find someone else. Good luck, I hope it works out for you.

 

Don't settle for something you are not happy with, my aunt did that for about 8 years, but at the age of 53 finally found someone great and she is happily married for about 3 years now.

 

Yeah, seeing your s.o. once to twice a week may be kosher in the beginning of a relationship but after 1 year one would expect a little more investment in the relationship than that imo. obviously you're not happy/satisfied with the status quo so why settle? might be worth it to date other ladies and be with someone who is as committed as yourself to making a relationship grow.

 

Propose...

 

Have you talked to her about this problem? Maybe she doesnt realize how much of a problem this is for you. It actually seems like your very satisfied in the relationship its just the time constraints that you get with each other seems to be hurting it.

 

well for me, i don't know if i could ever date a girl who has 2 kids, too much baggage for me no matter how pretty or nice personality she has.

 

No offence, but it sounds to me like you have visitation rights more than a relationship.

I think you definately need to talk to her. You are actually asking for more time with her. She should be a bit happy that you like her enough to want to be with her more often, and not that you want to hang with the boys or play the field.

 

Lets see what you say in a couple years. Everyone has baggage.

 

Tell me about it, I've been trying to break up with my girl (of 1.5 years) and its been a couple weeks now. Good luck with you, hopefully it is a clean break if you decide to go that route.

 

Donkey punch her

 

LOL! Visitation rights. As for baggage, that is true. But like Ravi said, almost all women in my age bracket that I want to see will have baggage. The ones that do not have kids, have other issues.

Yup, I have told her and she knows. She has a knack of not acknowledging stuff that I say. When I told her I was not happy in the relationship, it was 2 days later that she e-mailed me and said she was sorry about that and would try harder.

I see her tonight and I think I will tell her that for now, I may step back a bit from expectations with her. That way, I still get my jollies and I can work things out in my mind a bit more.

cTLGO. I remember your post and was in the start of my dilemma. I guess you can relate to my dilemma. It is just so damned hard to find someone that can fit, esp since I do not do the bar scenes. Contrary to popular beliefs, cute chicks do not hit on Harley bikers. At least, not the sub 300 pounders!!!!

 

I say that you tell her that wanting to spend more time with her is not your way of backing her into a corner. And that you like things the way it is as well, but ideally it would be great if you can see her more often.

 

Ravi

not a bad idea.

 

That's why we aim for S.O. who are younger than ourselves ... that way, the likelihood for baggage is lessened? Isn't there a rule? Half your age + 7?

 

Thanks. Good luck.

 

21 for me,

 

I do not hide my age here.. but that woudl mean I am OK to date a 32????? Gawd would I like to pull up on one of my rides with my friend with a hot 32 y/o.

 

perfectly OK

 

No. At your stage in life, you need to go younger- 25-28.

Hope it all works out for the best on the present relationship.

 

Thats exactly what i was thinking....oh wait, i have myself a 21y/o .....that equation does work!

 

update:

we spoke yesterday and she said she would try to make more time. Then, once the clothes were off, I weakened. Damn it! I am really going to give it a bit more of a chance and if things are the same, will move on.

 

Cool. That works.

 

Women bribe us with sex, you must fight the urge!

 

LOL! Yeah, I will have a talk with the 'Lil Un' down there...

 

Maybe not the best choice of words

Good luck Eggplant

 

True. OK. Big Bob, it is. LOL!