Blind Date
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Eve,
so how did the two of you know who each other was? It must have been a low key bar. Sorry it didn't work out, but as other mentioned. You can't move on if you keep comparing guys to your ex, and he is your ex for a reason. Maybe you shouldn't continue to hang out with him if you still have feelings. You are only giving yourself false hope and it just makes it more difficult to move on.
so how did the two of you know who each other was? It must have been a low key bar. Sorry it didn't work out, but as other mentioned. You can't move on if you keep comparing guys to your ex, and he is your ex for a reason. Maybe you shouldn't continue to hang out with him if you still have feelings. You are only giving yourself false hope and it just makes it more difficult to move on.
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Originally Posted by eve
Update -
I called him back last week. We decided to meet at a bar on Saturday evening. He called me on Saturday to confirm; I said I'm still interested.
So... we finally meet. And the guy is totally not my type. Don't get me wrong, he wasn't ugly/bad looking - just not someone I see myself with. We go to the bar, sit down and he doesn't say anything. I had to start asking questions, otherwise I would have been bored to death. I noticed that he's not very talkative and I'm not used to that. After about an hour or so I got tired of talking and just sat there watching a game. At this point I think he realized that he should start saying something or at least ask me questions. We talked for another hour or so, had few more drinks and I decided to end the date. He asked if I wanted to go somewhere else but I politely said "No, thank you but I'm tired" (I had to work 10 hours that day
). He hugged me, thanked me for a nice evening and I went home.
Monday comes and I get a call from him - I didn't answer. He left a message asking how was my weekend, etc. I've been busy this week with extra assignments at work so I did not call him back but I think I might do so tonight. I want to be honest with him and tell him that I'm not interested but since we have mutual friends, we'll probably see each other again.
It's kind of weird but this date made me realize how much I miss my ex. It made me recall our first date and how much fun we had. We still go out but we're not romantically involved. I wish we were
I guess it's time to move on.
I called him back last week. We decided to meet at a bar on Saturday evening. He called me on Saturday to confirm; I said I'm still interested.
So... we finally meet. And the guy is totally not my type. Don't get me wrong, he wasn't ugly/bad looking - just not someone I see myself with. We go to the bar, sit down and he doesn't say anything. I had to start asking questions, otherwise I would have been bored to death. I noticed that he's not very talkative and I'm not used to that. After about an hour or so I got tired of talking and just sat there watching a game. At this point I think he realized that he should start saying something or at least ask me questions. We talked for another hour or so, had few more drinks and I decided to end the date. He asked if I wanted to go somewhere else but I politely said "No, thank you but I'm tired" (I had to work 10 hours that day
). He hugged me, thanked me for a nice evening and I went home.Monday comes and I get a call from him - I didn't answer. He left a message asking how was my weekend, etc. I've been busy this week with extra assignments at work so I did not call him back but I think I might do so tonight. I want to be honest with him and tell him that I'm not interested but since we have mutual friends, we'll probably see each other again.
It's kind of weird but this date made me realize how much I miss my ex. It made me recall our first date and how much fun we had. We still go out but we're not romantically involved. I wish we were
I guess it's time to move on.
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blind dates suck, I hate that stuff. If you are to do anything like this again then do this.
1. Set up a large get together like a bbq before the bar on saturday at like 6:00. Make sure that there are atleast a couple single girls and guys.
2. mix in light beer/drink
3. let things simmer se what happens
4.worse comes to worse go get messed up at the bar together and have fun. find someone there and talk about the horror of the mixer with the new intrest.
btw use the stories to break the ice and make them laugh then disgaurd. And use properly, the wrong comment could cost the attention of the new intrest.
1. Set up a large get together like a bbq before the bar on saturday at like 6:00. Make sure that there are atleast a couple single girls and guys.
2. mix in light beer/drink
3. let things simmer se what happens
4.worse comes to worse go get messed up at the bar together and have fun. find someone there and talk about the horror of the mixer with the new intrest.
btw use the stories to break the ice and make them laugh then disgaurd. And use properly, the wrong comment could cost the attention of the new intrest.
Last edited by theroadrunner; Aug 17, 2005 at 03:35 AM.
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Originally Posted by amisconception
How did you handle the check? Was it awkward? It barely sounds like you communicated.
When we got the check, I offered to pay but he said no and that he will take care of it. I always offer to pay or at least split. I don't wait for the guy to take out his wallet and pay the whole thing. I will offer but if he says no, I will leave it at that. I'll pay next time (assuming there will be next time, of course).
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