How many of you went on a blind date? How was it?

A friend of mine is trying to set me up with her best-friend's brother. According to her, "we would look great together". It's hard for me to decide because I just separated from another guy (whom I still see about once or twice a week) but I know I have nothing to lose. I agreed to give him my phone number and he called last night. I didn't answer - I guess I freaked out a little. He left a very nice message, asking to call him back and I think I will tonight.

I have no idea how he looks like and he doesn't know what I look like. We have mutual friends and I think they would not set us up if they believed we would not, at least, look decent together. I've never been on a blind date before - where would you suggest to meet? I'm not going to invite him to my house just in case he turnes out to be a psycho. I guess a bar/restaurant/lounge would be appropriate.

Any ideas are appreciated. And share your blide date stories.

 

I've never been on a blind date because I'm too shy and I would be nervous. I would suggest that if you have mutal friends go out as a group so that the two of you can just talk and get to know each other. This way, there will not be that ackward moment of silence and you can talk and be comfortable with your friends. Then if you find interest in each other set up a date at a place like starbucks, an ice cream parlor, minature golf, or a low-key bar. Just go someplace where the two of you can relax and be yourself with having to get all dressed-up. I would avoid the movies or club because you don't get to talk and get to know the person.

Let us know how it goes.

 

I did....and she's my wife now......

In a nutshell, my friend who I did carpool with said he knew someone that he thought would be very compatible for me, he hooked it up, we met, had a blast, 3 months later we got engaged, total of 6 months later we got married. It was only 3 months, but I felt like an eternity that I knew her. What's even funnier is the fact that our parents knew each other way back when, our grandparents have been and still are very good friends. My in-laws were at my parents wedding, and my parents were at my in-laws wedding, it's pretty weird. My mother in-law used to work with my father 30 years ago, too! I guess it's good to live in a tight knit community...in some cases...Good luck!

Ed

 

Been on a couple...
One where it was a double date. My friend's gf was trying to hook me up with her friend. We went to some italian restaurant and bowling. (I wasn't her "type")

The other I just talked with her on the phone a few times to initially get to know her then took her out to a nice restaurant that wasn't loud so we could talk and to an ice cream shop.

 

I've been on a couple and will never do it again without a picture and a personal profile.

 

Just one. It was really uncomfortable. But in the end, I had fun.

 

I went on a trick date a while ago, but no blind dates.

 

WTF is a trick date....you went out with a trick?

 

That's how I felt after the one blind date that I went on.

 

I met this girl at school back in March, a common friend introduced us. After we had met, she started IMing me on AIM over the next few days. At the end of one of our conversations she asked if I wanted to hang out with her and her friends that coming Friday. I agreed, but when we met up none of her friends showed... it was just the two of us. Hence, the "trick". I don't think she ever meant to call her friends at all, she just wanted it to be the two of us. She basically asked me out without actually saying "Will you go out with me."

 

Which one of you was the trick?

 

Ah...so was it worth it ?

 

I didn't mind the trick at all.

Its stupid, she could have just asked me out, but whatever.

Brown girls are strange in that way.

 

Unfortunately...I wouldnt know.

Wanna set me up on blind date with one ?

 

I'll hook you up... but not for free
One good hookup deserves another.

 

^^ whoa, that came across kinda gay.

I meant I'll hook you up if you hook me up

 

just tell him you want to pound him in the turd cutter and get it over with





EDIT: never been on a blind date...i'd say a museum of wax, if nearby, would be a good first date

 

dude, you married your SISTER!

 

Update -

I called him back last week. We decided to meet at a bar on Saturday evening. He called me on Saturday to confirm; I said I'm still interested.

So... we finally meet. And the guy is totally not my type. Don't get me wrong, he wasn't ugly/bad looking - just not someone I see myself with. We go to the bar, sit down and he doesn't say anything. I had to start asking questions, otherwise I would have been bored to death. I noticed that he's not very talkative and I'm not used to that. After about an hour or so I got tired of talking and just sat there watching a game. At this point I think he realized that he should start saying something or at least ask me questions. We talked for another hour or so, had few more drinks and I decided to end the date. He asked if I wanted to go somewhere else but I politely said "No, thank you but I'm tired" (I had to work 10 hours that day ). He hugged me, thanked me for a nice evening and I went home.

Monday comes and I get a call from him - I didn't answer. He left a message asking how was my weekend, etc. I've been busy this week with extra assignments at work so I did not call him back but I think I might do so tonight. I want to be honest with him and tell him that I'm not interested but since we have mutual friends, we'll probably see each other again.

It's kind of weird but this date made me realize how much I miss my ex. It made me recall our first date and how much fun we had. We still go out but we're not romantically involved. I wish we were I guess it's time to move on.

 

I've been on several blind dates in the past year. I've been REALLY lucky in that I've met women Iv've clicked with, so we went out at least a few times after the initial date. I think the key is the first date should be something very casual and low-key. Nothing that involves too much -- coffee, lunch, etc. -- so if it turns into a disaster, you have an escape.

 

Hey girl, don't give up on the dating scene. Don't let one bad lemon do you in. Sorry that you aren't over your ex, I feel you pain on that one. Just keep yourself busy with other things and I'm sure you'll find somebody that's more compatable. Good luck!

 

I think all guys can learn from her date. This is the perfect example of the nervous guy who ruined a perfectly good opportunity to meet a nice girl (I assume).

 

Yeah exactly. Maybe if the dude talked and made her laugh she would have posted "wow this guy is so much fun, he IS my type." Learn from this fellas.

 

maybe the guy was just intimidated and needs a second chance. We all need a Mulligan now and then. I say give him a second go at a different venue, say walking in the mountains. Then, if you still don't like him you'll have a convenient location to put his body.

 

oooh.

Comparing dates with ex.

Bad mojo. You'll never fall for anybody else if your still hung up on the ex.

move on. I know its hard, but you have to do it.

 

That's called good personality

 

Haha - I could go out with him again but he is not my "type". I don't want to sound like I'm picky but I was not attracted to him. Maybe he was intimidated but I tried to make him feel comfortable. I'm a very outgoing person and can accommodate to almost any situation. I kept talking and asking questions because I thought he might come out of his shell but he didn't.

However, you might be right. We've never met before and he might be one of those people who need time to open up. I would not mind seeing him again but not on one-on-one date. I don't want to lead him on and then tell him I'm not interested. I would rather let him know right away.

 

I'm sure the guys a nice guy. But it goes to show that with most opportunities in life you get one shot. You blow it, you are done. Sure it'd be nice if we got a do over in life but unfortunately, we don't get it. Just don't mess up your shots.

 

It's not your fault. A guy should know that "chemistry" is how the girl feels, not how the guy feels.

 

So he was fat, gotcha

 

you agree with something *I* said? Now I KNOW that you are the problem, not him.

 

If you don't want to lead him on I'd suggest not talking to or being in contact with him for a good few months. A guy who is in denial will take any contact from you as a source of hope. Guys are thick headed when they have a crush.

 

I agreed with the part where you said he might have been intimidated. I didn't agree with the idea of disposing the body in the mountains. Too easy to locate remains. :wink:

 

We have not talked since. He called, left a message but I never called back. I'm really not interested.

 

Yeah, change your message to say something like, "Hey, this is Eve, please leave a message unless you are _____, in which case please stop calling. Have a nice day!"

 

Don't compare a bad date to your ex. Your ex is an ex for a reason.

 

No 2 reasons. You dumped them or they dumped you.

 

and we all should learn from those previous experiences.



BTW, I can't stand your avatar looks like carrot top's brother.

 

Haven't you ever seen Napoleon Dynamite??

 

hehe... Just testing it out.

Likey = ?
No Likey = 1

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