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May 15, 2010 | 01:36 AM

#41

Majofo

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From: Waffles, BU

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Originally Posted by akplaya92

Thanks a ton to everyone for the awesome advice. Sorry guys been busy all week and have not have a chance to update this thread. Everything was going great all week, till tonight. Not sure if i mentioned before, but me and her work together and both get out at 10 everynight that we work. John works two minutes away and comes to the parking lot we work at on most nights and sees her for about 10 minutes before going home. Then she hangs out with me for like another hour before going home. Of course she makes out with him and shit during the 10 mintues, which really hurt me inside.

So tonight I get a long ass text message from her saying that she is sorry that she is not picking me, cause shes in love with another guy. John? Nope! Derrick! Whos Derrick? The third f**king guy shes been talking too.. She said Derrick was her boyfriend before John and hes 20. I feel like shit, but I can honestly say that I feel worse for John. His BITCH has been talking to two other guys while dating him...

She tells me that out of the three guys I was the sweetest and cared about her the most. I guess nice guys do always finish last guys. I told her that shes been one of the most amazing people I've meet and that shes also the biggest attention whore I've ever met. Also told her that I hope her relationship between Derrick goes a lot better then the ones she had with me and John. Damn you guys couldn't have been anymore right..

Saw that one coming a mile away. If you want to get it in.. tell her straight up that you want to fuck. You're young and shit probably sounds crazy right? it's not all that crazy, brazen confidence and honesty is rare yet appreciated but you still need verbal game to close the deal. My advice is to get past it and pursue higher quality women, that girl is a nobody and is just your typical user. That doesn't mean you can't get what you want as well, figuring out what you really want is the hard part (sex / meaningful relationship). That girl is definitely not going to give you a meaningful relationship, but good thing you figured that one out by now.

Some sound advice moving forward.. if you meet a girl who has a boyfriend, it's okay to flirt a little but don't try to undermine their relationship. Keep a safe distance away from her personal life. If she digs you, she'll break up with the guy.. give it a couple of months after the breakup and things will work out naturally. When you get into a relationship, keep your guard up and be patient, let the relationship develop and mature before you get serious.

May 15, 2010 | 10:02 AM

#42

03bl AC k CL

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From: Freehold, NJ

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Originally Posted by akplaya92

Great advice and I couldn't agree more. I got two other girls I'm gonna start on next week lol. Although I still find her to be an amazing person. Its a shame that shes a whore... Oh well. Maybe she might come back trying to kiss my ass after she finds out Derrick is only using her for sex.

In life most experiences are gained by learning the hard way. She is going to have to realize that if she wants to play people she is going to get played. Remember what I said about how love can be blinding in my last post? Just look at what you said that you still find her to be an amazing person. She played you while she played her boyfriend twice. She isn't really that amazing of a person. She seems like a girl with low self esteem and no real moral foundation. If she was an amazing person she would have took into consideration more than just her own feelings in this situation.

And good job on the 2 new girls. Be careful about putting too much of your heart into it though, because you might be unintentionally looking for companionship with anyone else just to fill the original girls place. You don't want to come off as that "clingy" guy, because then you'll seem pretty unattractive in any new girl's eyes.

May 17, 2010 | 11:21 PM

#43

boracayjohnny

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From: Viva Las Vegas

She sounds like a great candidate for the Houdini.

*See definition #2.

May 18, 2010 | 08:24 PM

#44

TL1999

GO DAWGS!! SICK'EM!!

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From: UGA DAWGS COUNTRY

You are only 17!!!!!! move on and plenty of fishes out there for you to catch.

May 22, 2010 | 09:16 AM

#45

1StGenCL

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Originally Posted by akplaya92

She tells me that out of the three guys I was the sweetest and cared about her the most. I guess nice guys do always finish last guys. I told her that shes been one of the most amazing people I've meet and that shes also the biggest attention whore I've ever met. Also told her that I hope her relationship between Derrick goes a lot better then the ones she had with me and John. Damn you guys couldn't have been anymore right..

Ok, be honest. You told her she was the most amazing person you have met and probably some other stuff (you want to cover her in waffles and butter, want to have her kids, gorgeous, etc) but you didn't say she is an attention whore or anything close, did you? Remember honest...