Gonna try and make this as short and sweat as possible. I like a girl and she likes me too, but she has a boyfriend. We've been talking and hanging out almost everyday now for like 3 weeks. We also work together and today her boyfriend got pissed that she was hanging out with me instead of him... Shes said that she won't do anything with me in till she breaks up with John (her boyfriend). The problem is shes gonna be leaving the state this summer to go to college and if she doesn't break up with John by then were never gonna be able to be together. I asked her what she would do if she was in my situation and she said she would just wait and hang around till she brokes up with John (if that even happens before she leaves..). I don't want to force her to break up with John and date me though. I honestly feel like shes the perfect girl for me though. If I didn't like her so much I would just move on. Also last night was his prom (he goes to a different school about 10 minutes away from the one me and the girl I like go to) and things didn't go to well. He was crazy wasted with his friends and she didn't want to be with them cause she didn't know his friends that well, and didn't want to get drunk. So she gets home at like 12 and talks to me till almost 4 in the morning. A little bit of advice guys? I don't want to be the guy who came second to John.. Who by the way is a car enthusiast also. He drives a black Nissan 5th Gen Sentra SE-R. I should just smoke his ass with the TL and steal his girl .

 

One question you need to think about. If she's already doing this, what makes you think she won't do the same to you? She's going to college out of state in the summer. Sorry, next question to ask. Are you trying to have her as a girlfriend or just another chic to F***? Just being honest man, move on and forget the drama you're in.

 

Run Forest, Run

 

Thanks for the advice bro. Honestly theres another girl who likes me and shes just as hot. Plus shes single. So if it were for the sex I would have moved on. I understand what your saying about her doing this to John, but you have to consider that she hasn't done anything with me and that shes not dumping him.

 

Pics first, life changing advice later....

 

Yeah, I have to second that if you want more advice.

 

Huh? What do you guys want pics of?

 

You...

 

Were both 17 and your 38. Not even legal lol

Can I have my life changing advice now please?

 

The age of consent is 16 on the Internet....

 

Nothing wrong with some eye candy. PICS!!! Of both of them and then we'll decide.

 

Lca = rfr

 

No advice until pics are delivered.

 

Move on.

 

If she hasn't dumped him after 3 weeks of hanging out with you, then she probably won't, move on and date the single girl

 

Move on.

Side note....It's awesome not being 17.

 

Bone her and move on. She has already cheated on her boyfriend by hanging with you. Some physical stuff wont make the situation any worse. LOL But no really move on................................................ ................














































but bone her first.

 

Put a couple glasses of wine in her, get what's yours, move along, you got college girls to play with in the fall.

 

I think you've answered your own question.

There are lots of warning signals in your posts. The one that jumps out to me is her attitude that you should just hang out until she breaks it off with John, but gives you no time table or definite answer. That's just a girl who wants attention.

Seems like I've said this same thing now in three different threads, but look at her actions, not her words. Truth is in the actions. She can talk all she wants about you and the possibility of her breaking up with John, but if she isn't getting around to it then she's giving you lip service.

At 17 you have to be VERY careful about chasing the IDEA of what you and another girl could be, versus what you really are. What you really are to her right now is a friend.

I had a g/f back home when I went to college. In spite of a strong relationship (and having dated almost a year), we didn't make it 5 months after I left. You both are going to change a lot in the next 4 years. The hope of starting something now and having it be serious enough to survive a long distance relationship is a long shot. That kind of situation takes a lot of maturity and a lot of work.

Don't miss out on what's in front of you over an idea in your head of what you and her could be. Go be 17, and call the hot single girl.

 

Give her the boot work. It's not worth your time.

 

been in the same situation in my earlier years, just GTFO and boot her. no good will come from it. her doing this to her now bf is only bad signs fro you. trust me it will not end well at all.

 

you are 17, soooo many other girls in the world, idc if you say you have that feeling about her, YOU ARE 17 kid...im only 4 years older but i know what im talking about...get over her, shes going to college in a diffrent state...what if u get serious with her this summer, next thing u know shes doing to you what she did to john....if you want to enjoy urself, stay friends, but get urself a girl that single...

/rant over

 

ignore her and move on, she will then come to you. Blow her off a few more times, let her blow you, move on and don't look back

 

Wait, wait, wait... still no pics???

 

Sounds like you're her "guy" friend. In other words she thinks you're gay.

 

If I went for the girl who I thought was perfect when I was a teenager I'd be married to a coked out whore whose recovering from a heroin addiction with 3 kids from different fathers.

Bone her.. let her go. Whatever you do, don't eat a bullet after all is said and done.

 

Just move on she will do the same thing to you thats she is doing to"John"

 

You sound like an emotional tampon for her. Move along and go for the single girl that likes you.

 

Man, I'm your age. College starts in the fall, leave these stupid high school girl behind and get the hell out of the friend zone! Go to college, meet girls, and enjoy yourself, don't get caught up in all of this, it takes out of the fun you could be having!

 

Show her no interest - make her come to you. By hanging around she knows she has you by the conads and is just pulling your puppet strings. No future in her. If she breaks up with her current John then he will come looking for you for a beat down and take his frustrations out on you because he won't beat on her, just some close to her. This will turn into trouble - beware.

 

Dude...you are WAY too young to even be asking this question. And as you read this saying what does this old f*ck know...We were all your age once. We've all been in your position, and we all learned the hard way that no girl is permanent at your age. No matter how great she is. Even if you follow her to college and some how end up marrying here, chances are that won't last.
Enjoy being a teen and having no responsibilities other than doing well in school and a part time job. Have fun...f*ck around and keep it wrapped.

 

Really?

 

no bs.

 

It sounds like she's already cheating on her boyfriend by hanging out with you so much. In fact, it sounds like you two are already dating, you just aren't admitting it.

So like others are saying, that suggests she'd do the same thing to you. Would you feel good about the relationship if you were John?

Sorry to be an asshole but you need to take a step back and respect the relationship. If she REALLY liked you more she'd have already dumped him and gotten with you. Why would she stay with him and want you? It doesn't make huge sense.

 

You're 17, plenty out there. There is no perfect girl at your age, especially as screwed up as girls are today.

 

I'll add to this, I'd be married to a girl that had three babies by three different men as well. THANK GOD, the AF sent me to England.

 

There's a number of reasons this situation is wrong.

1st: Like everyone has said she will in all likeliness end up doing this to you eventually if you two dated.

2nd: Karma is a bitch. Chances are if you break up this relationship, the likeliness that it will happen to you in your life is great (whether or not you believe in karma is up for debate).

3rd: When an outside party interferes in another guy's relationship that is a direct insult to the guy's ego, pride, and obviously hurts because he most likely has feelings for this girl being they are in a relationship. Do you want the drama of dealing with a potentially well deserved ass kicking, or fight of some sort that could be avoided by respecting boundaries?

This girl in particular loves the attention, and the fact that she has options. At the end of the day you need to ask yourself if you're ok with being just an option. The correct answer would be that you are worth more than being just an option. I'm going through my own issues right now with a girl, but I know damn well if I was just plan b, I would not try to work things out. Good luck though. You've got a long life ahead of you to meet "the one"

 

Thanks a ton to everyone for the awesome advice. Sorry guys been busy all week and have not have a chance to update this thread. Everything was going great all week, till tonight. Not sure if i mentioned before, but me and her work together and both get out at 10 everynight that we work. John works two minutes away and comes to the parking lot we work at on most nights and sees her for about 10 minutes before going home. Then she hangs out with me for like another hour before going home. Of course she makes out with him and shit during the 10 mintues, which really hurt me inside.

So tonight I get a long ass text message from her saying that she is sorry that she is not picking me, cause shes in love with another guy. John? Nope! Derrick! Whos Derrick? The third f**king guy shes been talking too.. She said Derrick was her boyfriend before John and hes 20. I feel like shit, but I can honestly say that I feel worse for John. His BITCH has been talking to two other guys while dating him...

She tells me that out of the three guys I was the sweetest and cared about her the most. I guess nice guys do always finish last guys. I told her that shes been one of the most amazing people I've meet and that shes also the biggest attention whore I've ever met. Also told her that I hope her relationship between Derrick goes a lot better then the ones she had with me and John. Damn you guys couldn't have been anymore right..

 

You're young, (then again so am i) but no matter what rejection sucks and hurts no matter what age it is. At the very least you learned a valuable lesson about how blind "love" or whatever you may have felt for this girl was. At least you didnt waste a ton of time on this girl, and you have college to look forward to as well. Things will get better trust me. I have went thru a lot of shit the past month, feel free to read my thread if you have a lot of time on your hands, but at the end of the day it gets better little by little with every day that passes. It really is like a wound and it needs time to heal. In this case though, I think you're best bet is talking to as many girls as possible to get your mind off this girl, I think you'll get over her pretty quickly.

 

Great advice and I couldn't agree more. I got two other girls I'm gonna start on next week lol. Although I still find her to be an amazing person. Its a shame that shes a whore... Oh well. Maybe she might come back trying to kiss my ass after she finds out Derrick is only using her for sex.