I met up with my ex of 3 years on Saturday. She lives in the Detroit area, I live in the Chicago area. We broke up about 3 months ago. We decided to meet in the middle just to hang out and catch up.

Well, we got a room and went swimming. After some hugging and what not in the pool, these kids came in, so we left. We went to the room and ended up having sex.

The thing is, she is seeing some guy. I've been with 2 or 3 girls since her but it's just not the same. We don't want a long distance relationship since it was getting really old. She tells me that she loves me more than anyone else and that one day we'll be back together.

Should I continue to meet up with her like this every now and then?

 

not if there's serious emotions involved

 

DO IT, and i will live vicariously through you.

 

She's your ex for a reason.

 

This probably is stupid advice...but I'd keep banging her till you find a girl you'd rather bang instead

 

That was the "goodbye" shag. And ABreece is right, she's your ex for a reason.

 

I think when you decided to "get a room", your fate was already sealed on this one.

 

I don't understand...

You got sex, no strings attached. What's the problem?

You start throwing emotions into the mix, either hers or yours and then it's a problem. If she's seriously dating this other dude and not just "seeing him" then there is also a problem.

 

We talked about the other guy before. They are dating, but she says that he's not really boyfriend material to her because of some of the things he says.

The only thing that broke us up and is keeping us apart is the distance. Of course I still have feelings for her, as does she. I didn't go there just to have sex with her.

 

+ 1 about her being your ex for a reason.

as long as you're on good terms and you're both keeping an open end to the relationship, there's really nothing wrong with what you're both doing. if one of you becomes serious with someone else, then yeah, there would be something wrong. could she be right by saying you may end up together again? if there's no chance of you getting back with her, you should stop this before things get ugly.

 

I'm going to balk the others here and say that you should keep seeing her. If she's really the one, then you won't regret it later on. I'm in a similar position where everyone else just doesn't compare. Especially if you broke up cause of distance. Your lives should stabilize pretty soon and then one of you can move, right? So why not, keep it up. Don't let location screw you two over.

 

Meh, keep fucking her until one of you feels guilty about it.

 

Detroit isnt that far dood

If you care about her enough then im sure you can make it work.

 

I don't think either one is gonna feel guilty because we both have feelings for each other. We didn't just do it because we needed some. Even her parents knew that she met me.

Either way, I don't think there is a doubt in either one of our minds that we'll be back together. We said that we would when we separated. I asked her if she would wanna meet again like that and she said yes.

 

but damn, it took 3 years to get sick of the distance?

 

I didn't mind driving. We met in Kalamazoo and it seemed A LOT shorter - it only took me about an hour and 45 minutes. It's just that we wanna see each other more than once a week on the weekend.

 

can't one of you move?

 

My college is paid here, hers is paid in Michigan. Right now it's not possible. Would have done it a long time ago.

 

 

When are you two done with school... i mean you already were with her for 3 years so im confused.

How can you not wait till shes done, whats another year after 3?

Or is there more to this story....

 

I was in the military. I just really started school last year and still don't have enough time to go full time. She's a year and a half younger and just finished her first year.

 

word. gotta go cold turkey. you might come off as a dick, but its the best way. no talking or visiting for a good long while

 

I saw that you did post farther down, but I read your post thinking "hahahaha they met in some chintzy Kalamazoo motel pool for sex."

Cmon, think about it. It's kinda .................................................. .......................... weird.
(The pool at Weber's Inn in Ann Arbor is at least kinda, well, romantic if you take out the kids likely to be in there.)

 

dude, free no strings attached sex? and you want to STOP that? geesh.

 

If he's gonna drive all the way to Kzoo, might as well check out the chicks @ Western Michigan. Not that my cousins there say there's anything to write about.

Of course, he could still meet the girl from Detroit there too.

 

make her a fuck buddy!

Dude, this is the reason why there's so many divorce today. You broke up, she's your ex for a reason (distance). Get together while she has a bf (how would you know if she wasn't banging anybody when she dated you?) , you'll get with her, love her, marry her. Have kids, divorce, and welcome to TODAY'S SOCIETY.

I say keep her as a fuck buddy (and only as a fuck buddy)
find yourself another girl, if you like that girl, stop banging this chick and get your life straight.

 

Haha, you guys crack me up. I didn't drive there for sex. I didn't even expect anything. We only had sex because her nipples got hard after we got out of the water.

But seriously, didn't even know the hotel had a pool until we got there.

 

i'd keep banging her until she starts to have sex with another guy....after that bye bye.

I always tell my girls around the US, that i dont have a problem been in a LD Sex/relationship/fuck buddy type, but the min they find someone else thats it, i'll never fuck them again and i tell them DIRECT so there is no misunderstanding , i make the most out of it and when its over move on.

 

hey, you know, sometimes you need to get laid. and why not with someone you know so well and trust?

as for rekindling the flame, i wouldn't get your hopes up. but for the time being, i don't see a problem having sex. just keep your guard up, and make sure that if you don't want to get back together you aren't leading her on.

 

I dont think i would ever have an ex as a fuck buddy. Too many emotions would go into it i would think. Its just asking to get hurt.

Then again im a sucka.

 

Fuck buddies that are ex's are great. You can do stuff to the nth degree with them without fear of repercussion or freaking them out.

I say, stick it in her poop chute. Hell, I feel good just telling you to do it to an ex. Imagine how you'll feel?

 

Couldn't agree more. I kept my ex on the side for 2+ years after we split up - Yup it was that good. I was dating another girl during this time but I would hook up with the ex like I had found a new religion. Things not going right at home, I would just hook up with the ex when I had time to myself which happened regulary. I don't care what anyone says, the best booty is booty that's convenient.

 

If I remember correctly, the two of you broke up while you were dealing with some personal stuff arising from your war experiences, right? And, in the interim time, you've been working on those issues, which means that you've been changing, and becoming a more authentic "you". Given that, she may well feel and see the changes in you, and is able to validate the initial feelings of attraction that she had for you.

If she's the love of your life, your soulmate, the long distance stuff is really tiresome, but will allow the relationship to grow slowly, quietly and with some timbre to it. If she is not, the long distance stuff will kill it, and your relationship may just become a mutually convenient booty call for you both.......

I say give it a shot, under the premise that neither she nor you have anything to loose by re-igniting your old relationship under slightly different premises, given the work you have been doing. If the affection for each other runs true and deep, you will both hang tough through the time it takes to get through your respective academic cycles.

 

Keep hittin' it...nuff said!

 

It was a few things that made us separate, but the distance really sealed it. Everything becomes really frustrating after such a long time in a long distance relationship so it's not easy not to argue, which we did a lot.

 

homewrecker....

she'll hurt you man. when it comes down to it, she can choose the other guy and leave you stranded.

she tells you that she loves you more than anything else in the world, she probably said the same lyrics to her current man.

 

Two words...

Poop chute.

 

One thing I learned was "when you get out of shit, don't step back into shit" . If ya'll just hook up now and then hey... no biggie, but don't let the girl think you're in love with her.

 

Well here's an update. We spent pretty much the whole last weekend together and saturday night we had the best sex...ever. It was actually pretty fun hanging out. I can't remember when the two of us had so much fun while we were still together.

 

Quote that comes to mind: "Sex with the ex is always the best."