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Old Jul 5, 2005 | 05:44 PM
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How do you guys feel about age gaps?

What's too much, what's too little?

I'm interested in this girl, she's 19 though (just turned in March)
I'm 24, soon to be 25 (in Aug)

Is 5 yrs and some change too much, is she too young? Lend me your thoughts.
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Old Jul 5, 2005 | 05:47 PM
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That's fine...

You only have to start worrying if they are old enough to be your daughter
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Old Jul 5, 2005 | 05:48 PM
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Old Jul 5, 2005 | 05:55 PM
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well seeing as your about to be 25, and she just turned 19, the only thing you are going to have a tough time with is maturity level, which is a big thing to me
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Old Jul 5, 2005 | 06:04 PM
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for me i say 5 years max as long as they're over 18 thou really as long as i like the person enough i guess age doesnt matter, unless shes young enough to be my daughter
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Old Jul 5, 2005 | 06:16 PM
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Nobody has been through as much age-related drama as me as far as relationships go.

Dated a 2 months from 17 year old in March...lasted 2 weeks.

Went to a prom with a 2 months from 18 year old last week...not datable material (too trivial/immature for me)

My first bf was 19 when I was 17. Went long distance for 3 years, broke up, still best friends.

My second was a 19 year old when I was 20, dated for a year and a month, still thinking of getting back together, still best friends.

28 year old wants to date me...we have lots in common but I'm more "daring" (ie: I'm more immature and like to rock the public's boat with my words and actions which causes a problem for a relationship with someone 7 years older than me).


So, as you can see, with age gaps bigger than 2-3 years...I've typically had bad luck. I can only speak for personal experience. Although a girl of 19 might have the same maturity level as you at 24, keep that in mind, as long as she's had exposure to something other than high school. Post-secondary changes people a lot.
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Old Jul 5, 2005 | 06:39 PM
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The age gap is fine but it might get annoying since shes not 21. Not many places you can take her out to if you like the bars/clubs.

Otherwise I say game on!
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Old Jul 5, 2005 | 07:05 PM
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meh age really isnt too important
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Old Jul 5, 2005 | 07:54 PM
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your right, age is nothing but a number, maturity is where it counts
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Old Jul 5, 2005 | 08:00 PM
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Originally Posted by Crazy Sellout
The age gap is fine but it might get annoying since shes not 21. Not many places you can take her out to if you like the bars/clubs.

Otherwise I say game on!
In college any girl (18 + of course ) was fair game, but once I graduated I couldn't stand any girls under 21...too much of a hassle.
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Old Jul 5, 2005 | 08:34 PM
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Originally Posted by JimmyCarter
In college any girl (18 + of course ) was fair game, but once I graduated I couldn't stand any girls under 21...too much of a hassle.
Yeah, you and your Mercedes chick. Let's face it, you like the older, richer, bossier women.
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Old Jul 5, 2005 | 08:55 PM
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Yeah, you and your Mercedes chick. Let's face it, you like the older, richer, bossier women.
She is older and richer
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Old Jul 5, 2005 | 09:07 PM
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I am 24 and it would depend on the girl, some woman mature quick and other's never do. That being said I wouldn't date anyone younger then 18 or older then 40- she would have to be a youthful and energetic 40 though.
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Old Jul 5, 2005 | 09:38 PM
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1/2 your age + 7yrs
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Old Jul 5, 2005 | 10:12 PM
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Personally, all the girls younger then me are dumb as nails for the most part. I need to date a girl smarter then me (that's not hard to find though). The young ones don't challenge conversations enough. That's why I never understand guys who date HS girls. It's sick as fuck. These girls are on such a DIFFERENT level then you are. But I guess that's what they like cause they can control them.
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Old Jul 5, 2005 | 10:26 PM
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Originally Posted by CLpower
Personally, all the girls younger then me are dumb as nails for the most part. I need to date a girl smarter then me (that's not hard to find though). The young ones don't challenge conversations enough. That's why I never understand guys who date HS girls. It's sick as fuck. These girls are on such a DIFFERENT level then you are. But I guess that's what they like cause they can control them.
I wish they would quit doin that too man. It takes away from my choices
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Old Jul 5, 2005 | 10:50 PM
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My girlfriend is 6 years older than me. No big deal really.

As long as you are happy :whocares:
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Old Jul 5, 2005 | 11:06 PM
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i'm trying to set things up with this girl back from highschool, she's 18 and i'm 21.
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Old Jul 5, 2005 | 11:10 PM
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Originally Posted by Teh Jatt
i'm trying to set things up with this girl back from highschool, she's 18 and i'm 21.
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Old Jul 5, 2005 | 11:10 PM
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18-22 = Good for fucking
22+ = Wife Credentials
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Old Jul 6, 2005 | 12:36 AM
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Originally Posted by Crazy Sellout
The age gap is fine but it might get annoying since shes not 21. Not many places you can take her out to if you like the bars/clubs.

Otherwise I say game on!

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Old Jul 6, 2005 | 12:56 AM
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Yeah, it for sure gets annoying with someone under 21. Can't go anywhere! Good thing I have a fake ID.
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Old Jul 6, 2005 | 01:25 AM
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Sexual? Legal limit goes for me. Serious relationship? I don't have an age limit per se but I usually can't stand talking to girls who are like 22 and think they know everything in the world. I find that women around 25+ start mellowing out and figuring out the world a bit. I don't like some women 29+ (I'm 28) because they start getting really serious and wanting marriage marriage marriage.

I guess it all depends on what you want and what she wants. Age is only a limiting factor as far as people who are similar age tend to share similar wants and desires.
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Old Jul 6, 2005 | 02:33 AM
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Originally Posted by Xenogen
18-22 = Good for fucking
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Ah, the Xeno Code.
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Old Jul 6, 2005 | 04:13 AM
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Depends on what your lookin for. I say train the bitch. Teach her how to suck,f--k,the way you like it. Her boyfriends of the future will thank you. But really I haven't dated anyone younger than me EVER. I would imagine they would be more materialistic, but easy to manipulate. But no real challenge. Keep your game up and try for some older bitches, anyone can hit a girl out of high school.
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Old Jul 6, 2005 | 06:02 AM
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My wife is 12 years my junior. been married eight years...
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Old Jul 6, 2005 | 07:19 AM
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Originally Posted by 1killercls
My wife is 12 years my junior. been married eight years...

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Old Jul 6, 2005 | 09:10 AM
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I tried to date soemone who was 10 years yonger. She was 19. That didn't last long at all. The first "but he's so old" comment & a little teasing from her friends did it in.
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Old Jul 6, 2005 | 09:11 AM
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Originally Posted by fuzzy02CLS
I tried to date soemone who was 10 years yonger. She was 19. That didn't last long at all. The first "but he's so old" comment & a little teasing from her friends did it in.
29 and 19??? wtf dude, that's just creepy.
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Old Jul 6, 2005 | 10:02 AM
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Originally Posted by cTLgo
How do you guys feel about age gaps?

What's too much, what's too little?

I'm interested in this girl, she's 19 though (just turned in March)
I'm 24, soon to be 25 (in Aug)

Is 5 yrs and some change too much, is she too young? Lend me your thoughts.
She's 19 (young and fresh), you're 25, right with the age gap IMO. If you're 35, now that's a bit too old for her. But who cares when a girl is 19
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Old Jul 6, 2005 | 10:05 AM
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Old Jul 6, 2005 | 10:05 AM
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My wife is 12 years my junior. been married eight years...

you fucking creep
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Old Jul 6, 2005 | 12:35 PM
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you fucking creep
just means he's a charmer
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Old Jul 6, 2005 | 01:01 PM
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Originally Posted by Crazy Sellout
The age gap is fine but it might get annoying since shes not 21. Not many places you can take her out to if you like the bars/clubs.

Otherwise I say game on!
Uhhh ... isn't 98CLChick < 21 ??? But I guess you guys can improvise ...

[edit] -- Oh yeah, Michigan licenses are like high school IDs. Easy to fake. See them all the time in Ontario.

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Going back to the original topic ... I'm 30 and my GF (almost fiancee) is turning 25. Five years is do-able. I'm immature and my GF is mature. Works out quite nicely. LOL.
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Old Jul 6, 2005 | 02:24 PM
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A topic that comes up from time to time since my wifes 10 years older. Personally I got tired of baby-sitting the younger chicks and wanted someone who was established and knew what she wants. I had a 20 year old g/f when I was 26 and the insecurity and jealousy drove me away. To many late nights trying to convince her I wasn't cheating on her and a night out alone with some of my friends got to be really difficult. The rumor that girls mature faster than guys is BULL-SHIT at least in what I've seen. Maturity comes with age and experience and can't be faked. my
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Old Jul 6, 2005 | 02:51 PM
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My girl is 5 years younger than me, of course at my age that's nuthin! If you can handle the 19 y/o immaturity at 25 then go for it!
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Old Jul 6, 2005 | 03:40 PM
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Uhhh ... isn't 98CLChick < 21 ??? But I guess you guys can improvise ...

[edit] -- Oh yeah, Michigan licenses are like high school IDs. Easy to fake. See them all the time in Ontario.

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She will be 21 in September so its not that bad. Plus she has a decent fake ID.

I will be 25 in December, so our age gap aint too bad. Plus we know how mature I am.
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Old Jul 6, 2005 | 03:41 PM
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me=33
my bf = 29

my previous bf was 3 years older than me.

In both relationships the age difference was irrelevant.
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Old Jul 6, 2005 | 03:51 PM
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Originally Posted by TSXInTheOC
me=33
my bf = 29

my previous bf was 3 years older than me.

In both relationships the age difference was irrelevant.


Me = 25
Gf = 31

We get along and love each other so it's all good!
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Old Jul 6, 2005 | 03:55 PM
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well also, I think when you are over 25 3-5 years isn't really an age difference. Now a 30 year old dating a 19 year old is a HUGE age difference, hell a 22 year old and a 18 year old big cause most of the time there is a complete mental maturity difference
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