my husband and I are getting a divorce. It will be finalized in may. Just didn't work out, no more 05 TL =(. I can't afford it, we'll i could, but don't want to live on rice & beans, lol.....So, now I have a 97 200 sx se-r and actually love driving the little red, standard coupe!!!! its sooooo much fun, quite different from the TL. One day, I'll have a nice car again, but it will be because I earned it and worked my ass off for it.

I move out this weekend and on to my new life. It will be hard at first, but I know it will have been for the best. I'm only 27 and ready to start all over. Enjoy my life, family and career.

Any advice for a divorcee to be?????

 

Got any kids? If not, good!

Are you in shape? If not, start going to the gym. It will help you bring your self-esteem back up and get your mind off things.

Got a degree? If not, now would be a good time to start looking into it.

Got an idea why the relationship ended on a bad note? Make a physical or mental list of it. The list should revolve around the things you've learned and you can improved upon in your next relationship. Avoid listing faults of your soon-to-be ex; he's done and over with...The focus here is YOU.

No sex with anyone for at least 3 months. (Masturbating OK!)

Map out your life for the next 18 months and work towards those short-term goals.

AZ should be one of your best friends whenever you're bored within the next few months.

Do NOT become a man-hater.

^^^^^^^ Much easier said than done, but you gotta do what you gotta do, right? Good Luck!

 

What does "it just didn't work out" mean? I mean, you're getting a divorce. Obviously marriage didn't work out. But how and why did it not work out?

Just an innocent question from someone that's not married

BTW, you don't seem too distressed by it which is good I suppose.

 

You seem more upset about the stupid car.....

 

hahaha...QFT...

 

Holy shit I'm sick..... I caught the flu and I've been sleeping non stop........ where the wifey when I need a doctor!?

ChicaTL, sorry to hear about the divorce, SoCal Acura909 gave some good tips...
Obtain a degree if you don't already have, and get yourself in shape. There are plenty of nice guys out there for you. Keep in mind that you might want to take some time off before you jump back into the dating zone. Being single all of sudden can be hard, but many Americans do it today. I've never in been this kinda of situation so I cannot tell you first hand of how it is..........but the best advice I can think of is to keep your head up and move on.
Maybe I'm just mumbling........ but perhaps because I'm not thinking right from the flu.......

best of luck

 

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Sorry to hear about the divorce. All I can say at this point is not to jump into another relationship right away. Take your time to let the wounds heal and focus your energies on something productive like work, a hobby, family, etc.

Do you have any kids?

 

Whatever you do, dont jump into another relationship for awhile, take care of yourself. Im dating a girl that just got out of a relationship of 4.5 years that ended 3months ago. Its a struggle i can tell you that much.

 

Sorry to hear Chica. I agree with a lot of what SoCal had to say. But I've never been there. I watched my cousin go through it and it was a bad time in his life. He basically did the opersite of what SoCal said and I think that lead to some serious issues for him.

The best advice I can give you is to take some time to be selfish. Think more about yourself than what you think other people will think. A couple friends that I know who got divorced spent too much time thinking of what their friends or family would think, and it added to their depression. I agree that you should try to lay off any relationship for a bit. Decide what you want from life and go for it.

 

that sucks. usually these things are the start of better things to come. best of luck

 

Sorry to hear things didn't work out with you and your husband. 3 out of the 5 employees in my department at work have or are going through a divorce in the past year, so I've seen and heard quite a bit about divorces lately.

I'd say the number one thing you can do to help yourself deal with what's going on is to go see a psychologist or therapist. A divorce obviously involves a lot of emotional stress that is way too much to try to deal with on your own. I'm sure you have friends that you can talk to but the only issue with that is I'm sure those friends will have opinions already set in their minds and their advice might not be completely unbiased. Good friends in most cases will automatically side with you and the mutual ones might say one thing to you but another to your husband. Don't make it where you have to choose who to stay friends with and not stay friends with.

Take what your friends say at face value but get the real advice from someone who's trained to undestand what the underlying issues really are and that can explain to you in a rational way how to deal with them and try to learn and move on to better yourself. Don't bash your husband and don't tell your friends too much about what's going on with the technicalities of the divorce because the last thing you want is to let your emotions drive how the divorce is settled.

Hope this helps.

 

Move to Car talk?

 

Sorry to hear man....

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So Chica, do you have any kids...?

 

Jacks wife?

 

The photo is one of the doctors from House.

 

I have to watch this show...

 

Great show. But you kinda have to picture her wearing a large white lab coat. Not as flattering as the pic above.

 

She looks 10x better in that pic than she typically does on the show. But the show is still good to watch. Do they show it in the UK? They should, considering the lead actor is a Brit and won a few awards for his role.

 

What is the reason that did not work out?

 

I am always amused by the fact that Hugh Laurie is able to hide his accent so well playing the role of House.

 

Thank you very much....

 

oh and NO KIDS!!!

 

Way too much to go into. I'll do it at a later time when i have time, lol!!!!

 

Ya, you definitely don't seem to upset by it.

 

Ok, now, post a pic of yourself...

 

 

I'm feeling better now... almost died......

Dr. Cameron, an immunologist... like my wife.... lol

 

no man... I didnt catch the flu from the wifey.... she's been in Japan for the last 3 weeks....


she's on her first flight home since I was so sick....... but watch once she's home... I'd be 100% fine lmao...

 

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Hey, thanks for posting your pix

 

Hola....

 

hollar

 

Sleep with few random guys, it will really piss off your ex.

 

i am surprised it took so long for someone to ask...

 

I just sold my 97 Pacific Blue 200SX SE-R. It was my 2nd SE-R, the first was a 92 Sentra. Absolutely loved both of those cars. Had to give up the SE-R because it's not baby-compatible. But I'm really liking my TL now!

As far as advice:

Enjoy life. Guilt is a neurosis and you should not allow yourself to feel it for any length of time. Move on, life is too short to wallow in misery.

Go make a skydive. (Yes I mean that seriously, I have 436 jumps.) Nothing gives you a new perspective than hurling yourself at the ground at 120mph.

Blue Skies,
CanopyFlyer

 

Best show EVER!!!! (sorry about the hijack)

Oh, and good luck post-divorce....

 

You will do very well for yourself in Austin. Do you do SXSW? Enjoy your life and look at relationships closely now. You look very confident and that in itself will carry you a long way.

 

Things will work out. It won't always seem that way and it may not always be easy, but you will get through it and come out stronger and better.

Oh, and empty your PM box - all these other guys must have already filled it up.

 

You are young ,have a nice job. You were to young to get married the first time . Learn from this . Remenber there are three stories to everything. Enjoy life,I don't mean to sleep with everthing that comes along,but do things that you would like to do. A nice vacation ,buy a house.My second wife did the same thing, married young divorsed 5 years later.Went on nice vacations by her self and enjoyed it bought a nice home for many years.We got married 4 years ago and are a lot wiser.Have fun

 

She doesn't do much for me, either in that pic or on the show.