WTF......I remember like up to a year ago, I liked having sex with my girl. NOW.....its soooooooooo routine, almost boring I'm not quite sure what to do, the only place she "feels comfortable" is in my bedroom......which was cool for the first 2000 times, but she needs to become a little mor outgoing.....but If I bring it up, she gets pissy. I hope my women (Silvia, MissiVTECH, 98CLChick) on the board give me some advice.

 

place a copy of the kama sutra on her side of the bed with a gift wrapped bow around it...

 

That sucks. I've never run into the problem of sex with the same person becoming boring.

I don't understand why she gets pissed when you mention it to her. Don't most people want to please their partner?

If she's only "comfortable" in the bedroom, does that rule out spontaneous sex? Like hot tub, backseat, etc....? It doesn't sound like you can change much unless she decides to cooperate.

 

Thats right....she needs to suprise me, a little spontanaity wouldn't kill her!

 

damn i wish i was 19 again.... "back seat" i havent done that since college....

kumar

 

lol the back seat of the CL is pretty soft

 

Back seat is too small... but i've handled the front seat a few times

 

Didn't mean to get off topic.... dude if it is boring in bed and she isn't willing to make an effort to fix things, it is time to move on.

 

We just had good sex! She did the deepthroat thing...you know....she gagged a little.....a lot of spit....she also bust a nut in her mouth! I don't think she would visit this site......wouls she

I give her an A for effort tonight!

 

 

?

 

The way shes acting tonight.....maybe!!!

 

Back seat is fine, just move the front seat up all the way, its a great angle in the CL as well.

 

i would never post about anything that could get me in trouble, specially by a female ;p

 

Good for you, every man deserves a nice no and then

 

in the cobra w/ the top down if shes a wild one nicky

 

i am 36 now, if i asked a woman to have sex in my car... she might hit me and say "are you crazy"

these babes that are like 28 and up wanna feel special... gotta take em out a few times and then get em up in the crib for some "waxing"....

but damn i had some good backseat sessions in my old 77 impala... had a huge backseat and plent of torque...

kumar

 

I forgot about the Cobra Nicky! Hell, if my bf still had his cobra, I'd be doing whatever he wanted!

 

Hey Nicky didnt ur girl just get implants shit that would have spiced things up a little

 

^for him but not for her

 

 

She gets her boobs on September 9th.

.....then, no "physical activity" for atleast 4 weeks!

 

yeah, i know what you're going through. i've been with my g/f for 3 years and the sex life is kinda screetching to a halt in terms of spontaneity and excitement. i guess that's what "commitment is all about" in a relationship ... the initial physical attraction which extends to an emotional attachment. unfortunately, that's just not flying for me. i mean, you can go to the greatest steakhouse in the world but if you go there every night, you'll eventually get tired of the meat ... to the point that you crave something different. i know this all may sound chauvinistic or immoral, but that's the way males are programmed by nature ... we have a primitive instinct to fuck around and fuck around with as many different women as possible.

 

I feel you man, I didn't even want to have sex with my ex the last month of our relationship and we used to have spectacular sex. Shit I was starting to think I had a problem, but my problem was she bored me to death I was tired of the same old, same old. Since we broke up I ahve been ahving great sex with other chicks.

 

thats gonna suck, maybe u should break up with her for those 4 weeks

 

EH....I just jerk off....then when I'm about to bust a nut...I'll splash her in the face.....then run away with an evil laugh

 

i dont know what to tell you nicky.

i got into the same rut around the same time in the relationship. its all routine, routine routine.

the only thing im finding that works is that some nights i have some really really great dreams (and theyre with him, so it helps) and then i wake up in this great happy mood.

 

It should never be "routine". If it is, something is up.

Routine to me, is almost like making it sound like it's a chore.





meh, what do I know? I'm old and married.

 

well its not that theres a lack of attraction.. its just were in routine of getting up, going to work, coming home, eating, little bit of free time, going to bed, and its not like he (or me, to be honest) makes an effort to turn the other one on, its just like, hey do you wanna??? sometimes its sure!! other times its like like bleh, im tired, i just want to slep

 

And that only lasted for a little while....then its like..."are we ever gonna have sex".....and I say..."I'm a guy, I always want it..just let me know"!

 

"back seat"? I thought only people like Jim McGreevy liked getting it in the "back seat".

 

lol thats the same thing joe says, except thats the answer to, "arent there times you just dont feel like having sex?"

 

Man, all you guys are complaining about how your not enjoying sex anymore with your girl and shit, what will happen when you want to settle downa dn then it is the same pussy for the rest of your life....???

but I am with ya'll....the sex for me started to get boring about the third year also... I finally said fuck it... after fours years with the same chick, i cut that girl loose... we went our seperate ways.... now it is just the palm sisters (man, I miss that bitch, even though she was making me poor)..... having sex is a lot better than having no sex....

 

That made my night. on that note. I'm going to sleep. thank you for making my night.

 

In my eyes it is up to both people to keep it "NON Routine"...I been with the same woman 10 years...and I love her more than ever and NOTHING is routine...

 

the chics bathroom at a Dave and Busters is on....just watch the toilet paper holder and the old lady peeing in the next stall!!!LOL

 

yes killer. but hes saying that shes not willing to do anything outside of the bedroom, makes it kind of hard (no pun intended) doesnt it?

 

agreed...but remember..2 sides to EVERY STORY.

 

Seriously....thats the only place she'll do it.....my bedroom....I wanna go outside....go to a park....in my car....in my garage on the hood of my car......I'm a freak....I guess she's not!

 

Holy @#$%. I can't believe that you blasted this. If your relationship is just sex then run...run fast. I assume it isn't or it wouldn't be 3.5 years. (well done!) If you are talking about the sex being the same for the last few years...get used to it. There are only so many things you can do and other girls will always look cute. After 4 years I got married and I will never stop looking...and I have told my wife. Just don't touch is the idea. It has nothing to do with my sex life and everything to do with being a guy.

Maybe I am wrong...sex in a relationship is pretty important but at the same time just being ABLE to say "this is boring" is a true indication of a love connection. If you can't talk then you are in trouble. I have been there in some of my earlier relationships.

I hope that you work it out. After that much time you should be able to say something and help your situation or if the relationship is broken then jump. Personally, before you get REALLY (ready to marry) someone, you worry about the quality of your sex. It is hard to give up the hunt but nice to have someone that fits you. Good luck.