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Old 07-25-2006, 01:51 PM
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7 years apart...

Is that too chester like? She's 20, will be 21 Aug 20. Well, I just turned 27 on July 16, so it's more like 6 years. Just trying to justify it.

Basically, I went to a wedding about 2 hours north of here for friend of mine this past weekend. I met a great girl. However, I'm 27, she's 20. She goes to school in St. Louis. I didn't get her phone number because of complications that arised in the moring. I stayed on her parents couch and her sister showed up when I woke up. So, we never had a chance alone. She's very cute and going to school for pre-med.

Oh, I should probably she's the groom's little sister. So, getting her number isn't impossible, but will be difficult. So, not only is she 7 years younger, she's my friend's little sister.

Should I let this fade or persue? A friend put it best when he asked what if one of my friends got on my sister.
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Well its "ok" if you are actually going in this for the long-term and not just to get in her pants. Her family members will know what you're up to.
Old 07-25-2006, 02:02 PM
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Don't worry about the age difference. My GF is 8 years younger than me.

I will say, however, that 20-27 is a very formative time for a person. Hopefully she's more mature than the average 20 y/o.

Oh - and as to whether or not it would be wierd? Wouldn't you rather have your sister with a friend of yours that you know to be a good man? She's going to be with somebody - it might as well be a known good person.
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My parents are 7 years apart, no biggie
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I know plenty of people that have that amount of age gap between themselves and their SO
Old 07-25-2006, 02:16 PM
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(Your age/2) + 7 = Bang away

That said, if its your friends sister, I wouldnt bother unless you're in it for more than just to get in her pants - which at her age is unlikely the case.

I wouldnt mind if a friend dated my sister (if i had one) seriously; but if he was just out for a quick score, I think id be pretty outta control about it.
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Yeah, that's been discussed. It's fine if I'm actually trying to date her than just get her drunk.

But the whole, wouldn't you rather have her with a friend. Well, that could be a problem too. He knows me, my life and how I think. We are fraternity brothers and he knows what I did.
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Originally Posted by GoDucksCLSPride
(Your age/2) + 7 = Bang away

That said, if its your friends sister, I wouldnt bother unless you're in it for more than just to get in her pants - which at her age is unlikely the case.

I wouldnt mind if a friend dated my sister (if i had one) seriously; but if he was just out for a quick score, I think id be pretty outta control about it.
what if you're 18? Stat rape
Old 07-25-2006, 02:22 PM
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Go for it, you only live once. So long as you don't make her think you're in it for the long term and then fuck+chuck her, you're fine. If she's up for a 1 night bangfest, why not?
Old 07-25-2006, 03:48 PM
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Originally Posted by Ken1997TL
Well its "ok" if you are actually going in this for the long-term and not just to get in her pants. Her family members will know what you're up to.
What he said. The funny thing is, you've described almost exactly how I met my wife. I was best man in her brother's wedding. The only difference is, she was 24 & I was 30. Worked out fine for us.
Old 07-25-2006, 04:34 PM
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Originally Posted by GIBSON6594
what if you're 18? Stat rape
I have a hard enough time recognizing posts on here form pre18 year olds much less including them in my theories. Likewise, this applies to both parties qualifying as consenting adults.
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it's just a hole..... use it, age shouldn't matter unless she's illegal
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i wouldn't think twice about seeing a 21 & a 27 yr old together. it's really not much of a difference.
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Whats more important, your friendship with your frat mate, or his little sister? Once older, 7 years isnt too much, but if the girl is going to be a doctor, prepare for quite a bit of time apart(Pre-Med, Med, Residency).

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Do you guys think I should ask him first? Yes, like permission.
Old 07-25-2006, 07:20 PM
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Originally Posted by phipark
Do you guys think I should ask him first? Yes, like permission.
Definitely. If not it will always feel like you are sneaking around, whether you are are you arent. ie: telling him the date with his sister was great probably wouldnt sit well with him if he didnt already anticipate it - thus you probably wouldnt tell him and are now in effect "sneaking around"
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Im 30 and my girlfriend just turned 22 last week?? I was real apprehensive in the beginning, but now its OK.

I don't think I could ever date a 30 year old, they just look so old.
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Originally Posted by Rodney
Im 30......

I don't think I could ever date a 30 year old, they just look so old.
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i wouldnt do it only because she is going to turn 21 soon, and you know what that means, party time, id wait, and get to know her better first
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Originally Posted by phipark
Do you guys think I should ask him first? Yes, like permission.
Yes - if you value his friendship.
Old 07-26-2006, 08:17 AM
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Originally Posted by GoDucksCLSPride
Definitely. If not it will always feel like you are sneaking around, whether you are are you arent. ie: telling him the date with his sister was great probably wouldnt sit well with him if he didnt already anticipate it - thus you probably wouldnt tell him and are now in effect "sneaking around"
Well, then we just won't tell him about "sneaking around" during the reception and afterwards.
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long as you are both legal go for it as long as you dont dog her out then your friend shouldnt mind your dateing her
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Why the hell not. If she were 15, I would see a problem, but she's old enough. I would say this though, 20 year old girls may be hot in the sack, but they always seem to be surrounded by DRAMA. I would definately mention it to your buddy first though. Maybe leave out the part about wanting to bang his sister, no one needs that visual.
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Maybe when you'll ask, he'll facilitate? And if he says "no," then you do what you were gonna do anyway, slink away.
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$5 says she annoys the shit out of you and you post a thread about her wanting to party and do other stupid shit that you are over with already. Unless this broad has been on her own or in a responsible role your probably going to have problems with her unless you are on a 21 year olds level. I have a friend who is 21 dating a 28 year old and since I know her and how silly she is I couldn't fathom her and him together....but I am sure he is having fun.
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Shoot I am 28 and I am hitting a 19 year old chick, it's great just don't listen to the radio together.
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Well folks since she's turning 21, that really broadens the amount of things they can do together. I'd make sure it's cool with the brother first, unless you're really good at sneaking around behind people's backs.

All that said, did she give you signs she was even feelin you?
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Originally Posted by Mike97 3.0P
Well folks since she's turning 21, that really broadens the amount of things they can do together. I'd make sure it's cool with the brother first, unless you're really good at sneaking around behind people's backs.

All that said, did she give you signs she was even feelin you?
Besides her tongue down my throat?
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Originally Posted by phipark
Besides her tongue down my throat?
Did I miss that, or did you neglect to mention it?
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Originally Posted by Mike97 3.0P
Well folks since she's turning 21, that really broadens the amount of things they can do together.
Like what, get drunk? You're not going to take her to a bar or club, that's where guys are that want to take her away from you.
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Originally Posted by M TYPE X
Like what, get drunk? You're not going to take her to a bar or club, that's where guys are that want to take her away from you.
Ya don't get out much do ya.
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It is not big deal I say go for it just as long as both are legal which is the case for both of you, just don't dog her out.
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Originally Posted by M TYPE X
Like what, get drunk? You're not going to take her to a bar or club, that's where guys are that want to take her away from you.
And if one of the barflys/club losers manages to talk her into going home with him, he's just done phipark a favor - proven this chick is a worthless whore.
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Originally Posted by Mike97 3.0P
Did I miss that, or did you neglect to mention it?
I neglected.
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Originally Posted by M TYPE X
Like what, get drunk? You're not going to take her to a bar or club, that's where guys are that want to take her away from you.
Haha, in short, yes. Not so much a club but a bar where you can sit and chill and generally not be bothered. And like ABreece said, most girls aren't gonna run off with some other guy unless they are worthless sleazbags.

What else is there to do really? Get ice cream? Go to a movie? Walk in the park? All very uncomfortable situations for girls just meeting a new guy if you ask me. Bar is low key, low pressure, easy ways out too.
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Originally Posted by JJ4Short
$5 says she annoys the shit out of you and you post a thread about her wanting to party and do other stupid shit that you are over with already. Unless this broad has been on her own or in a responsible role your probably going to have problems with her unless you are on a 21 year olds level. I have a friend who is 21 dating a 28 year old and since I know her and how silly she is I couldn't fathom her and him together....but I am sure he is having fun.
She'll annoy the shit out of you. My buddy (28 y/o) just had his heart broken by a 20 y/o that was immature and didn't know what she was doing, he was trying to get serious, she wasn't, it's a big age difference, be careful. I only date older women
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Depends on what each of you is looking for in a relationship at this point in your lives. If you think you might be ready to settle down sometime soon, and she's nowhere near that - it'll never work, regardless of age........etc. I'd give those factors more thought at this point than the 6 year age difference. If those expectations and desires are in two different ballparks, I can see this potential 'relationship' being very short-lived anyway, or ending in a broken heart a year down the road.

EDIT: And yeah, I'd speak with your friend about it prior to making any moves. It's not like he can stop you, but if your friendship is important to you and you want a relationship to work with his sister, having tension and resentment surrounding it will suck!
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Originally Posted by Waddy
it's great just don't listen to the radio together.
That cracked me up!
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Originally Posted by GoDucksCLSPride
Ya don't get out much do ya.
Saw the place and kept on walking.
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