GF said NO!!!!!!!!!! HELP!!!!!
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MyPearl02 sorry if I said anything to offend you a kid is definitely a priority. A lot of these guys talking trash probably get crap from thier old ladies all the time I wouldn't pay it no mind. But yeah in this case maybe listen to your GF.
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this thread easily became one of the top view and top replied to in 3 days. congrats pearl02. and good luck in life. you're only 21, and its quite a young age to be having children. you out of school yet? settled down at all?
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Pearl...I agree with what someone posted before...while you should listen to your gf about lowering & the rims...IMO she probably shouldn't be freaking out about something you did to your car that's free of cost.
If I were you and was going to do some more freebie mods, I would just do them and not mention them to her. If she see's them, ok. If she doesn't notice them, whatever. After all, it is your car and if you're not spending money tweaking it a little, what's the big deal?
That is...it is your car right and not your girl's TL??
If I were you and was going to do some more freebie mods, I would just do them and not mention them to her. If she see's them, ok. If she doesn't notice them, whatever. After all, it is your car and if you're not spending money tweaking it a little, what's the big deal?
That is...it is your car right and not your girl's TL??
#125
you should have fun on your car, for a 21yr old with a kid on the way even, not illegal or wrong or messed up priorities...just fun with the car. if there's any mods that are going to be pricey, maybe $100-150+, then maybe you should clear/convince her first.
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Originally Posted by MyPearl02
the next mod for me is going to be a baby seat and maybe if i have the money one of those suction cup signs that say baby on board. MINT
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#128
Like everyone has said. #1 = Baby, then your car. If you got shit straight with the baby, and got some left over, go with the car. I do the same. Paying for all my bills are just like my "baby". Any thing left over is savings and MyTaLizaS3.2.
#129
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been with my girl for 10 years and never had any issues with my car (spending money on it) or anything. Not sure what your girls deal is ...but its your car and not hers...take the advice and dump her....your responsible and can take care of your own money the way you want to!
#130
Originally Posted by TLsMD
been with my girl for 10 years and never had any issues with my car (spending money on it) or anything. Not sure what your girls deal is ...but its your car and not hers...take the advice and dump her....your responsible and can take care of your own money the way you want to!
knock knock...
HES HAVING A FREAKIN KID IN THREE MONTHS!
sorry for that. but still, i wouldn't dump her, and don't think you should
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Originally Posted by Type-Superman
knock knock...
HES HAVING A FREAKIN KID IN THREE MONTHS!
sorry for that. but still, i wouldn't dump her, and don't think you should
HES HAVING A FREAKIN KID IN THREE MONTHS!
sorry for that. but still, i wouldn't dump her, and don't think you should
nice knock knock lol
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hey first and foremost, congrats on bein a dad
but like it's been said a billion times, relationships is all about compromises. im 19 but i've lived with my parents long enough to know what a good marriage needs.
btw, it's probably over now but it's worth considering what she's giving up, girls night out? dazzling jewelry?
but like it's been said a billion times, relationships is all about compromises. im 19 but i've lived with my parents long enough to know what a good marriage needs.
btw, it's probably over now but it's worth considering what she's giving up, girls night out? dazzling jewelry?
#135
Originally Posted by MyPearl02
shes gone nuts she thinks that my car does not need to be touch i removed the intake resanator and flipped out and told me that i had to put it on i told her no that more restriction and it my car cant breath and its not hurting anything with it being off. Then! i told her i need wheels and to drop my car about an inch and she said NO its fine the way it is i said no its not it needs to be modded shes really putin the cabosh on my having fun with my car so tell her that its ok to do stuff with it please!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Ahh...just read last few posts...kid on the way...somewhat of a problem. But I did say somewhat. Save for the kid man....they are expensive and should be your first priority in this case. Didnt realize kid was involved there.
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Originally Posted by S PAW 1
FUCK THE MODS. I would strongly suggest you save the $20/week and go to parenting school. The fact that the OP didn't "mention" the fact that he was going to soon be a father when he started this thread says he may not be ACKNOWLEDGING it (or he doesn't WANT to), and if you think the way to build a strong relationship is to hide money from your spouse (or GF, in this case) doesn't say much for your maturity either. You did say "family first", so you're on the right track, anyway.
Funny how i get accuse of saying something wrong while other comments are more harsh than mine. Yes, i know he's having a baby later in this thread...so thats why i said family first. Although saving money for the family is a must...the guy needs to have money for fun (modding the car, family trips, present for the g/f, etc). Got to hide the money somewhere for a surprise whenever hes ready to use it. But i guess i'm still wrong...
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wow i didnt think this was going to be such a hit kinda odd. nut any who i wanna thank you all for the helpful hints and tips GO ACURAZINE!!!!!!!
#139
Originally Posted by TLsMD
It doesn't matter kid or no kid. You make the money by working?...Spend it the way you want to. Yea maybe he having a kid with her in 3 months, does not mean he cant do shit to his car. Just my point of view. I missed the whole thing about him having a kid with her lol...SO DONT BREAK UP WITH HER LOL
nice knock knock lol
nice knock knock lol
Agreed, but do you disagree that his son/daughter should not come first? after that, the leftover money can be spent on the car. but you have some really screwed up priorities if you put your car before your kid, even the TL.
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I want to first say congrats on becoming a father. It's a long road ahead and at times might seem like am impossible uphill climb. I assure you though, after countless sleepless nights of feeding and changing diapers you will be rewarded before too long when your little one (boy or girl) will be asking to do something as simple as to help hold some tools while your in the middle of modding and you will realize any sacrifce you had to make along the way was worth it. It gets to me everytime my daughter asks to come outside to help me with my car, It's that special time between father/daughter or even father/son that makes my life complete. I am only 24 myself yet have a daughter whom will be 5 in two weeks. She is everything to me (yes, she even ranks above my TL-S) I would suggest holding back on a few mods and make sure you are well prepared for what your about to experience. This doesn't at all mean to stop modding completing, just decide wisely and don't ever choose between a mod or something for the little one.. I'm sure it goes without saying, your son/daughter will always come first. Again on a closing note I want to wish you the very best. I was in the same situation when my gf (now my wife) didn't want me to do anything to my car, she is still the same way but has also accepted that I will always be modding just like she will always be shopping it just makes us who we are. Don't change who you are just because your gf disagrees with something or even because you have a baby on the way... you just need to first think about what your doing a little harder and ask yourself if it's the right decision.
#143
Originally Posted by TLsMD
been with my girl for 10 years and never had any issues with my car (spending money on it) or anything. Not sure what your girls deal is ...but its your car and not hers...take the advice and dump her....your responsible and can take care of your own money the way you want to!
Originally Posted by Razzi
hey first and foremost, congrats on bein a dad
but like it's been said a billion times, relationships is all about compromises. im 19 but i've lived with my parents long enough to know what a good marriage needs.
btw, it's probably over now but it's worth considering what she's giving up, girls night out? dazzling jewelry?
but like it's been said a billion times, relationships is all about compromises. im 19 but i've lived with my parents long enough to know what a good marriage needs.
btw, it's probably over now but it's worth considering what she's giving up, girls night out? dazzling jewelry?
#144
Originally Posted by Unkn0VV17
Funny how i get accuse of saying something wrong while other comments are more harsh than mine. Yes, i know he's having a baby later in this thread...so thats why i said family first. Although saving money for the family is a must...the guy needs to have money for fun (modding the car, family trips, present for the g/f, etc). Got to hide the money somewhere for a surprise whenever hes ready to use it. But i guess i'm still wrong...
No you aren't. Maybe I was too harsh, but I get so sick of this shit of getting pregnant, and then realizing that someone isn't mature enough to give up his toys. He probably doesn't have the means for both. The child usually ends of suffering due to divorce, etc. I could go on. It happens too many times of every day.
It's a bigger picture than your Acura. He needs to redefine "fun".
I still think parenting classes should be a requirement in cases like this.
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Check your pocket and see if your balls are still in there. Put them back where they belong and tell her adios.
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dude i had a fiance taht was liek taht. she always said to me "ur car is fine the way it. u shouldnt have bought it if u didnt like it!" and i walways got pissed but then i just said to myself " fuck u, this is my car and im gonna do wtf i want to it lol! end of story." then we ended up ending it but i still talk ot her but now im talkin ot this one amazing woman that is just as in love iwth my car as ai am but she wants a chevy truck so bad
. now dont get me wrong my first vehicle was a 92 chevy truck and i loved it but it always seem ot have a small or big problem but not any of my otehr 7 cars lol. so anwyay back to wat i was saying. i just got my irst kiss from her tonight and i was liek ya ur perfect. she wants ot fuckm y car taht is how much she likes it. if it goes further im gonna get her a CL or a TL liek mine or similar to teh 2G lol. dude srry man my car comes first. i would cut her off lol
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Originally Posted by VoLLy_1llusioNz
i agree.
LoL at the comments in this thread thus far.
LoL at the comments in this thread thus far.
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lol i was REALLY fucked up taht night lol. but im good now neway liek i said and everyone else just do wat u want and if she says nething can her a$$ lol. and get tehn u can get a woman taht loves ur tl just as much as u do
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Originally Posted by KSuchdeve
You obviously didn't read the whole thread. This is the mother of his child. If he leaves her, he won't have any money to spend on the TL because he'll be sending her money every month. Isn't it ironic? Don't you think?
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#157
Originally Posted by MyPearl02
yes you need to look at it from all angles stay with her no money loose her even less money so you see its not lookin good for a while
dude, you seem so depressed. Money is money, you just gotta grind and make more if you have less. That's it, plain and simple. If you aren't making enough, find some way to make more. You just gotta man up and do what you gotta do.
So what if it doesn't look good for a while, but look on the bright side, you have a kid coming.
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#159
Originally Posted by MyPearl02
no im happy for the lil one on the way money is really a problem ive got a good job.<-------- Happy ![Tongue](https://acurazine.com/forums/images/smilies/tongue.gif)
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haha. To better correct you. Your sentence could have been...
No, I'm happy for the lil one on the way. Money is really a problem. I've got a good job.
hehe
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Originally Posted by MyPearl02
no im happy for the lil one on the way money is really a problem ive got a good job.<-------- Happy ![Tongue](https://acurazine.com/forums/images/smilies/tongue.gif)
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