WTF is up with this girl?
04-17-2008, 12:20 AM
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WTF is up with this girl?
I've been talking to this girl from class, she's pretty cute and is really cool but really, really flaky. I don't know if she's just trying to be hard to get or what, but I'm about on the last straw. She's into me and she makes it obvious, and she'll call me up or text me and really want to hang out. We're both really busy, but she says she's never very busy and if I'm doing something give her a call or text when I'm done. She'll be talking to me and making plans to do something, but as soon as I'm done with whatever I'm doing at the moment she mysteriously drops off the face of the earth. One or two times I can look past, but this has happened 6-7 times. And when I see her in class she doesn't even mention anything about it, just that she wants to hang out.
Today she texts me saying "We should really hang out later" blah blah. She wants to watch a movie and smoke, sounds cool but I take it with a grain of salt. I tell her I'll be out of the lab in 30 minutes and I'll give her a call when I'm done. And how did I know... She hasn't picked up her phone. I'm not going to be chasing after this chick, she's not nearly hot enough to put up with that BS
Is she just fucking with me or does this bitch have amnesia? Either way I'm pretty much through.
Today she texts me saying "We should really hang out later" blah blah. She wants to watch a movie and smoke, sounds cool but I take it with a grain of salt. I tell her I'll be out of the lab in 30 minutes and I'll give her a call when I'm done. And how did I know... She hasn't picked up her phone. I'm not going to be chasing after this chick, she's not nearly hot enough to put up with that BS
Is she just fucking with me or does this bitch have amnesia? Either way I'm pretty much through.
04-17-2008, 12:26 AM
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~Da Nocturnal Cheetah~
Some chicks just want attention. They want to play around, and it never really amounts to anything. If she were serious it would have happened by now. I say simply stop pursuing and make her make all the future efforts to get together. Or just tell her to get lost the next time. Or ignore her. But no, definitely don't chase anymore. Don't be a pawn...
04-17-2008, 01:01 AM
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Originally Posted by darksom1
Some chicks just want attention. They want to play around, and it never really amounts to anything. If she were serious it would have happened by now. I say simply stop pursuing and make her make all the future efforts to get together. Or just tell her to get lost the next time. Or ignore her. But no, definitely don't chase anymore. Don't be a pawn...
That will really get her attention. Some girl like it rough...
04-17-2008, 10:09 AM
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Flaky....Sounds like she may be about 18, 19 or so. 
Eventually you will learn that the drama is a waste of time and girls like her will eventually grow up and stop playing the attention game. Until then, just think of this as paying your dues.
Eventually you will learn that the drama is a waste of time and girls like her will eventually grow up and stop playing the attention game. Until then, just think of this as paying your dues.
04-17-2008, 10:19 AM
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you should have moved on after 2 times. this kind of teenage bullshit is what i dont miss. id give her a taste of her own medicine if i were you though.
if she makes plans, step it up (tell her to meet you at some fancy restaurant at a certain time) and then dont show up. when she calls, dont pick up. then at class, ignore the life outta her. that should get your point across to not ever mess with you again.
if she makes plans, step it up (tell her to meet you at some fancy restaurant at a certain time) and then dont show up. when she calls, dont pick up. then at class, ignore the life outta her. that should get your point across to not ever mess with you again.
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04-17-2008, 12:34 PM
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Originally Posted by RaviNJCLs
Flaky....Sounds like she may be about 18, 19 or so.
Eventually you will learn that the drama is a waste of time and girls like her will eventually grow up and stop playing the attention game. Until then, just think of this as paying your dues.
Eventually you will learn that the drama is a waste of time and girls like her will eventually grow up and stop playing the attention game. Until then, just think of this as paying your dues.
that girl's just acting exactly how she's supposed to be acting...like a young immature broad...my best advice is try and get her and a bunch of her friends to meet you and your boys somewhere...oh yeah, and NO DAY DATES, highway to the friend zone...hahaaa
04-17-2008, 12:59 PM
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https://acurazine.com/forums/dating-relationships-14/help-me-get-over-girl-plz-389161/
Just refer to the advice in this thread...same shit, different day.
Bitches...some just like to lead...some like to follow.
Just refer to the advice in this thread...same shit, different day.
Bitches...some just like to lead...some like to follow.
04-17-2008, 01:16 PM
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Originally Posted by BackinBlackTL
oh yeah, and NO DAY DATES, highway to the friend zone...hahaaa
However, it's incredibly important you DO communicate/express some form of interest - by touching her lightly or challenging her. If you're just "friendly" you're not doing anything to spark any interest other than friendship. You have to push the boundaries a bit - if you're fairly aggressive you can turn almost any day date into something more. The earlier you communicate your interest, and not just by asking her out to lunch, the sooner she'll find you attractive as a normal young sexual man. Don't be afraid of your sexuality.
If she rejects your advances, find someone else, she's not feeling you. The end. You can persist a bit, but don't get your hopes up.
Hence the reason why you spend AS LITTLE time/money/energy on girls that aren't worth it. And, is also why, you date MULTIPLE women. And, is also why, you DON'T do any elaborate overly romantic and sappy things BEFORE you even know this girl VERY WELL. I'm talking two or three or four months into dating AT LEAST. If you set up some fancy dinner at some French restaurant on your second date you're gonna to look desperate and needy. And in fact you probably would be desperate and needy.
Also, dating multiple women prevents guys from investing WAY too much emotionally in one girl, giving her WAY too much power. You have to get rid of your vulnerabilities one way or another. Or at the least guard them.
You should get to the point where a girl flaking on you, deceiving you, etc. doesn't even bother you. You must accept that as the nature of some women and be glad you found out sooner rather than later. Put yourself on a pedestal, not her, and hold yourself to a high standard.
04-17-2008, 03:38 PM
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nothing wrong with a day date, imo.
but i'd just tell her straight up: do you wanna hang out or not?
otherwise, she'll keep wasting your time, and you'll keep wasting AZ bandwidth.
but i'd just tell her straight up: do you wanna hang out or not?
otherwise, she'll keep wasting your time, and you'll keep wasting AZ bandwidth.
04-17-2008, 05:50 PM
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Just don't get caught in the trap. If it seriously bothers you that much tell her you never want to see her or talk to her again. Maybe she would get the hint of stop being a bitch and leading things on.
04-18-2008, 05:27 PM
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I never put any effort into making plans with her, it was mostly on her end. She would ask me out and flake, but I had other things to do so it was more of an annoyance then anything.
So she contacts me yesterday and I basically tell her wtf we were supposed to hang out yesterday and not to make plans if you don't go through with it. She could tell I was pissed, so she was like "I obviously want to otherwise I wouldnt ask, Im just stupid and going through shitty stuff (her mom is sick). I hope we can hang out later, I really want to Joey. Im sorry".
I tell her to call me later that evening when I'm done running errands. She wanted to come to my place but it still sucks atm, so I go over to her apartment and we watch Cannibal Holocaust, hang out, smoke and watch some other crazy ass movies then later on drank with her roommates. It went well and she wants to do it again.
We'll see what happens.
So she contacts me yesterday and I basically tell her wtf we were supposed to hang out yesterday and not to make plans if you don't go through with it. She could tell I was pissed, so she was like "I obviously want to otherwise I wouldnt ask, Im just stupid and going through shitty stuff (her mom is sick). I hope we can hang out later, I really want to Joey. Im sorry".
I tell her to call me later that evening when I'm done running errands. She wanted to come to my place but it still sucks atm, so I go over to her apartment and we watch Cannibal Holocaust, hang out, smoke and watch some other crazy ass movies then later on drank with her roommates. It went well and she wants to do it again.
We'll see what happens.
04-18-2008, 07:11 PM
#17
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Originally Posted by amisconception
I disagree. Even with a less immature girl. The key is to do something fun, something that YOU enjoy doing, to draw her into YOUR world.
However, it's incredibly important you DO communicate/express some form of interest - by touching her lightly or challenging her. If you're just "friendly" you're not doing anything to spark any interest other than friendship. You have to push the boundaries a bit - if you're fairly aggressive you can turn almost any day date into something more. The earlier you communicate your interest, and not just by asking her out to lunch, the sooner she'll find you attractive as a normal young sexual man. Don't be afraid of your sexuality.
If she rejects your advances, find someone else, she's not feeling you. The end. You can persist a bit, but don't get your hopes up.
Hence the reason why you spend AS LITTLE time/money/energy on girls that aren't worth it. And, is also why, you date MULTIPLE women. And, is also why, you DON'T do any elaborate overly romantic and sappy things BEFORE you even know this girl VERY WELL. I'm talking two or three or four months into dating AT LEAST. If you set up some fancy dinner at some French restaurant on your second date you're gonna to look desperate and needy. And in fact you probably would be desperate and needy.
Also, dating multiple women prevents guys from investing WAY too much emotionally in one girl, giving her WAY too much power. You have to get rid of your vulnerabilities one way or another. Or at the least guard them.
You should get to the point where a girl flaking on you, deceiving you, etc. doesn't even bother you. You must accept that as the nature of some women and be glad you found out sooner rather than later. Put yourself on a pedestal, not her, and hold yourself to a high standard.
However, it's incredibly important you DO communicate/express some form of interest - by touching her lightly or challenging her. If you're just "friendly" you're not doing anything to spark any interest other than friendship. You have to push the boundaries a bit - if you're fairly aggressive you can turn almost any day date into something more. The earlier you communicate your interest, and not just by asking her out to lunch, the sooner she'll find you attractive as a normal young sexual man. Don't be afraid of your sexuality.
If she rejects your advances, find someone else, she's not feeling you. The end. You can persist a bit, but don't get your hopes up.
Hence the reason why you spend AS LITTLE time/money/energy on girls that aren't worth it. And, is also why, you date MULTIPLE women. And, is also why, you DON'T do any elaborate overly romantic and sappy things BEFORE you even know this girl VERY WELL. I'm talking two or three or four months into dating AT LEAST. If you set up some fancy dinner at some French restaurant on your second date you're gonna to look desperate and needy. And in fact you probably would be desperate and needy.
Also, dating multiple women prevents guys from investing WAY too much emotionally in one girl, giving her WAY too much power. You have to get rid of your vulnerabilities one way or another. Or at the least guard them.
You should get to the point where a girl flaking on you, deceiving you, etc. doesn't even bother you. You must accept that as the nature of some women and be glad you found out sooner rather than later. Put yourself on a pedestal, not her, and hold yourself to a high standard.
04-19-2008, 01:08 AM
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Originally Posted by zguy95135
I never put any effort into making plans with her, it was mostly on her end. She would ask me out and flake, but I had other things to do so it was more of an annoyance then anything.
So she contacts me yesterday and I basically tell her wtf we were supposed to hang out yesterday and not to make plans if you don't go through with it. She could tell I was pissed, so she was like "I obviously want to otherwise I wouldnt ask, Im just stupid and going through shitty stuff (her mom is sick). I hope we can hang out later, I really want to Joey. Im sorry".
I tell her to call me later that evening when I'm done running errands. She wanted to come to my place but it still sucks atm, so I go over to her apartment and we watch Cannibal Holocaust, hang out, smoke and watch some other crazy ass movies then later on drank with her roommates. It went well and she wants to do it again. We'll see what happens.
So she contacts me yesterday and I basically tell her wtf we were supposed to hang out yesterday and not to make plans if you don't go through with it. She could tell I was pissed, so she was like "I obviously want to otherwise I wouldnt ask, Im just stupid and going through shitty stuff (her mom is sick). I hope we can hang out later, I really want to Joey. Im sorry".
I tell her to call me later that evening when I'm done running errands. She wanted to come to my place but it still sucks atm, so I go over to her apartment and we watch Cannibal Holocaust, hang out, smoke and watch some other crazy ass movies then later on drank with her roommates. It went well and she wants to do it again.
We'll see what happens.
04-20-2008, 09:46 PM
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She did it again 
When I hung out at her place as I was leaving she said to call her the next day if I wanted to do something. So I give her a call the next evening to see if she was free on the weekend. She said yea, and that she was going to some open mic thing downtown that night and that I should come along. I agree, sure that sounds like fun and she said she'd call me in an hour when she was done getting ready. An hour passes, two. No call
. I call her to see whats up and no one picks up. I just say fuck it and go to sleep.
The next afternoon she texts me and asks what I'm doing that day. WTF.
Why would she ask me to do something and then blow me off? She's not the type to mess with someone intentionally, and I'm better looking then her tbh. So I dont think it would be that she's just trying to fuck with me.
What I have noticed with her is that is she gets anxious about something she'll just completely avoid it. She told me she's bad with her phone and that it gives her anxiety (weird, but I've heard it before). So is she just anxious about going out and not calling me back or what?
I have see her tomorrow in class and I'll see what she says.
When I hung out at her place as I was leaving she said to call her the next day if I wanted to do something. So I give her a call the next evening to see if she was free on the weekend. She said yea, and that she was going to some open mic thing downtown that night and that I should come along. I agree, sure that sounds like fun and she said she'd call me in an hour when she was done getting ready. An hour passes, two. No call
. I call her to see whats up and no one picks up. I just say fuck it and go to sleep. The next afternoon she texts me and asks what I'm doing that day. WTF.
Why would she ask me to do something and then blow me off? She's not the type to mess with someone intentionally, and I'm better looking then her tbh. So I dont think it would be that she's just trying to fuck with me. What I have noticed with her is that is she gets anxious about something she'll just completely avoid it. She told me she's bad with her phone and that it gives her anxiety (weird, but I've heard it before). So is she just anxious about going out and not calling me back or what?
I have see her tomorrow in class and I'll see what she says.
04-20-2008, 10:29 PM
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You are FAR more patient about that crap than I would be. :shakehead
04-20-2008, 11:08 PM
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Originally Posted by sixsixfour
you should have moved on after 2 times. this kind of teenage bullshit is what i dont miss. id give her a taste of her own medicine if i were you though.
if she makes plans, step it up (tell her to meet you at some fancy restaurant at a certain time) and then dont show up. when she calls, dont pick up. then at class, ignore the life outta her. that should get your point across to not ever mess with you again.
if she makes plans, step it up (tell her to meet you at some fancy restaurant at a certain time) and then dont show up. when she calls, dont pick up. then at class, ignore the life outta her. that should get your point across to not ever mess with you again.
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04-21-2008, 07:53 AM
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Originally Posted by wndrlst
You are FAR more patient about that crap than I would be. :shakehead
You need to move on. Everytime you post a response like the one above I'm sure there are a bunch of people that would like to line up and smack the crap out of you. Kinda like that scene in Airplane. Google it.
04-21-2008, 02:47 PM
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Originally Posted by LIPPSTUH
i don't get it man... either her phone is whack or she's whack... she should mention everytime she flakkes on you... wtf.
Originally Posted by darksom1
Hahahaha...This thread title should be changed to "WTF is up with me??"
Self esteem young padawan...self esteem...
Self esteem young padawan...self esteem...
, its not that big of a deal. Its not like I was canceling plans to go out with her instead. Either way my patience has run out and I don't feel like dealing with it anymore. Its too bad though, she was really chill.
04-21-2008, 04:00 PM
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Originally Posted by zguy95135
lol Thats what I'm saying, I dont get it.
No its not a matter of self esteem, if she wanted to make plans when I'm just kicking back relaxing watching some TV and then end up flaking so be it , its not that big of a deal. Its not like I was canceling plans to go out with her instead. Either way my patience has run out and I don't feel like dealing with it anymore. Its too bad though, she was really chill.
No its not a matter of self esteem, if she wanted to make plans when I'm just kicking back relaxing watching some TV and then end up flaking so be it
, its not that big of a deal. Its not like I was canceling plans to go out with her instead. Either way my patience has run out and I don't feel like dealing with it anymore. Its too bad though, she was really chill.
04-21-2008, 05:28 PM
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Originally Posted by zguy95135
She did it again
When I hung out at her place as I was leaving she said to call her the next day if I wanted to do something. So I give her a call the next evening to see if she was free on the weekend. She said yea, and that she was going to some open mic thing downtown that night and that I should come along. I agree, sure that sounds like fun and she said she'd call me in an hour when she was done getting ready. An hour passes, two. No call . I call her to see whats up and no one picks up. I just say fuck it and go to sleep.
The next afternoon she texts me and asks what I'm doing that day. WTF. Why would she ask me to do something and then blow me off? She's not the type to mess with someone intentionally, and I'm better looking then her tbh. So I dont think it would be that she's just trying to fuck with me.
What I have noticed with her is that is she gets anxious about something she'll just completely avoid it. She told me she's bad with her phone and that it gives her anxiety (weird, but I've heard it before). So is she just anxious about going out and not calling me back or what?
I have see her tomorrow in class and I'll see what she says.
When I hung out at her place as I was leaving she said to call her the next day if I wanted to do something. So I give her a call the next evening to see if she was free on the weekend. She said yea, and that she was going to some open mic thing downtown that night and that I should come along. I agree, sure that sounds like fun and she said she'd call me in an hour when she was done getting ready. An hour passes, two. No call
. I call her to see whats up and no one picks up. I just say fuck it and go to sleep. The next afternoon she texts me and asks what I'm doing that day. WTF.
Why would she ask me to do something and then blow me off? She's not the type to mess with someone intentionally, and I'm better looking then her tbh. So I dont think it would be that she's just trying to fuck with me. What I have noticed with her is that is she gets anxious about something she'll just completely avoid it. She told me she's bad with her phone and that it gives her anxiety (weird, but I've heard it before). So is she just anxious about going out and not calling me back or what?
I have see her tomorrow in class and I'll see what she says.
04-21-2008, 07:40 PM
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Originally Posted by wndrlst
You are FAR more patient about that crap than I would be. :shakehead
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04-22-2008, 10:59 AM
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Originally Posted by zguy95135
lol Thats what I'm saying, I dont get it.
No its not a matter of self esteem, if she wanted to make plans when I'm just kicking back relaxing watching some TV and then end up flaking so be it , its not that big of a deal. Its not like I was canceling plans to go out with her instead. Either way my patience has run out and I don't feel like dealing with it anymore. Its too bad though, she was really chill.
No its not a matter of self esteem, if she wanted to make plans when I'm just kicking back relaxing watching some TV and then end up flaking so be it
, its not that big of a deal. Its not like I was canceling plans to go out with her instead. Either way my patience has run out and I don't feel like dealing with it anymore. Its too bad though, she was really chill.
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