My girlfriend and I have been having problems since she has moved into school last Wednesday. This is the first time that she has ever lived away from home. We are both 20. She is an RA (Resident Assistant) at her school. So since Wednesday, she has had training and is busy and I know that but she began ignoring me. Like there would be hours in between texts. There has not been a phone call since Tuesday night. On Thursday night, she went out with her friend and got drunk with her friend and her 2 guy friends in one of their dorms. She didn't come back until 3 in the morning and didn't tell me anything. I knew that she didn't do anything with either of them because I know that she wouldn't do that too me. Then she told me on Friday and when she did, I freaked out. I was like "OMG I can't believe." IMO, I was just doing what anyone else would if they were told that. Then ever since then, she has had that I was "annoying" and a "PITA."

I asked her what her friends thought of me and she said that all of her friends thinks that she should leave me because I'm "annoying" but who are they to judge me without knowing my side. IMO the guys are just trying to get in her pants! She told me that on Saturday that she couldn't see me because she had a meeting to attend for training. Come to find out, that was a lie. She actually went out with one of her girl friends and guy friend and then after that, they went to a party until 4 in the morning. I feel as if this is just something to do right now because it is so new to her and she hasn't had this many friends and done so many things in one time.

She called me Sunday night at 1 in the morning but I didn't pick up because I started school on Monday so I was sleeping. I woke up at 3:30ish and called her back and when I called her back I got "why are you calling me? leave me alone." Like WTF? Then yesterday, Monday, I didn't get a text or anything from her until I updated my twitter and she told me "stop updating your twitter its annoying. Thank you bye." She has it on her phone that whenever I update she gets a text. Then around 4 in the afternoon, she sends me a text saying "don't think that I'm being mean." But what the hell how are you not being mean. I asked her what her problem was and she said that it was that I was texting her all the time but she was talking to me so of course I'm going to ask questions and think that something is going on and think the worst.

She then told me that she "needed space" but how much more space do you need considering that she lives at school and has over night basically become a rebel without a cause. Then last night I told her that I wanted to see her and she said that "she didn't have time." Alright fine. Then I told her that I at least want to talk to her on the phone and she told me that "she didn't have time and that this relationship was too much work." I then proceeded to tell her that it shouldn't matter if you have time or not and that if she cared and loved me as she claimed, she would find time for me instead of going out every night and getting trashed. She told me that she wanted to go on break. IMO there are no breaks. you are either together or broken up. Then I told that I know what she is going to do if we are on a break and that is hook up with guys and her response was "so?" ARE YOU KIDDING ME!?!?!? I then told her that I want us to get over this bump in our road. She said that she didn't want to fix it yet because it wasn't the right time yet. I asked her when was the right time and she said not this week. So I said "next week" and she said "no the week after." Oh hell no! I told her she didn't care about us at all and that is when she called me a "whiny PITA."

At this point, I had enough. I wasn't going to let her treat me or talk to me like this anymore. I told her you want space then you have it. I'm done and that I'm not going to let her do this and play games with my head anymore. IMO it was just lie after lie after lie. I don't know the truth because she won't tell me the truth. She has become a completely different person over night and I don't know why.

I care about her so damn much. We have been together for almost 2 years and it sucks to lose someone like this. I want her back but I only want her back if she is ready to commit because this is all about her and she said that herself! The finally thing that I said to her was that I love her and the door is open if she wants to enter it and also that I was the best thing that ever happened to her and that she doesn't know what she lost.

I hope she realizes it because I really do love her with all my heart and soul and I don't know what to do.

 

let her go.
both of you are young and in college.


Have your fun!

 

Yeah if she's being a skank I don't think you should worry to much about your relationship with her. You'll find better.

 

True that man^^ If she wants to go whore around then let her do it, just don't be there waiting when she's done. I guarantee she'll realize how bad she fucked up. Trust me, I've been through this and it was the best feeling in the world to be happier with a new girl than I was before with the old one (that wanted to have her fun), and the ex pouring her heart out to me.

I think most girls go through this "stage" at some point but only a few realize how bad it can mess things up.

I can relate to you though man, I'd lay in bed with tears in my eyes at night over it but looking back on that now, I take it as lesson learned.

 

sorry man, but she's probably face down, ass up somewhere during those times. looks like she stopped giving a shit about your relationship a long time ago and is enjoying her newfound freedom. just break it up. no point staying in this.

you are being a whiny girl in all this. thats a major turn off. break up with her and bang other chicks. for christ's sake you're in college. when I was 20 my goal was to get laid on a daily basis, not whine about a girl who's getting her drunken ass pounded by random strangers.

 

I had a chick take all my money when I was in Iraq, She said she loved me and would never do that shit to me before I left..... but she did, and it was her fun experience. She came crawling back, but by then I had moved on and had my way with all kinds of girls. Yeah it hurts for a moment but suck it up, youll be alright.

 

This.
your attitude and demeanor come off as weak. MAN the fuck up.

 

Dude, you seem to be a bit overbearing, texting her all day and freaking out when she doesn't answer for x amount of hours, this really could be pushing her away if she's out trying to have fun with friends. A few things jump out at me here, is this her first year of college? If so, it sounds like she is just doing the standard college freedom jaunt. She is exploring her new freedom and she needs to do that as part of being in college. Second, if she is an RA, she should NOT be out drinking until 3 AM, if she is caught being drunk underage, she could really be in some shit being that she is an RA, this shows carelessness and lack of responsibility. Basically it sounds like she is adjusting to her newly found independence, and that independence is without you. Basically, if she wants a break, or time apart, things will never be the same between you 2. Sounds like you need to explore your independence and go meet some new college girls.

 

Better chicks are at church.... and I dont mean better as in good, I mean better as in bad/naughty/dirty/want your pee pee.

 

ignore her good and she will try to get your attention if she really wants you trust me i had a relationship for 2yrs then she said she needed space it was hard but balls to the walls let her go and 2 weeks later she started buging me..well you get it....

 

Sounds like she has unleashed her inner whore. In the future don't be so clingy with girls. Welcome to college.

 

This
This plus 100

This too


Sorry to say but she has already gone out and had her fun with someone else. When Women cheat, they turn their guilt in to anger and direct it at you. It's easier for them to be mad, than feel guilty for doing something hurtful.
The process starts off with hiding from it (not returning calls, etc). From there they usually find fault with everything you do, so they can justify dumping you. It's a mind game; they make you the dick and it justifies their behavior.

Sorry dude...seen this too often.

 

dude 2 things....one way to get a chic back is ignore her....dont return calls...be a complete DICK !!!

the scenario you just discussed was she being a jerk and u just working ur ass around her....hell no.... you make the rules....u break them....and she will get back....

but the real point being....man yeah u guys dated for 2 years but ur only 20 !!! when i was 20 i didnt date anyone more than 3 months....i was having fun....partying, studying, playing soccer, all the good stuff....

this age will never come back....when you turn 28 and u dont have college chics to hang out with then u will realize how u blew up by not having fun in college....

 

Seriously?

1. Don't kill yourself
2. You're so clingy, you annoy me.
3. She's waxing more pole then a ski lodge.
4. Although you might think you're acting mature, it's coming off as pathetic and clingy, aka. "Annoying / Whiny PITA." Next time you talk to her.. tell her you've been fucking her mom and her best friend.

Since quoting movies is a popular theme here.. check the first two scenes, how to not act, how to act:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wq4jCVaocUE

 

Seriously dude? Please start plowing other girls, after a couple you'll forget about her. Stop texting and contacting her. If you start ignoring her, she will be the annoying one that won't stop texting you....If she doesn't try and contact you, then just forget about her....Your too young, You've got a lot of drugs to do, Girls to screw, Parties to crash, Sucks to be you...

 

Pics?

 

Fixed.

 

Whiskers doesn't like looking at other boners.. It confuses him.

 

An Eiffel Tower would make for a better photo...

Link for reference

 

with these 2 dudes.

 

I agree with everyone here, let her go or show her who's the boss. I went through the samething with my girlfrend when we went off to college about 3 years ago. We also dated for 2 years. I finally decided to break up with her because it was juss causing too much stress over nothing.

One of things i did was not text or call her at all. Sometimes i didnt even answer her. After awhile, she was starting to be annoying one. I know everyone in the world is going to stay, you dont need a girlfriend in college and for the most parts its true. I didnt listen to ppl that told me that, but i didnt have TRUE fun in college until i broke up with her

 

Im sorry to hear about your troubles. Dude, if this is a sign of the type of woman she is, its best you let her go. Its going to be hard now, but in the end you will have the last laugh.

It seems to me that she wants to be a free slut, so let her. She will end up used and abused and wishing she'd kept what she had. DO NOT let her back in and slam that door shut. It sucks ass most of us have been there, but is this the type of girl you want to marry? Dude your 20 go out and do your thing. Don't let her control you or what you do. Have fun and live life. You never know what day could be your last.

GL!

 

I appreciate the comments everyone. I haven't spoken to her at all. Her mom did send me a text though yesterday and told me not to take it to heart because she hasn't spoken to her family since they helped her move in on Wednesday. She also told me that she is "stressed" and showed it to her sister on Saturday when they chilled.

Whatever. I started the semester on Monday so I have school to worry about for a while now. I'm also trying to see what's up with this girl that I went to high school with to be honest.

 

Dude, if her Mom is texting you, you should take that as far as you can. I know it sounds bad to hook up with her mom, but Im sure she could show you a trick or two.

 

 

LOl that would be ideal, but the OP still displays weak behavior.

OP Please, Please, Please cut off all communication with this girl, her family, and her friends. This means stop texting her mom, you doofus.

Nothing good will come out of it.

 

True, but this could make him stronger. Cougars are the shit lol.

 

But Cougars are only attracted to "pre-owned" red corvettes.











What?

 

The doc recently moved to Houston. Is it weird that I want to hang with him and his red corvette to pick up some Cougars?

 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0TLA_...eature=related

 

^ Hilarious. Yes OP this is how you should live your life, at least until your 23 lol.

 

Dude - move on. When a girl makes excuses and constantly puts you down - she already has identified someone new and wants YOU to be the jerk and break up with her. Move along - not worth the energy

 

I like where this thread is going..

Keep us updated OP. Live Vicariously!

 

OP, I guarantee you will learn from this situation. All of the above responses are solid advices. If the mom keeps texting you, BANG IT!! It is funny how these things happen everyday and people look at me differently when I say that I have @ least 2 chicks @ any given time. OP you are young and there a lot of fishes in the sea. Be a man and btw did I mention cougars ftw!!!!! The two latest additions to my list are @ least 10 yrs older than I am.

 

 

Hell no, pick one up for me too

 

LOL, have you read his thread?

 

Unfortunately for the doc.. red convertible vettes attract the tranny's in TX.

 

I hope I don't accidentally touch one of the cougs' third leg.

 

Haha never knew he had a thread, I only picked up on bits on bits of the convo in the houston thread. Post the link