Why oh WHY do people bring up past relationships???
12-20-2006, 01:34 PM
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I don't care so much about her relationships but rather it's the random hookups/flings/one-nighters that bother me. In the past i've been guilty of prying and wanting to know "just because" but I've checked myself with that lately because it just causes pain then everything settles back to normal quickly. So there's no point in even asking because it never really affects anything long term anyway. Plus you can tell fairly easily who the "whores" are and who the "bores" are just by observing.
I don't even ask anymore because it's safe to assume any girl that is remotely good looking and fun to hangout with has done some slutty/regrettable things in her past.
I did get bit in the ass recently when my girl and I were driving and she pointed out a luxury apt complex overlooking the water and pointed out that she'd been there before. So I say in a joking manner: "what, to get banged or something?" thinking she was just there with her parents or to hang with friends. So the answer to my question was a "yes"
so that brought the whole story behind it and everything
The questions I hate getting are "are you a player" and "you've probably been with a lot of women, right?" Now the answer to those questions are no and no (in my opinion), I can be honest, but it's still hard not to sound shady either way.
I don't even ask anymore because it's safe to assume any girl that is remotely good looking and fun to hangout with has done some slutty/regrettable things in her past.
I did get bit in the ass recently when my girl and I were driving and she pointed out a luxury apt complex overlooking the water and pointed out that she'd been there before. So I say in a joking manner: "what, to get banged or something?" thinking she was just there with her parents or to hang with friends. So the answer to my question was a "yes"
so that brought the whole story behind it and everything The questions I hate getting are "are you a player" and "you've probably been with a lot of women, right?" Now the answer to those questions are no and no (in my opinion), I can be honest, but it's still hard not to sound shady either way.
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i used to always want to know how many people someone has been with until the last girl i asked said some crazy number and totally turned me off. Now i could care less. I imagine them all as virgins 
12-20-2006, 03:33 PM
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we have a don't ask don't tell policy, but seriously if one of the couple constantly throws the other persons' whoring in their face, i say get over it, i am with you and can't change the past
12-21-2006, 07:46 AM
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Originally Posted by Pull_T
My policy is to disclose as little as possible...or at least attempt to do so.
Her: "How many people have you had sex with? /Who was the last girl you had sex with?"
My reply: "Well, I really don't want to get into that. I've had partners in the past and I'd assume you have as well. I'm with you now, so any details are irrelevant to me."
Her: (trying again to pull the info out of you)
My reply: "Look...even though I'm not with anyone I might have been with before, i still respect them enough to keep our private business private...just as I would do with us should anyone ever ask me."
Make it clear you're not trying to hide anything, but that you simply won't get into it.
Her: "How many people have you had sex with? /Who was the last girl you had sex with?"
My reply: "Well, I really don't want to get into that. I've had partners in the past and I'd assume you have as well. I'm with you now, so any details are irrelevant to me."
Her: (trying again to pull the info out of you)
My reply: "Look...even though I'm not with anyone I might have been with before, i still respect them enough to keep our private business private...just as I would do with us should anyone ever ask me."
Make it clear you're not trying to hide anything, but that you simply won't get into it.
This man knows.
I will never discuss my # or past with a lady i'm dating, it simply does not matter to a current relationship.
One time, I had a male friend tell a female i was hanging out with some of my history, things were never the same between her and I.
It's just one of those topics i see no good coming from, regardless of what is said.
12-21-2006, 09:23 AM
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Originally Posted by Mike97 3.0P
I don't care so much about her relationships but rather it's the random hookups/flings/one-nighters that bother me. In the past i've been guilty of prying and wanting to know "just because" but I've checked myself with that lately because it just causes pain then everything settles back to normal quickly. So there's no point in even asking because it never really affects anything long term anyway. Plus you can tell fairly easily who the "whores" are and who the "bores" are just by observing.
I don't even ask anymore because it's safe to assume any girl that is remotely good looking and fun to hangout with has done some slutty/regrettable things in her past.
I did get bit in the ass recently when my girl and I were driving and she pointed out a luxury apt complex overlooking the water and pointed out that she'd been there before. So I say in a joking manner: "what, to get banged or something?" thinking she was just there with her parents or to hang with friends. So the answer to my question was a "yes" so that brought the whole story behind it and everything
The questions I hate getting are "are you a player" and "you've probably been with a lot of women, right?" Now the answer to those questions are no and no (in my opinion), I can be honest, but it's still hard not to sound shady either way.
I don't even ask anymore because it's safe to assume any girl that is remotely good looking and fun to hangout with has done some slutty/regrettable things in her past.
I did get bit in the ass recently when my girl and I were driving and she pointed out a luxury apt complex overlooking the water and pointed out that she'd been there before. So I say in a joking manner: "what, to get banged or something?" thinking she was just there with her parents or to hang with friends. So the answer to my question was a "yes"
so that brought the whole story behind it and everything The questions I hate getting are "are you a player" and "you've probably been with a lot of women, right?" Now the answer to those questions are no and no (in my opinion), I can be honest, but it's still hard not to sound shady either way.
sorry
12-21-2006, 09:51 AM
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Originally Posted by dom
At the same time how can you keep anything from your wife? I know the details aren't pretty but I can't be anything but brutally honest. 
The subject is brought up in more a joking manner anyway so.....
The subject is brought up in more a joking manner anyway so.....It's tough... being brutally honest isn't a good thing on how many sexual partners you've had......... when I've had more than 5+ and I'm her only.
12-21-2006, 10:13 AM
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Originally Posted by Astroboy
This man knows.
I will never discuss my # or past with a lady i'm dating, it simply does not matter to a current relationship.
One time, I had a male friend tell a female i was hanging out with some of my history, things were never the same between her and I.
It's just one of those topics i see no good coming from, regardless of what is said.
I will never discuss my # or past with a lady i'm dating, it simply does not matter to a current relationship.
One time, I had a male friend tell a female i was hanging out with some of my history, things were never the same between her and I.
It's just one of those topics i see no good coming from, regardless of what is said.
12-21-2006, 06:17 PM
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Originally Posted by AcuraDriver2006
It's tough... being brutally honest isn't a good thing on how many sexual partners you've had......... when I've had more than 5+ and I'm her only.
If you want to continue to keep that a secret.sucker!!!!!!
12-21-2006, 07:11 PM
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Originally Posted by ACIRE
I know what I want for Christmas this year Jack If you want to continue to keep that a secret.
sucker!!!!!!
If you want to continue to keep that a secret.sucker!!!!!!
Are you and AcuraDriver2006 dating? You been replying to all his posts with personal references lately.
The gossip king needs to know.
12-21-2006, 07:51 PM
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Originally Posted by Crazy Sellout
Are you and AcuraDriver2006 dating? You been replying to all his posts with personal references lately.
The gossip king needs to know.
The gossip king needs to know.
12-21-2006, 10:24 PM
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Guys...
Past is Past...
Come on tell me when u was 16-20 years old that u didnt have sex at least one time..Thats the time u go for a Hunt if u know what i mean.. I mean hell i had it more than 1 time but i am just saying thats a life and u cant change it. Past is Past..
Past is Past...
Come on tell me when u was 16-20 years old that u didnt have sex at least one time..Thats the time u go for a Hunt if u know what i mean.. I mean hell i had it more than 1 time but i am just saying thats a life and u cant change it. Past is Past..
12-21-2006, 11:12 PM
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Originally Posted by AcuracltypeS03
Guys...
Past is Past...
Come on tell me when u was 16-20 years old that u didnt have sex at least one time..Thats the time u go for a Hunt if u know what i mean.. I mean hell i had it more than 1 time but i am just saying thats a life and u cant change it. Past is Past..
Past is Past...
Come on tell me when u was 16-20 years old that u didnt have sex at least one time..Thats the time u go for a Hunt if u know what i mean.. I mean hell i had it more than 1 time but i am just saying thats a life and u cant change it. Past is Past..
12-21-2006, 11:42 PM
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So when my girl (which i dont have yet) tells me that she had a sex before hell i dont care i mean i did too..And if u didnt then thats ur problem cuz u had a chance to do it..
12-22-2006, 07:42 AM
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Sure - that's a given, and that's not the problem. It's when you somehow get into a discussion where details come out.
I think we can all agree that some things are better left unsaid. Sure, you want to know basic history about your SO that shows what type of person she is (i.e. was she ever a "working woman," a former porn actress, or otherwise had what you consider to be far too many partners), but short of that the details can stay in the past where they belong.
I think we can all agree that some things are better left unsaid. Sure, you want to know basic history about your SO that shows what type of person she is (i.e. was she ever a "working woman," a former porn actress, or otherwise had what you consider to be far too many partners), but short of that the details can stay in the past where they belong.
12-22-2006, 08:24 AM
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Originally Posted by AcuracltypeS03
So when my girl (which i dont have yet) tells me that she had a sex before hell i dont care i mean i did too..And if u didnt then thats ur problem cuz u had a chance to do it..
Thats not the problem. The problem is when she tells you she fawked 3 guys at once, took a pearl necklace's from 2 while receiving a golden shower from the 3rd........on Bangbus.
12-22-2006, 08:42 AM
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Originally Posted by dom
Thats not the problem. The problem is when she tells you she fawked 3 guys at once, took a pearl necklace's from 2 while receiving a golden shower from the 3rd........on Bangbus.
12-22-2006, 08:54 AM
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Originally Posted by dom
Thats not the problem. The problem is when she tells you she fawked 3 guys at once, took a pearl necklace's from 2 while receiving a golden shower from the 3rd........on Bangbus.
12-22-2006, 09:22 AM
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Originally Posted by dom
Thats not the problem. The problem is when she tells you she fawked 3 guys at once, took a pearl necklace's from 2 while receiving a golden shower from the 3rd........on Bangbus.
12-22-2006, 01:04 PM
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Originally Posted by fla-tls
Sure - that's a given, and that's not the problem. It's when you somehow get into a discussion where details come out.
I think we can all agree that some things are better left unsaid. Sure, you want to know basic history about your SO that shows what type of person she is (i.e. was she ever a "working woman," a former porn actress, or otherwise had what you consider to be far too many partners), but short of that the details can stay in the past where they belong.
I think we can all agree that some things are better left unsaid. Sure, you want to know basic history about your SO that shows what type of person she is (i.e. was she ever a "working woman," a former porn actress, or otherwise had what you consider to be far too many partners), but short of that the details can stay in the past where they belong.
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Originally Posted by ACIRE
I know what I want for Christmas this year Jack If you want to continue to keep that a secret.
sucker!!!!!!
If you want to continue to keep that a secret.sucker!!!!!!
Originally Posted by Crazy Sellout
Nevermind, i was told hes your brother-in-law 
Originally Posted by AcuracltypeS03
So when my girl (which i dont have yet) tells me that she had a sex before hell i dont care i mean i did too..And if u didnt then thats ur problem cuz u had a chance to do it..
I once dated this girl when I was an undergrad. I remember one night I asked her how many partners she's had.. I told her "xyz" and she told me 7, I'm the 8th........ I was stunned and couldn't believe it since she was only 19 at the time...
I said to her at that moment "wow, that's alot. I can understand because you're hot". and I was thinking "damn you whore, thank god I been strapping with you and 6 months from now, I'm getting a HIV test." Needless to say........ the relationship didnt work out and I moved on.
From there, I came to realization that the girl I'll be dating.... I don't want to know how many sexual partners she's been with........ it does more harm than good.
That's why to this date, I refuse to tell the wifey how many girls I've been with......
ACIRE - what do you want for Christmas?
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Originally Posted by dom
Thats not the problem. The problem is when she tells you she fawked 3 guys at once, took a pearl necklace's from 2 while receiving a golden shower from the 3rd........on Bangbus.
12-22-2006, 02:00 PM
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Originally Posted by AcuraDriver2006
I remember one night I asked her how many partners she's had.. I told her "xyz" and she told me 7
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Originally Posted by AcuraDriver2006
WTF !
you're still young. Wait until you actually date a girl who has been with more than 5 sexual partners and starts to tell you stories about what happened.
I once dated this girl when I was an undergrad. I remember one night I asked her how many partners she's had.. I told her "xyz" and she told me 7, I'm the 8th........ I was stunned and couldn't believe it since she was only 19 at the time...
I said to her at that moment "wow, that's alot. I can understand because you're hot". and I was thinking "damn you whore, thank god I been strapping with you and 6 months from now, I'm getting a HIV test." Needless to say........ the relationship didnt work out and I moved on.
From there, I came to realization that the girl I'll be dating.... I don't want to know how many sexual partners she's been with........ it does more harm than good.
That's why to this date, I refuse to tell the wifey how many girls I've been with......
ACIRE - what do you want for Christmas?
you're still young. Wait until you actually date a girl who has been with more than 5 sexual partners and starts to tell you stories about what happened.
I once dated this girl when I was an undergrad. I remember one night I asked her how many partners she's had.. I told her "xyz" and she told me 7, I'm the 8th........ I was stunned and couldn't believe it since she was only 19 at the time...
I said to her at that moment "wow, that's alot. I can understand because you're hot". and I was thinking "damn you whore, thank god I been strapping with you and 6 months from now, I'm getting a HIV test." Needless to say........ the relationship didnt work out and I moved on.
From there, I came to realization that the girl I'll be dating.... I don't want to know how many sexual partners she's been with........ it does more harm than good.
That's why to this date, I refuse to tell the wifey how many girls I've been with......
ACIRE - what do you want for Christmas?
But the point is people change. And about ur story hell thats ur prob. cuz u didnt have sex with that many girls in the past.. I am not going to lie i had it 4 times but hey come on. U see a hot girl u going to think that she never had a sex?? come on be real.. I know HIV well first of all i use rubber everytime i go with a chick.. But the whole point i am trying to say girls dont know what they are doing these days. Like take this for example last nite i was in the club i could swear that there was more girls than guys in there and all of em were 18-22 yrs old and they was crazy i mean they pass by u and grab u and kiss u right away i mean wtf.. I am just tryin to prove a point here i mean i wouldnt care if she had sex with that many guys but i would rather know why did they broke up so that kind of info going to let me know what kind of girl is she, i mean there is nothing thats going to tell me about her Sex life.. And ask her about her schools and shit but Past is Past people change.. I figure it out girls starts to grow up at age like 23-24... Not all of em tho but mostly..
SRY FOR MY ENGLISH I AM IN HURRRY..
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Originally Posted by AcuracltypeS03
Yes true that i am still young..
But the point is people change. And about ur story hell thats ur prob. cuz u didnt have sex with that many girls in the past.. I am not going to lie i had it 4 times but hey come on. U see a hot girl u going to think that she never had a sex?? come on be real.. I know HIV well first of all i use rubber everytime i go with a chick.. But the whole point i am trying to say girls dont know what they are doing these days. Like take this for example last nite i was in the club i could swear that there was more girls than guys in there and all of em were 18-22 yrs old and they was crazy i mean they pass by u and grab u and kiss u right away i mean wtf.. I am just tryin to prove a point here i mean i wouldnt care if she had sex with that many guys but i would rather know why did they broke up so that kind of info going to let me know what kind of girl is she, i mean there is nothing thats going to tell me about her Sex life.. And ask her about her schools and shit but Past is Past people change.. I figure it out girls starts to grow up at age like 23-24... Not all of em tho but mostly..
SRY FOR MY ENGLISH I AM IN HURRRY..
But the point is people change. And about ur story hell thats ur prob. cuz u didnt have sex with that many girls in the past.. I am not going to lie i had it 4 times but hey come on. U see a hot girl u going to think that she never had a sex?? come on be real.. I know HIV well first of all i use rubber everytime i go with a chick.. But the whole point i am trying to say girls dont know what they are doing these days. Like take this for example last nite i was in the club i could swear that there was more girls than guys in there and all of em were 18-22 yrs old and they was crazy i mean they pass by u and grab u and kiss u right away i mean wtf.. I am just tryin to prove a point here i mean i wouldnt care if she had sex with that many guys but i would rather know why did they broke up so that kind of info going to let me know what kind of girl is she, i mean there is nothing thats going to tell me about her Sex life.. And ask her about her schools and shit but Past is Past people change.. I figure it out girls starts to grow up at age like 23-24... Not all of em tho but mostly..
SRY FOR MY ENGLISH I AM IN HURRRY..
then she asked for more details so i said "Italian" and she promptly reached down my pants and grabbed my junk!!! I brushed it off just figuring it was a "black" thing instead of a "Charlotte" thing. And also, as you get older, more and more you'll find girls have sex with guys that they are not "with" meaning there never was a "break-up."but i don't think 7-8 guys for a 19 yr old chick is too bad on the surface, but knowing the context of the bangings (bf's/one nighters/7 guy gangbang) tells a better story
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Originally Posted by AcuracltypeS03
SRY FOR MY ENGLISH I AM IN HURRRY..
Does your eye sight become blurry when you're taking a dump as well?
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Originally Posted by Mike97 3.0P
what clubs do you go to in charlotte? i was at one down there once and some black girl asked my ethnicity so i said "white" then she asked for more details so i said "Italian" and she promptly reached down my pants and grabbed my junk!!! I brushed it off just figuring it was a "black" thing instead of a "Charlotte" thing. And also, as you get older, more and more you'll find girls have sex with guys that they are not "with" meaning there never was a "break-up."
but i don't think 7-8 guys for a 19 yr old chick is too bad on the surface, but knowing the context of the bangings (bf's/one nighters/7 guy gangbang) tells a better story
then she asked for more details so i said "Italian" and she promptly reached down my pants and grabbed my junk!!! I brushed it off just figuring it was a "black" thing instead of a "Charlotte" thing. And also, as you get older, more and more you'll find girls have sex with guys that they are not "with" meaning there never was a "break-up."but i don't think 7-8 guys for a 19 yr old chick is too bad on the surface, but knowing the context of the bangings (bf's/one nighters/7 guy gangbang) tells a better story
Club is "THE FORUM"
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Originally Posted by whynot
I had no idea one's language skills could deteriorate when in a hurry
Does your eye sight become blurry when you're taking a dump as well?
Does your eye sight become blurry when you're taking a dump as well?
