When should I call?
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When should I call?
Alright so here's the skinny version of the story.
My friends and I hanging out having dinner in Center City Philly.
Girl A walks over to our dinner table introduces herself, and then her friend (Girl B) comes by.
We decide to leave and head to a bar since we were done with dinner anyways.
Girl A is hanging out with my friend, she's expressing her interest quite thoroughly.
Girl B and I are having some decent conversation and spend some time on the Dance Floor.
Well we decide to leave and I get her number and I'd like to call her, cause apparently we often go to the same bar and it'd be fun hanging out with her if nothing else she'd be another person I know.
BUT I am going to DC this weekend so I am not quite sure when I should call her? If I wait till I get back or next weekend would that just have blown any chance of her returning the call? And if I call tonight or tomorrow, well then is there really a point?
When should I call....
I'd like to get some of the girls' opinions as obviously you would tend to know best I am just SOL.
My friends and I hanging out having dinner in Center City Philly.
Girl A walks over to our dinner table introduces herself, and then her friend (Girl B) comes by.
We decide to leave and head to a bar since we were done with dinner anyways.
Girl A is hanging out with my friend, she's expressing her interest quite thoroughly.
Girl B and I are having some decent conversation and spend some time on the Dance Floor.
Well we decide to leave and I get her number and I'd like to call her, cause apparently we often go to the same bar and it'd be fun hanging out with her if nothing else she'd be another person I know.
BUT I am going to DC this weekend so I am not quite sure when I should call her? If I wait till I get back or next weekend would that just have blown any chance of her returning the call? And if I call tonight or tomorrow, well then is there really a point?
When should I call....
I'd like to get some of the girls' opinions as obviously you would tend to know best I am just SOL.
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Well i guess the general "rule" is the wait a few days before calling her. I say F that and call her whenever you want.
Truthfully if i gave a girl my number, bc i didnt have my phone and i couldnt get hers (dont ask :P) Id want her to call me ASAP so i knew she was interested. I guess its prolly different with girls but w/e. I say WHY WAIT!! Get the ball ROLL'IN!
Truthfully if i gave a girl my number, bc i didnt have my phone and i couldnt get hers (dont ask :P) Id want her to call me ASAP so i knew she was interested. I guess its prolly different with girls but w/e. I say WHY WAIT!! Get the ball ROLL'IN!
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Call whenever *you* want to call....there's no set time. If you want to talk to her before you go -- simple: call. Don't take this the wrong way, but do you think she'll still remember who you are and how much she enjoyed spending time with you if you wait a week+ ? If she had a good impression of you and had fun, I'd probably do it sooner rather than later so it's still vivid in her mind....even if you just call to say you had a great time.
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Originally Posted by Street Spirit
Call whenever *you* want to call....there's no set time. If you want to talk to her before you go -- simple: call. Don't take this the wrong way, but do you think she'll still remember who you are and how much she enjoyed spending time with you if you wait a week+ ? If she had a good impression of you and had fun, I'd probably do it sooner rather than later so it's still vivid in her mind....even if you just call to say you had a great time.
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Originally Posted by furious1smitul
BUT I am going to DC this weekend so I am not quite sure when I should call her? If I wait till I get back or next weekend would that just have blown any chance of her returning the call? And if I call tonight or tomorrow, well then is there really a point?
When should I call....
When should I call....
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Originally Posted by Street Spirit
Call whenever *you* want to call....there's no set time. If you want to talk to her before you go -- simple: call. Don't take this the wrong way, but do you think she'll still remember who you are and how much she enjoyed spending time with you if you wait a week+ ? If she had a good impression of you and had fun, I'd probably do it sooner rather than later so it's still vivid in her mind....even if you just call to say you had a great time.
Yeah I was thinking the same thing about the whole remembering thing. I probably would remember, but that's me.
I'll see what happens, give her a call tonight as I will be in the Center City area again anyways before I leave for DC. If I made an impression like I think I did, then game on... if not, then oh well, no harm no foul.
F'ed up part is, my friend gave her friend my number (Jackass ruined it)... So I'm going to have to deal with that... Way to start off huh?
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Originally Posted by CKcentral
seriously why would people wait? I mean you dont wanna call being all bone headed like ur someone who is obsessed but just play it cool.
Originally Posted by TLD
You should call when you're ready to hang out and not sooner than that. Making loose plans for a month away will only lead to problems and I think you can figure many of the problems out, but I'll give you one right off the bat, waiting .
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If you really think she liked you and would want to see you again, I say call her sooner than later. I bet you'd get browny points if you told her you were going to DC for the weekend but wanted to call her to let her know you had a good time last weekend.
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Mike: So how long do I wait to call?
Trent: A day.
Mike: Tomorrow.
Sue: Tomorrow, then a day.
Trent: Yeah.
Mike: So two days?
Trent: Yeah, I guess you could call it that, two days.
Sue: Definitely, two days is like industry standard.
Trent: You know I used to wait two days to call anybody, but now it's like everyone in town waits two days. So I think three days is kind of money. What do you think?
Sue: Yeah, but two's enough not to look anxious.
Trent: But I think three days is kind of money. You know because you...
Mike: Yeah, but you know what, mabey I'll wait 3 weeks. How's that? And tell her I was cleaning out my wallet and I just happened to run into her number.
Charles: Then ask her where you met her.
Mike: Yeah, I'll ask her where I met her. I don't remember. What does she look like? And then I'll asked if we fucked. Is that... would that be... T, would that be the money?
Trent: You know what. Ha ha ha Mike, laugh all you want but if you call too soon you might scare off a nice baby who's ready to party.
Mike: Well how long are you guys gonna wait to call your babies?
Trent, Sue: Six days.
Trent: A day.
Mike: Tomorrow.
Sue: Tomorrow, then a day.
Trent: Yeah.
Mike: So two days?
Trent: Yeah, I guess you could call it that, two days.
Sue: Definitely, two days is like industry standard.
Trent: You know I used to wait two days to call anybody, but now it's like everyone in town waits two days. So I think three days is kind of money. What do you think?
Sue: Yeah, but two's enough not to look anxious.
Trent: But I think three days is kind of money. You know because you...
Mike: Yeah, but you know what, mabey I'll wait 3 weeks. How's that? And tell her I was cleaning out my wallet and I just happened to run into her number.
Charles: Then ask her where you met her.
Mike: Yeah, I'll ask her where I met her. I don't remember. What does she look like? And then I'll asked if we fucked. Is that... would that be... T, would that be the money?
Trent: You know what. Ha ha ha Mike, laugh all you want but if you call too soon you might scare off a nice baby who's ready to party.
Mike: Well how long are you guys gonna wait to call your babies?
Trent, Sue: Six days.
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Originally Posted by virtualbong
If you really think she liked you and would want to see you again, I say call her sooner than later. I bet you'd get browny points if you told her you were going to DC for the weekend but wanted to call her to let her know you had a good time last weekend.
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Originally Posted by TLD
I'm sorry, but I have to disagree. There was a girl who told me to call her when I got home so she could know I got home alright. The girl was a non caller, but loved getting phone calls herself. I told her, I'll be ok, and I never called her. This girl kept asking me out after that just to see if I'd call, but I don't deal with non calling girls so I never went out with her again. The girl became more hungry for me to call because I didn't brownie points call her. My point is that if he calls her for brownie points, she won't bother with him as he looks like a pansy by doing that, but if he calls when he's ready to go, then he's got an honest shot with her.
Playing games is dumb, but you appear more arrogant than stupid. Only desperate women would chase after someone with such disinterest for so long.
I agree women should be equal players though. I guarantee you though that once people hit a certain point in their lives, all that game playing and macho-man kinda stuff is simply a turn-off and no one will bother chasing you around.
Just being yourself and reasonable will win you a lot more respect than trying to calculate some sort of formula for what to do next and when.
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Starting to lean towards just giving her a call back sometime next week... Around Thursday or something when I have some time to go out and see if she wants to get dinner or meet up at the bar we both apparently go to fairly often (which really makes me wonder why I haven't noticed her yet 
Beer googles last night????? 
I didnt drink much at all.... hrmmmm).
Beer googles last night????? I didnt drink much at all.... hrmmmm).
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Originally Posted by TLD
I'm sorry, but I have to disagree. There was a girl who told me to call her when I got home so she could know I got home alright. The girl was a non caller, but loved getting phone calls herself. I told her, I'll be ok, and I never called her. This girl kept asking me out after that just to see if I'd call, but I don't deal with non calling girls so I never went out with her again. The girl became more hungry for me to call because I didn't brownie points call her. My point is that if he calls her for brownie points, she won't bother with him as he looks like a pansy by doing that, but if he calls when he's ready to go, then he's got an honest shot with her.
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Originally Posted by Street Spirit
Wow! You da man!!! So... how many decent relationships have you had based on this theory again? Riiggghtt.
Playing games is dumb, but you appear more arrogant than stupid. Only desperate women would chase after someone with such disinterest for so long.
I agree women should be equal players though. I guarantee you though that once people hit a certain point in their lives, all that game playing and macho-man kinda stuff is simply a turn-off and no one will bother chasing you around.
Just being yourself and reasonable will win you a lot more respect than trying to calculate some sort of formula for what to do next and when.
Playing games is dumb, but you appear more arrogant than stupid. Only desperate women would chase after someone with such disinterest for so long.
I agree women should be equal players though. I guarantee you though that once people hit a certain point in their lives, all that game playing and macho-man kinda stuff is simply a turn-off and no one will bother chasing you around.
Just being yourself and reasonable will win you a lot more respect than trying to calculate some sort of formula for what to do next and when.
I hate games... It's not personality so if a girl wants to play games, well then find someone else.
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Originally Posted by Street Spirit
Wow! You da man!!! So... how many decent relationships have you had based on this theory again? Riiggghtt.
Playing games is dumb, but you appear more arrogant than stupid. Only desperate women would chase after someone with such disinterest for so long.
I agree women should be equal players though. I guarantee you though that once people hit a certain point in their lives, all that game playing and macho-man kinda stuff is simply a turn-off and no one will bother chasing you around.
Just being yourself and reasonable will win you a lot more respect than trying to calculate some sort of formula for what to do next and when.
Playing games is dumb, but you appear more arrogant than stupid. Only desperate women would chase after someone with such disinterest for so long.
I agree women should be equal players though. I guarantee you though that once people hit a certain point in their lives, all that game playing and macho-man kinda stuff is simply a turn-off and no one will bother chasing you around.
Just being yourself and reasonable will win you a lot more respect than trying to calculate some sort of formula for what to do next and when.
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Just call her when you get back around next Wed. Tell her that you were out of town this past weekend and you would like to hang out this weekend.
I wouldn't call her to make plans two weekends in advance.
I've called a girl a month later and even though she gave me some crap, she still came out.
I wouldn't call her to make plans two weekends in advance.
I've called a girl a month later and even though she gave me some crap, she still came out.
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Games ARE for children....If you're interested and you felt the same vibe while you were hanging out with her, then just call. There are no rules, but hollywood has made it seem there are. If you're gonna be out of then just call and say "hey, just wanted to say what up and tell you I had a great time, going on a business trip but would like to see you when I get back....etc, etc. ........" If she is interested she will definately appreciate a call like that.
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Originally Posted by phipark
Just call her when you get back around next Wed. Tell her that you were out of town this past weekend and you would like to hang out this weekend.
I wouldn't call her to make plans two weekends in advance.
I wouldn't call her to make plans two weekends in advance.
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Yeah so thanks for all the comments, definitely aids in making the decision. I am just going to call when I am back next week and see if she is willing to make plans and if so then cool, if not like I said no harm no foul.
I'll post an update most likely, not like I expect you to care, but might just be good as a future reference for future posts of the same type of situation.
I'll post an update most likely, not like I expect you to care, but might just be good as a future reference for future posts of the same type of situation.
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Originally Posted by furious1smitul
Yeah so thanks for all the comments, definitely aids in making the decision. I am just going to call when I am back next week and see if she is willing to make plans and if so then cool, if not like I said no harm no foul.
I'll post an update most likely, not like I expect you to care, but might just be good as a future reference for future posts of the same type of situation.
I'll post an update most likely, not like I expect you to care, but might just be good as a future reference for future posts of the same type of situation.
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Originally Posted by TLD
Good man. Think of it this way; if she blows you off because you didn't call early on, even if it's a so called courtesy call, she's probably like the attention whore dope that I never dated again. Does she also have your number? If she does, you definitely don't have to call right away because what's her excuse for not calling? If she doesn't have your number, then just wait until you come back because if you tell her you're going away and want to see her when you get back, that creates a week long waiting game for her and it's not worth it. Courtesy calls are for pussies.
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Originally Posted by moomaster_99
Do whatever you want.....just make sure you hit it...2 weeks or the boot thats my rule...
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I have to agree with TLD's philosophy here. Yes I understand the whole "if she's worth it, a nice girl will appreciate your interest."
But, assuming this girl is around your age, she might not be looking for a relationship right away, especially with a guy she hung out with for ONE night. A lot of girls that age still aren't exactly looking to find "mr. right" every night they go out and would get weirded out by a guy they just met giving them a courtesy call.
So is your goal to date this girl or just hit and
? You probably don't even know yet since you hardly know her, so get to know her in person and not on the phone
It's not playing games, it's called not being a needy, clingy, desparate-sounding Beta male.
But, assuming this girl is around your age, she might not be looking for a relationship right away, especially with a guy she hung out with for ONE night. A lot of girls that age still aren't exactly looking to find "mr. right" every night they go out and would get weirded out by a guy they just met giving them a courtesy call.
So is your goal to date this girl or just hit and
? You probably don't even know yet since you hardly know her, so get to know her in person and not on the phone It's not playing games, it's called not being a needy, clingy, desparate-sounding Beta male.
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Originally Posted by Mike97 3.0P
It's not playing games, it's called not being a needy, clingy, desparate-sounding Beta male.
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Originally Posted by Mike97 3.0P
I have to agree with TLD's philosophy here. Yes I understand the whole "if she's worth it, a nice girl will appreciate your interest."
But, assuming this girl is around your age, she might not be looking for a relationship right away, especially with a guy she hung out with for ONE night. A lot of girls that age still aren't exactly looking to find "mr. right" every night they go out and would get weirded out by a guy they just met giving them a courtesy call.
So is your goal to date this girl or just hit and ? You probably don't even know yet since you hardly know her, so get to know her in person and not on the phone
It's not playing games, it's called not being a needy, clingy, desparate-sounding Beta male.
But, assuming this girl is around your age, she might not be looking for a relationship right away, especially with a guy she hung out with for ONE night. A lot of girls that age still aren't exactly looking to find "mr. right" every night they go out and would get weirded out by a guy they just met giving them a courtesy call.
So is your goal to date this girl or just hit and
? You probably don't even know yet since you hardly know her, so get to know her in person and not on the phone It's not playing games, it's called not being a needy, clingy, desparate-sounding Beta male.
Yeah I don't know, I just let things happen, no pre-conceived notions about where I want to be with a girl this early, that's like 3-4 months down the road.
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Originally Posted by TLD
HAHAHAHA! Mike, what ever happened to that gf and her friend you wanted to do? Did you ever wind up hitting the friend?
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