Well, I've been seeing this girl now for about 3 weeks. In that three weeks, we have NOT spent 3 nights together, every other night, we have.

I'm thinking to ask her what she is looking for, to get an idea on that, but I think it may be too early. In fact, the only reason I am thinking to bring it up, is that we have ben spending so much time together. What do you all think? I defeinitely see myself with her...she's awesome. At this point, I only want to know what she is looking for, and if there is a possibility there for something more.

Do I ask that, or just keep doing what I'm doing and see where it goes? I have been bitten in the ass by not having the talk before, so I want to make sure to have it, but at the right time.

 

I had the talk with the girlfriend after three weeks. It just kinda came up because of some comment I made. She told me that we needed more time together first. We became a couple by the end of the next week. I found out today that she saw the possiblity of us together from very early on.

Just bring it up when it feels right to you and see where it goes. What have you got to loose? You may get what you want, you may have to wait, or maybe she sees no possibility and you'd be better off knowing early.

I'm a novice at dating and relationships, but there's my

 

Don't do it.

It's only 3 weeks...

 

 

So when then?

 

First of all you need to forget about " i want a relationship with her" and just get to know her alot better, chics are always great within the 1st few weeks, it can be exciting times, interesting sex but yet and 6months down the road you find out shes the worst mismake.......

You want to ask her indirectly like..... Where does she see herself in 5years time, what her hopes and dreams are, rememeber woman like to talk about themself's, and from there play into it.... if shes on the same wavelenght as you, she will joke about how she could see you been in her life and i'd always go ..."oh really thats and interesting thought" and she would say why is that... your reply : because i was thinking the same thing...... go for her hand give it alittle rub and BINGO your getting laid tonight .. LOL ..

Every situation is different but thats just example, there is Lots of different ways you can find out, what her intentions are.

Sounds like your of to a good start....

 

Asking her makes you look like a big pussy, it shows your insecurity with yourself, with her and with the two of you together. Make her come to you, or god forbid if you two are to stay together your life is going to be a living hell because she can control you and she knows it.

 

LOL, like F900 said. Play to win, not play to get owned.

 

I think that's an excellent approach, actually. I had one like that...frist 6 weeks were incredible (still the best sex I've ever had) but after a few months started to catch her in little lies, that got bigger and bigger. She ended up being definitely NOT the one...though I sure do wish for one last bang from time to time...*sigh*

 

I did anyway

 

Don't blame me in 9months ...

 

Get wasted and bang her.

 

yea dont do it, i did and it was a mistake

 

I say it really depends what you are looking for. If your looking to get serious and settle down, then it is pointless to try and make it work with a girl that is not ready and just looking to get down and party. Nothing wrong with continuing to see her, but atleast you know it is not going to go where you want it to. This way you can also keep seeing her and make a move for another girl.