What would you do if you spouse/significant other told you that they love you but they are not in love with you?

 

unfortunately its over, I don't love you, but can we be fuck buddy's. Is exact what a guy means by this. Either that or he has moved on, and you need to do the same because you nag way to much

 

Hard to put spouse and signicant other together there....If it's a spouse, then there are major issues....For a s.o., it can be fixed.

 

Thanks guys for the response

 

Divorce/leave them

 

Hate to say it, but the guys are right. I've been there myself. If it's a bf/gf relationship, it may mean that the person is not ready to commit, but if it's a spouse, the love is gone and it's pretty much over...

 

I'd take it as they really care about you and you are important to them, but they don't want to be with you as your other half. And yea, that can put a damper on things.

Mike

 

i would say no matter the relationship is over. i think that once that "love" is gone it pretty much wont come back. people are usally over their relationships at that point and are just trying to let the other know without trying to hurt their said feelings. thats just my twocents

 

That will be a sign that you need to split up.

 

First...shouts Out To Da Dst From A Down South Bruh!

Second, True Love Is Like A Scale...it Is Truly Never Balanced...those Who Love You The Most Understand This And Know That Being "in Love" Means Sometimes You Will Be On The Lower End Of The Scale And Sometimes The High..or Somewhere Inbetween...but Being Out Of Love Means For Reasons Unknown...their Heart Has Moved On... I Have Been There Before On Both Sides Of Th Coin...neither Is Good...

 

Were they ever IN LOVE with you before saying this? If so then its time to move on.

If they never said they were IN LOVE with you then i think you just need to give it time. Cant rush it.

If its a spouse then you have major issues.

 

That he admires your qualities and thinks you'll be a great partner....for someone else. And he wishes you the best of luck.

 

Probably time to move on.

 

Usually means they have found someone else and would rather be with the other person..

In any case, it's time to move on.

 

If I were female, I'd sleep around with all the guys on an internet car forum to wreak my revenge, especially Minch.

Since I am male, I'd take that as a more advanced version of the "I just want to be friends" speech and move to dissolve the relationship.

 

I'd get her a CAT scan ASAP.

 

I take the question personally - as in what would "I" do.

I would be crushed. I really love my GF, and the "M" word has been brought up on several occasions. We're both not ready for it, but if she told me that she was no longer in love with me I'd have to do some serious introspection on what is wrong with me. Yes - I said it - I'd blame myself for her change of heart (even if it wasn't me at fault).

 

Nice.