What are you getting your S.O. for Xmas? Or if you don't know yet, how much are you willing to spend?

Also, please state how long the two of you have been seeing each other...I'm kinda curious.

For me, I know it sounds crazy, but I'm about to spend close to $200 on a girl I've been seeing for only a month. Either Ipod Nano or this star pendant...either one, I know she'd be really happy. I must admit that I'm having slight hesitation in spending that much....but I dunno. I really like her. I honestly don't know what else to get her.

 

Be careful you don't spend too much. If she gets you something small, she might feel guilty about it. Or she might think you're taking the relationship more seriously than she is. Or she could love it.

 

Interesting post, I was thinking of posting the same thing myself... I am in the same boat, have been seeing the girl for less then a month, the other thing is her birthday is the 18th, not to mention I am jewish - though I do buy Christmas presents for those who I care about who celebrate Christmas. To further complicate things I make a LOT more money then her, though I don't think she knows this yet. I was thinking a nice arrangment of flowers for her birthday and dinner, not over the top, or that expensive and I know she will like it. Christmas I would like to get something more personal, but nothing too expensive... what to do

 

I wouldn't spend that much on a new partner. It's all about getting to know each other in the beginning stages. Just enjoy it. If you want to celebrate the holidays together, get something reasonably priced and personal. It's not about spending a ton of money; it's the thought and gesture.

 

Screw gift-giving that early in a relationship. Talk to her and agree on a "cap" (let's say $50 or so) and go from there. I made that mistake in college once. I got her a snowboard set-up ($400 including board, bindings, boots) because she kept hinting that she wanted to learn. What did she get me? $50 worth of DVD's, which is great and all but the ratio was more than a little skewed. Of course, she felt guilty and a little embarrassed about giving me a such an inexpensive (yet thoughtful) gift and the only way she thought she could make up for it was buying a couple 10-day passes for Boreal resort ($99 each) and also turning up the intensity and frequency of the BJs.

So on second thought, all's well that ends well ... BUT if I could do it again, I would save some dough by negotiating better terms ($50 cap). In that way, you guys would have be more creative than look for something expensive.

 

Girlfriend wants a red 3/4 length pea coat. thank god i can't find one anywhere. Run a few hundred although I've been with her for over 3 years. Probably wind up getting her a camera.

 

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You're not looking very hard!! And that's with under two mins of searching, and doesn't even include all of the possibilities!!

Don't worry, I won't tell her you didn't look hard enough!

 

If you have the money and really like her, then go ahead and spend it on the Ipod or pendent. If you're strapped for cash, I definately agree you both should agree on a cap for how much you can spend.

 

How about an IPOD pendant?

 

Effing Apple is taking over the world. Jewelry can't be far behind.

 

I think they call those "Shuffles"!

 

If I was in that position I would get an inexpensive tangible gift but treat her to a date that is several times more expensive than we might typically go and do on a date. That way you are celebrating the holiday together rather than just giving her something.

Now what the date would actually be is really something I can't speak to cause people are so varied in their personal taste, but "nice " restaurant vs chili's and a symphony/play vs movie is kind what I was thinking.

And if the chick would remotely be into ballet, trying to find a Nutcracker performance is always a nice idea, a lot of chicks dig that one.

 

Can't go wrong wit Tiffany's...

 

For someone you've known less than a month?!? Wow... Then what do you get her next year if you remain a couple?

EDIT: Let me just add that I'd feel a little awkward and/or creeped out if someone I've known for 3-4 weeks got me jewelery. Everyone's different though.

 

Well I wouldn't look to spend so much on someone I just met, but he said he was gonna spend around $200...sooo

 

I began dating my girlfriend about 3 months ago. We decided on going on a mini vacation to a bed and breakfast rather than get each other gifts.

 

Xmas present is a trip to California to visit her friends

 

I've been with my girl for over 9 months now...and I bought her a Michael Kors purse for her B-day (Dec. 13th). There is a cool ring at Movado for like $350 or so....I think she is getting me XBOX 360.

 

8 years, california trip.......... total cost less than $1000

 

holy hell.

 

also agree on a cap, but if you want to spend that much, that's totally up to you. personally, i didn't want to spend that much on my gf when we first started dating because i was afraid the price can only go up after that on future gifts.

our first xmas was after about 3 months of dating. i got her perfume that she'd been wanting for a long time and some dvds.

we've been together for just over 2 years now. i'm thinking about getting her a digital camera.

 

I got her a 2.2 ct diamond ring. it has one solitary 1.5 ct heart shape diamond with two .35 ct diamonds on each side.

 

I agree, which is why I don't want to spend much, its not that I don't care or can't afford it. I don't want to give the wrong impression or lead on that I have a lot more money then her, I'd rather get to know her better before she finds out.

So what are good ideas for inexpensive(under $100) gifts?

 

I'm going with the Pink Ipod Nano!! That and I notice she wants these pink PJ's out of the Victoria Secret category for like 35 or 39.

Can you tell my g/f loves pink?

 

$200 at tiffanys will get you a silver chain

 

With me and the bf it's kinda hard at the moment. We've been dating for about 2 1/2 years. He has been working for a year and a half and I'm just about to graduate college so he has money and I'm dead broke. I could only afford to spend about $65-70 on him this xmas but I would have loved to be able to do more. (He knows 1 of his gifts but i cant say the other bc he secretly stalks my posts ) So, I'm pretty sure our presents will differ in price but I think he understands that I'll be able to do more once I get a j-o-b.


oh, and IMO, never get a girl jewelry who you've known for a month. Of course, any girl loves getting jewelry but, at that stage, it would really freak me out

 

Thats why we set spending limits.

 

i spent a pretty dine every xmas for the 2 yrs iv been with my grl. this is our 3rd xmas together and we spend about the same on each other. of course we dont talk about $$ since its pretty tacky. each xmas we both prob spend $800-1050. my jeweler loves me each xmas. lol

 

Nah there's a bunch of nice things for around that price...nothin too fancy but a lot of their popular things aren't too ridiculous

 

Been dating just over 2 months and I have no clue what to get her. I really don't even know what she like's since we don't have that much in common and we don't see each other as much as normal dating couples would (because of work/school) I'm screwed.

 

Holy hell I need to get better at the internet.

 

Luckily i dont have a G/F.. So X-MAS is going to my to my black bish Type-S

LOL

good luck guys..

 

Dude ... I am in the same freakin' boat. B'day on the 16th ... then X-mas. Big difference is that I've been dating the same girl for over 3 years so I have to be a little more generous than yourself.

I have mitigated myself by helping out on a large % of her new car (2007 TSX AT) but still ... I have to give her something. Help a brother out with (small but practical) ideas!

 

I'm getting her an iPod Nano and probably some things from Victoria's Secret.

Been together for 1 year.

 

why are you dating her then?

 

I got my wife pregnant. The gift that keeps on giving.

 

Im sure she will appreciate all the vomit....

 

Save you the big chunks?

 

But I saved enough from my son....

 

Same predicament here. My bf's birthday is on January so I'm giving him a bunch of stuff for Christmas (Ravens jersey, a couple of shirts, book, toy, personalized xmas tree ornament, box of chocolates) and an LCD HDTV for his birthday to replace his busted bedroom tv.

How about treating your girl to a spa, performance arts event (theater, ballet, etc.), and dinner on her birthday? Throw in some nice pendant or cashmere scarf if you want. She'll like that.